Kool Comments : Feb 26 - Page 10

Originally posted by: goblue

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Thanks Shraddha, He is fine now ie he is home, can move about in the house. has vision issues and many many mood swings, again all due to the hemmoraging in the brain which eventually was contained. He loves cricket so I am hoping that the world cup will bring cheer.

Take care.. Anjali

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

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1] He shud NOT take Archu with him but go alone .......INDEPENDENTLY is my demand , suggestion , whatever

I would like that also but I don't think that will happen ...TRPs problem again ...They will bring Archu because she will be told to take care of sachu as savita is not capable of doing so .....

3] I wanted Vaishu OUT so ARMAN cud have marital bliss

Vaishu is gettign on my nerves ..I used to love this character but then they started destroying it , first she was horrible to sister and jeeju and now she is just neither here nor there...She is boring ..Everytime manav wants to do something , she knocks and spoils the mood .....😡

She is least bothered about her own problems or even her baby .Not once ( since she has come to stay at Archu's ) she has said , I need to see a doctor or get the baby checked up etc etc .....

4] I wanted him not to praise Archu on Moms face as it drives her crazy but to do duty and come back

Agree ..completely

5] Now in this whole thing why bring this that UNLESS u like my spouse I wont even do my dUTies , fails me , whats so terrible about my thought process I dont understand

If you are asking me , then perhaps I would say , go a little easy on Manav ....He too has suffered a lot .Even though he too has made terrible mistakes ..He is human and was driven up the wall by his mother ...

believe me he will always be there for her .He loves his mother way too much .He was hurting so bad for beign saying those words to her ....Both mother and son have hurt each other ....

At one point I hope they hug and make up and start respecting each other again and take a fresh start in life ....

But of course the choice is yours ....You have a point of view and a strong one and there are members out there who see things from that point of view ....so it's OK ...

We Archu fans should be hating Manav forever after the way he behaved on the divorce day .......me and GM had decided that we would hate him forever and he became our no. 1 villian of the show that day , we were begging for another lead for Archana .Somewhere we wil lalways be scared ofManav when he goes on hsi guilt trips ...

...But time passed and now we like him a lot ....

What's the point of looking back and get angry ....what he is doing now is good enough ...

6] I even gave kudos to Archna and said SHE is blameless .So Im like HUH ?????

Originally posted by: tiya229

i havent watched the episode yet, but read Tanyaz wonderfully detailed update.

i am ANGRY at manav. he is mad that his mom cant accept archana. but HAS he DONE anything to put archana in a postive light? no. he has FLUNG archana's goodness (which does more harm) in SAVITA's face.

BUT my question is savita's accepting of archana going to MAKE everything ALRIGHT?? is manav's love for his mom DEPENDENT of her acceptance of archana??? if then WHAT kind of LOVE is that???

i am deeply hurt, angry and upset at cvs for showing manav in such a cheap light. LOVE shouldnt be dependent on ANYTHING. it should be FREELY given.

manav forgot that when archana LEFT him, his MOM stood by him. he FORGOT that she nutured him and LOVED him when NO ONE else would.

tommorow, if savita and archana have a disagreement what WILL manav do? say he wont LOOK at her FACE till she agrees with archana? WHAT TOXIC LOVE.

its teenage BEHAVIOR at its best, and INSOLENCE on manav's part for taking his mom's LOVE for granted.

MANAV is so HYPCRITICAL.i am angry at baap- beta for thinking that 2 year old relation is MORE important than 30 year old relation.

damodar: this woman STUCK by you; seeing him at his worst. HOW can he favor archana over HER?? no matter how "good and sanskaari" archana is, the least he can do is be neutral.

manav: YOUR MOM's relation with archana is BETWEEN them. protect your wife WHEN SHE NEEDS it, but DONT interfere between bahu-saas.

your mother HAS gone through the worst thing a woman can ever go through: she BURIED HER SON. No mother wants to do that. that kind of HURT and PAIN takes TIME to heal. HE cannot FORCE his mom to heal and accept archana like he accepted the K-KLAN. NOT DONE.

the worst, manav LIED to injustify the SLAP.

CVs. stop disrespecting the bond between mother and son. it shouldnt be held down by anything else.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

🤗 Anjali firstly a hug for meeting u after so many days *AWWW, thanks so much"

Secondly I know what ur saying coz my mom had paralytic stroke when I was in US and I pretty much cud NOT do anything for her as my sister did

Thirdly Manav doesnt stay abroad or even in another suburb he stays at a distance 5 minutes away

Fourthly I insist he shud NOT take Archana with him for geting abbused or insulted but go alone , do duty and come back

My objection was to his SIMPLY not going .coz his parents dont have his brother any more to fall back on .Vandu is a married daughter living with a khadoos saas who wont allow her to take on the role of Manav in that house

So my point is ..keep Archu away , do duty and let ur mom come around on her own , dont force Archu down her throat .its driving her to crazy hate .

I pretty much agree with your points about how Manav can do so much more for his mom by simply being more understanding and using his brains. MY small reaction was more telling about how he may be feeling so guilty about his choices (running away from mandap, not providing for his family since 2nd wedding, his mother making it only a binary solution, "either you are with me or against me" (even if it is out of grief). Sometimes, it is hard to do the right thing but that does not mean one does not want to.

My reaction was I think more emotional than rational reasoning which you have illustrated so well. His statement of "go away" was more out of desperation and frustration of not being able to be only the 'son' his mom wants .

Believe me, when I was in India, my mom was feeling on one hand very secure and comfortable to know that I am there to deal with the scans, tests, physiotherapy, running after doctors etc but was equally feeling distraught that she had to pull me away from my life. Everyday she would cry or say many times that "why does God is keeping us" as she did not want to take the burden even from her daughter. Each day, I felt horrible and wanted to be at both places. Things are much better now but what it has taught me is that "it is so difficult to always do the right thing even when one so much wants to do it.

Take care... Anjali

Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam

I want to ask the forum ladies here, married or in a commited love relationship..... IF in real life, your mom/dad hated the guts of the man you love what would you do? Not just dislike the person, but constantly curse, verbally abuse, call names ALL THE TIME ! Its one thing your parents don't approve much your choice, but another thing being so violent abt. it all the times. Given such a situation, would you girls be able to turn a blind eye to all that, and continue a happy, healthy relationship with your folks INDEPENDENTLY??