Purvi was wrong today - Page 4

Originally posted by: sashashyam

This is not a valid controversy. Purvi has gone thru hell during the party, and watched the man who was promising her eternal togetherness just minutes earlier, get betrothed to another girl, and she probably feels as if the sky had fallen on her head. On top of all this, she cannot even get away and weep her heart out in peace, but has to listen to Ovi's gushing about Arjun and her 'childhood' love for him, and pose for the photo on top of everything else.

Then there is the other track - the fact that Archana and her aaji both kept from her the fact that Tej was Archana's daughter. She feels betrayed by all her 'apne', and what she says about Arjun is the saddest of all, that he has now taken away from her every happy memory of her love for him. She feels abandoned and let down by all those she loves, and there seems to be darkness everywhere.

Under these circumstances, what do you expect her to do? Arjun is the one who has hurt her the most, and he is the only one at hand, so she vents all her fury on him. I do not see what is wrong with her slapping him - it is a catharsis of sorts, and has nothing to do with her loving him. It just shows that Purvi is hot blooded and quick to anger, and not a silent sufferer, that is all. But then we knew this already; she is quite aggressive whenever there is a spat, and this is the mother of all spats! Arjun sees the slap for what it is and does not give it a second thought.

Nor does Purvi mean what she says when she accuses Arjun of not loving her and never having intended to talk to his father. She knows that what she says is not true, but in the white heat of anger, she says it anyway. By the time she is home, she is no longer questioning his love, when she says that one daughter cannot selfishly ruin the happiness of another daughter (of Archana's). She is here obviously taking it for granted that Arjun loves her and, left to himself, will marry only her.

On a lighter note, I was rather impressed with the slap. Excellent technique: a nice swing and follow through, and bang on target! The sound effects were perfect as well. It would have been messy if she had ended up hitting his nose and making it bleed. But that might have been nice too, for one can bet that she would have forgotten all her rage in her haste to stanch the bleeding and patch him up!

In fact the best tactic for Arjun now would be to have a neatly calibrated accident, not fatal of course, or permanently damaging, but with enough of blood and bandages. In the ICU, it would work wonders!

Shyamala B.Cowsik

first of all who is against purvi and think that she not love him and and ovi realy love him.

Shyamala, right on the mark, "By the time she is home, she is no longer questioning his love, when she says that one daughter cannot selfishly ruin the happiness of another daughter (of Archana's). She is here obviously taking it for granted that Arjun loves her and, left to himself, will marry only her."

Yes, when Purvi says that she already knows what Arjun told her is the truth. When she tells him I don't know which one of us is wrong she already has forgiven him for his trespasses, being in love makes you more prone to blindly trust your loved one 😃 She has already realized that even though he has wronged her, he probably did the right thing in not exposing everything at the last juncture. Her izzat would have been blown to pieces if he had brought up her name. Arjun's mistake was in thinking consciously of his dad's izzat and Ovi's but not mentioning Purvi's even to himself.

But then when you love someone, protecting them is second nature and as Arjun tries to reassure her he would never have let any beinaam fall upon her. Also probably when you are in love, you tend to believe your loved one knows your intentions and will forgive you regardless. It is perhaps with this assurance that Arjun took the step he took, he did not have time to logically think through but made an instinctive decision. He is right in a sense, Purvi will forgive him but he has missed the boat, at least this boat for now.
Here I am already beginning to make excuses for the guy when all I could think of yesterday was ways that Purvi could be avenged.
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Originally posted by: sashashyam

Loveanime, I agree completely with you, and the quotation from HH the Dalai Lama (whom I had the great privilege of looking after in the early 1990s, when I was in the Ministry of External Affairs , which takes care of all his affairs in India, and in particular his security) sums up perfectly what you wanted to say.

Ovi is shallow and self-centred, and she totally lacks the quick empathy for others that Teju has. Even Manav can spot Arjun's restlessness but she cannot. Any girl who loves a man can sense it very easily when something is this wrong. Teju, who is far more warm-hearted and generous and giving, would have cottoned on to it in an instant.

Finally, the fault is all DK's; it is he who starts off all this tamasha of a 'surprise' for Arjun by assuring Ovi - who till then has strictly low level expectations from Arjun - that he misses her a lot and has started loving her.

And as for whether the Arjun-Purvi love might not be a passing phase, the agonies they both go thru each for the other is part proof, and by far the larger part. The other, and clinching part of the proof is that the CVs have so decreed it, and planted the two of them slap bang in the middle of the opening poster for each episode! As the Oracle has spoken, this cannot be questioned!!

Shyamala B.Cowsik

QUOTE=loveanime]

Forget about everyone but what are we supposed to feel for Ovi. If we are completely honest I think Ovi can sense that Arjun doesn't love her but still wants to marry him, I like to believe women are good at sensing these things. In real life I had a friend who loved another but she new that it would never work out, that he would never love her the way she needed to be loved or deserve to be loved. The dignity in the way she handled the whole thing was amazing, he is married to someone else now and she has accepted it. Mind you she loved him for years too so it wasn't a crush. I respect Ovi's love that is not the issue here it is what she did with it. From the first scene to the last scene I have seen of her, it has been all about me me me what I want, I think her need to quit her job to be with Arjun too was more to do with her needs than his. In a relationship of mutual consent it is about we not me. I would feel more sympathy for this character if she had more brains and guts unfortunately. Sensible girls are not as clueless as she is, and this has nothing to do with her materialistic nature. Hell I am materialistic most people are does that make us deserve less, I will never say no to diamonds. No being materialistic and squirmy of slums does not make us evil or useless or hateful or undeserving. Ovi deserves the best but that is for her to know, by settling for a man who doesn't love her it is like she is giving up on life and scared of losing, girl wake uppp life isn't that hopeless. She should have more belief in herself. The issue with Ovi is lack of self respect and awareness of what is going on around her. That is why I feel only pity for her, not sadness or empathy.

As the great Dalai Lama once said Love and Attachment are not the same. Love is hope, is selfless and fearless. Attachment is filled with fear and it manifests in ourselves in negative emotions. So does Ovi love Arjun probably not. She is only attached to him like many of us are in our relationships.

In bold -- good one!!🤣 ..

Originally posted by: sashashyam

On a lighter note, I was rather impressed with the slap. Excellent technique: a nice swing and follow through, and bang on target! The sound effects were perfect as well. It would have been messy if she had ended up hitting his nose and making it bleed. But that might have been nice too, for one can bet that she would have forgotten all her rage in her haste to stanch the bleeding and patch him up!

^^^^^^ Lord have mercy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤪

i dnt think purvi was wrong in slapping arjun...
he jst got engaged to another girl..in front f d girl he loved n promised to marry her...
he actually betrayed her...
obviously she has d right to get angry ..it wud have been so difficult for her to see love of her life getting engaged to someone else...

if arjun was also in her place he wud have done d same thing...
how cud she relax in dat situation n gave him a chance to explain ..she was feeling dat he was jst playing wid her...
n arjun -purvi relations is jst new..purvi doesn't know arjun dat much dat she can blindly trust him...

In anger one does/says things that they regret later. Purvi was hurt she felt betrayed cheated and she had reasons. On one side Arjun the man she loves who promised to be with her life long was getting engaged to other girl in front of her eyes on other side Archana/Sulochna hided truth about Tej being Archana's daughter. In matter of few minutes her world came crushing down. Purvi found out Arjun was going to get engaged to Ovi once he went back to Canada, saw similar bangles he gifted her, Ovi loving Arjun since childhood. Arjun never wanted to hurt Purvi but he was reason for her tears for her pain. Eventhough Purvi is angry with Arjun somewhere she knows Arjun will never do anything to hurt her. After the kiss incident Purvi could not sleep at night thinking how Arjun wanted once chance to explain his side but she didn't allow him. Once her anger comes down she would realize she has to stop Arjun from telling Ovi and others truth about them.

We have seen how Ovi had reacted in the past when she saw Arjun with other girl in restaurant she announced they are getting engaged or when she heard Arjun dropped Purvi she asked Tej to check on Arjun. Ovi loves Arjun. It will be difficult for her and she will go through lot of pain when she finds out Arjun doesn't love her. Just because she is rich, loves dressing up that doesn't mean she doesn't have right to love she does and deserves someone who loves her.

Arjun never thought he would fall in love with anyone but he did. Purvi changed him his way of thinking. Purvi never thought about falling in love for her love can happen after marriage. They were placed in each other's path by destiny and only time will tell where destiny takes them from here.

I remember during Maha Shivratri Ovi asked for Arjun's happiness said no matter how far he is from her he always has place for himself in her heart her happiness lies in his happiness and success. We haven't seen much about Ovi yet. Ovi can be a surprise package. We never know she might handle this sensitive issue in a mature way. How she deals with the truth needs to be seen.

Originally posted by: *Shruti*

In anger one does/says things that they regret later. Purvi was hurt she felt betrayed cheated and she had reasons. On one side Arjun the man she loves who promised to be with her life long was getting engaged to other girl in front of her eyes on other side Archana/Sulochna hided truth about Tej being Archana's daughter. In matter of few minutes her world came crushing down. Purvi found out Arjun was going to get engaged to Ovi once he went back to Canada, saw similar bangles he gifted her, Ovi loving Arjun since childhood. Arjun never wanted to hurt Purvi but he was reason for her tears for her pain. Eventhough Purvi is angry with Arjun somewhere she knows Arjun will never do anything to hurt her. After the kiss incident Purvi could not sleep at night thinking how Arjun wanted once chance to explain his side but she didn't allow him. Once her anger comes down she would realize she has to stop Arjun from telling Ovi and others truth about them.

We have seen how Ovi had reacted in the past when she saw Arjun with other girl in restaurant she announced they are getting engaged or when she heard Arjun dropped Purvi she asked Tej to check on Arjun. Ovi loves Arjun. It will be difficult for her and she will go through lot of pain when she finds out Arjun doesn't love her. Just because she is rich, loves dressing up that doesn't mean she doesn't have right to love she does and deserves someone who loves her.

Arjun never thought he would fall in love with anyone but he did. Purvi changed him his way of thinking. Purvi never thought about falling in love for her love can happen after marriage. They were placed in each other's path by destiny and only time will tell where destiny takes them from here.

I remember during Maha Shivratri Ovi asked for Arjun's happiness said no matter how far he is from her he always has place for himself in her heart her happiness lies in his happiness and success. We haven't seen much about Ovi yet. Ovi can be a surprise package. We never know she might handle this sensitive issue in a mature way. How she deals with the truth needs to be seen.

Shruti, in Ovi's defense, she is after all Archana's (and as an after thought😉, Manav's) daughter. If she is anything like Tej, she has to be good. She may be an air-head, a little snooty perhaps but innately good. Arjun likes her as a friend and agreed to marry her, that should say something about her, Arjun is basically a nice guy and he knows Ovi well so he wouldn't have agreed to marry her if she was awful. So let us hope she is a "nice" surprise unlike the surprise thrust upon Arjun at the party.