Kool Comments : Dharmesh issue Edited note pg 15 - Page 7

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

You mean to say the children who grow up and counter question the single parents who raised them and walk off to the parent who clearly earns MORE MONEY so they can get a better future prospect or education are NOT PROPERLY RAISED and HENCE THE FAULT of the MOTHERS who raised them ? How did you come to this conclusion caspie and on what basis ?

by no means am i saying that kids that question parents are not properly raised. if and when the child grows up and wants to leave Vaishu then so be it. my point was that if the child is raised properly he or she will see the reason behind Vaishus decision.

I find this conclusion of yours naive and inexperienced . Is there any way of knowing how your child will turn out as an individual when he or she enters youth ? Look at Sulochana's two daughters ........Archana and Varsha . While Archana adjusts in every walk of life , Varsha rebels in every event and even aborted the child on a whim or fit of anger . Were they sULO's famous sANSKAARS ? I dont think so .........coz Sulo SLAPPED her hard . She abhorred her daughter's deed .

Kools, i am young and inexperienced, no doubt about it. But like you point it out there is no way of knowing how the child will turn out...then what is the point of worry about how it will behave. Since you brought up Archana and Varsha, well what about Dharmu? he is a bad apple form good parents....Archu and Varsha maybe whatever but they felt remorse for what they did. Dharmu doesn't care period, and this is the difference between Sulo's kids and Dharmu.

the only point i wanted to make was that of Vaishu and her child. it is wrong of us to speculate what will happen in terms of the unborn child. ultimately it will be Vaishu's call. the child as of right now has will not be questioning her.

The reality of life is CHILDREN r individuals in their OWN RIGHT and don't necessarily behave or react tHE WAY U EXPECT THEM TO . It SHOCKS parents many many times .........thats the tragedy of the parents all over the world . They naively and proudly believe AFTER ALL I RAISED HIM , HE CAN NEVER DO THIS . and Lo behold , the boy marries and starts listening to a woman who never ever raised him but comes from a totally different background .........HIS WIFE . Or a daughter may suddenly start EXPRESSING HERSELF by getting various TATTOOS and wearing short skirts and insist on PARTYING although the mom is simple and traditional ....why ???Coz she meets such a group in school and forgets all her mom's ainstakingly taught sanskaars by geting brainwashed . She then turns and tells mom , THEY ANYWAY STIFLED ME .
yes children are individuals, but then so is Vaishali. She has the right to make her decision, right now for herself and her child...hopefully it will be a good one. yes she has very few options but its not like she doesn't have any, and i hope the CVs don't reduce her to the wife that accepts thing lying down.

The boy I mentioned was very nice and he even loved his mom . She had raised him with solid middle class values . But he wanted to be a doctor .His Dad cud pay his hefty fees ........so he apologised to his mom and went straight to his Dad . HIs priority in life was becoming a DOCTOR . He felt his Moms personal fight with his DAD shud nOT HAMPER his future . The Mom did NOT talk to his DAD and they had a bitter divorce coz he left her for another younger woman . She had refused to take a single penny from him out of pride as she had a job .
Well kids have a mind of their own no doubt. but since the child went to the father for help than its great, it was the child's decision. if VAishu's kid decides he wants the money then he can go to his father...Vaishu is no way obligated to ask Dharmu for help unless she wants to. Why worry about the behavior of an unborn child now? Vaishu's job is to give it all in her power to the child, and if it means without Dharmu then thats her call, and she should have a plan.

Was that boy wrong ? I dont think so . Evaluate . It was HIS LIFE as against his mom's personal principles which were part of HER LIFE .HIS LIFE and HER LIFE cannot be the same .

To each their own, but that did not mean the mother should beg on the child's behalf. If Vaishu wants to eradicate Dharmu out of her life then that is her choice to make. Maybe she feels this is the best punishment for Dharmu.

Originally posted by: anu rulz

kools very well put points..its not mercenary to sue the bigamist for child-support,its pure practicality..bt of course the Ks never do anything which is not criminally stupid so am sure it will not happen..i can understand vaishu's helplessness bt atleast she had the sight to WANT to get dharmu punished instead of waiting for the lightning of God's wrath to fall on him..(which btw happens too late or not at all in real life)

can i say i found archu real annoying wid her "yeh kya kar rahi hai vaishu" speech wen vaishu was snapping her MS?pray holy lady what is the girl supposed to do?sit wid tht MS and sindoor all her life crying over wht happened bt be all sati-savitri despite the utter betrayal she faced?why on earth does she give such ridiculous advice ALL the time i do not understand?when its a discussion in family abt solutions she had not a single piece of dialogue bt wen it comes to utter impractical speeches she jumps to the fore..am really sorry abt my harsh words to all the archu fans bt she pissed me off yest totally..even wid sulo,i was hoping for atleast a verbal lashing bt what came out was a tearful complaint..and was squashed down again by utter flimsy excuse of the Godforsaken asthma attack..which btw dint even make a headway wen the news came to sulo in such a harsh manner..moms are strong people..how abt respecting tht for a change and doing sumthng sensible,or atleast letting other people do sumthng sensible..and again,all this was over an ASTHMA attack..not a cardiac arrest which archu herself caused to her father and inspite tht had gone running to rasika of all people to get manav released..so her love for manav is an excuse for all the attacks in the world bt vaishu's life crashing arnd her is not reason for her to go to her mother..who the hell is archu to come btwn vaishu and her mother?who made her the queen of the world to make ridiculous decisions and thn shove it down everyone else's throats?she singlehandedly ruined her own life..did she care to bother abt what others wanted?thn y on earth shud varsha and vaishu NOT make their own decisions?they have as much rights as archu to run their own lives wid their OWN decisions..varsha goes and shares her feelings to her mum so she is the bad girl..vaishu cnt say anything to her mother when she probably needs her mother the most..why,i ask..madhuri was being ordered to go back to pune or hell just so tht her spoilt brat dint see madhuri's face..now suddenly madhuri is a confidante..come on creatives,do ur leading lady a favour and STOP making her such a hypocrite..all of us liked the couple bt now everything likeable abt manav and archana is being sucked out..everytime they say or do sumthng annoys me outright..

Originally posted by: zaara10

I agree 100% on all ur points. Hit dharmu where it hurts-- his wallet. Vaishu needs to fight for what is owed to her and her child. Sitting around expecting others to pick up the pieces is not the solution. I hope the cvs don't try a secretly rich shibu rescuing v track... Also during the whole confrontation epis I kept thinking, where's the big asthma attack now?? Is this the way they wanted sulo to find out? Nice job arman. And y didn't sulo giv d a classic slap?? She only saves those for manav? Anyway, just wanted to say I agree w/ u that vaish should be practical and financially punishing dharmu is not losing self respect.