Originally posted by: jdronamraju
Lovely Post, Shailee... Thanks for doing this..
Let me say this upfront before I get barraged with this.. Yes, Nobody made Arjun take the last step to marry Ovi, he could have said no. Yes, he could have not stayed with Ovi, but he did..Yes, he could hav applied for divorce, yet he stayed..and the list goes on and on..
But, he did all this and stuck to what he did. He might have done this for Purvi and his blind love for that girl, but once he did it, he has been trying hard to cope up with situation and doing the best he can. Yes, he took time to get used to all this, but who in his position will not? Did he promise Ovi a lifetime of love in this deal? NO, Absolutely not ! Even if it was at Purvi's behest, he has been trying hard to live a normal life with her. What has he got from all this? A child (???)... An Alchoholic wife, who rants, raves and shrieks at every opportunity she gets? A lifetime of misery, unhappiness !
Among the two women in his life, one has caused havoc with his life and left him and the other one is draining the life out of him... Archana does not even count for me in this regard. She is the last person who should be advising him around..
PURVI: The person I blame the most for the situation he is in is Purvi. Arjun is basically an honest, good and a nice man. He has not had much love in his life, and when he fell in love, he thought Purvi was IT, changed his entire world for her, he put his heart, mind and soul in her hands and what did he get from her in return? This life of misery, unhappiness and despair that she has subjected him to? All she thought of was what she wanted for her mother and whatever. So, what if she sacrificed her love for him?. She still was left with the happiness that she made her mother happy. What did he get from her? Absolutely nothing !! She knew his weakness was his love for her and exploited it to the fullest. Used it for her own purpose every time. Recently, she asked him to have a married life with Ovi, for what? So that everyone does not blame her anymore for Ovi's psychotic condition... What kind of a love is this? That you dont give a thought for his happiness, joy or even his life even for a second? He gave up his happiness, and has done everything she said, and what did she do..She has not even spared a thought to let him know that she is having his child..She is even prepared to deprive his child of his/her own father...He is the father of the child, and he does not even know it !!! She does not spare a thought to him when the baby kicked? She shares it with another guy?? Does he deserve this from Purvi???
OVI: This is one female who will not live happily nor will let him live happily. She has doomed him to misery for the rest of his life if he is stuck with her that long. For all her claims of endless love for Arjun, none of her actions reflect that. Her main focus is herself and her wants. She is like this petulant child, who throw their tantrums and do not rest until they get what they wanted. But, after getting the toy, there is absolutely no value to it and treat it like junk. That is exactly, what Ovi does iwth Arjun now. She knew what she was getting into, and that was a loveless marriage, he told her so and she was ok with that. If she denies not knowing it, she is a fool for it. She even ventures to buy him from Purvi first, if that is not callous, what is? Is that the value she has for him?All she cared about was getting her happiness, irrespective of the damage she would do to his life. Well, she got him now.So, what has she done for him? Instead of trying to make the best of the situation and get the marriage working, by giving him the help he asked for, she turns into this vindictive shrew who taunts him at every turn, throws Purvi's name at him, making him think about her all the time. Does she not realize this action alone, will cause him to despair more of his lost love? Who am I expecting brains from? This crazed, obsessed, spoilt brat of a wife? For all the love she claims, she does not care a pin for his child ! what kind of love is that? Arjun loves his unborn child and is turning the world around to save the baby, and what is she doing? She scorns at his efforts and taunts him for it? Could she not have used the baby, as her dear Aaji suggested, to mend fences? She is pushing him further and further away...The harder he tries, it looks like she is harder to please.
Archana: She mutely listens to her daughter admitting drinking 'occasional' glasses of wine, knows of her wrong doings, but does not do anything about it. She is as bad as Manav. Encourage the brat and know tows to her doings. But, she has the gall today to lecture Arjun on how to take care of her darling daughter and give sermons on how to handle her !! Apne ghar ko sudharo first !! Just because he respects her and listens to her, she is lecturing him. I dare her to say the same to Ovi, and then will applaud her motherliness. If she was the right parent, she should correct her first and get her on the right track... Such useless parents they are,both Manav and Archana.. So, Archanaji, lay off our boy !!!
If it was left up to me, as I said before somewhere, I would drag the boy away from this crazy world of the Deshmukh gals and send him away to Siberia ! Atleast there, the crazy chic with all her nakhras will not go, and the other one wont bother in fear of the crazy chic's happiness.. Atleast, that way he finds some happiness !!
It does NOT look like anyone is going to give him anything but misery !! That is the saddest part of his life after giving all of himself to one and all ...and he does NOT deserve this !!
