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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#111

All interesting person life stories trickling in .Sowmya's and now sindoorfans . . See this is what I am trying to say ...........that we r watching this show with OUR life experiences . . Sindoorfan .........I am NOT asking Archana to take torture here . . And when I meant independent relations ..........I meant with the PARENTS especially .U see dear , sisterinlaws and brother in laws when married have a Family and life of their own . Not our parents . They have in fact EMPTY NEST SYNDROME . The two birds have aged and all the little ones have grown up and flown away . . In Manavs case its even more tragic . His brother is DEAD . Had Sachin been alive and married Shravani He cud have told Savita .........Ok u like that bahu more na , ur comfortable with her , NOT Archana right , so I wont force Archana on u then .Live with them and be happy and call me to meet u when u wish , as a son I will come and be there for u when u need me . .
But Savita cremated one son . Now she has no one . Vandu lives life nOT by progressive standards ......its the TYPICAL iNdian way . Coming occasionally to maaika , but staying at sasural and taking care of hubbys family . Besides Rasika will do hungama if Vandu decides to take Manavs place and do a lot for the family like Archu does for Karanjkars . It wont be tolerated and tackling Rasika is not easy . Currently she is HARASSINg poor Vandu by spreading dirty rumors about her brother . Vandu cannot breathe one breath easily .

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So u see, breaking off with Savita is not going to be possible coz society will spit on Manav .Indian society is THAT way only .

In such a scenario kya karne ka ? Mom is not liking wife .What to do then ?Forcing is not gonna help .

So best to go daily spend some time , ask abt their problems and help financially whenever u can and come back to ur wife .Keep Wife away from them .

But breaking off isnt the answer here . Not when they r dependennt on u . I judge No one for giving such an ultimatum if they have done so in real life .Each one has their own intensity of problems and trust me I understand . I am only talking of THIS particular case .

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Adi

@enigma6

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Posted: 15 years ago

#112

Kya Kools, aab rulayo gi kya? Thanks yaar for understanding... was feeling HORRIBLE over this misunderstanding. I almost never post, but come to ur thread EVERYDAY... and have come to like some of you immensely... specially u and Tanya... and Tanya, noticed u have clicked "like" on Kools last post to me... that shows u care even for a stranger like me.. u r lovely dear... u both r :-)

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#113

Originally posted by: Gene_Nisha
kool di Thnx for liking my post..you can call me Nisha :))

wow dis track is actually very nice.we may agree or disagree but its damn intresting atleast for me..reminding me of the tracks wen D's went to jail for first time and Archu staying at D's for 3months..the only tracks i lke till now in PR are

1)wen Archu was dere in D's after dere wedding

2)wen D's went to jail for first time.goshh dose epis brought goosebumps to me

3)wen Archu again went to D's house for 3months

4)wen Manav went to Jail for 2nd time..i know most of the ppl disagree wid me here but i loved how everyone scolded Archu for taking so much care of manav and why dey took divorce if dey actually lovee so much?and later Re union

but other dan dat i feel bored wen CVs concentrate more on k's :(

and i agree wid u,Tanaydi on ArMan's temporary seperation and i feel if dat happens savita will gradually realise she is wrong by not letting Archu inside D's house as manav is not at all happ without her..one time or other she has to REALISE Archu is manav's real happiness

Nisha arre Savita HAS already accepted Archu once and she isn't that bad .She needs TIME not the insensitive tactless FORCING of Manav and Damodar .

I have absolutely no doubt Archu was actually RIGHT when she sensed Savita sent gajar halwa for HER in that dabba pretending it was for Manav .Manav hjad stayed at her place and had tasted it . U see , Archu KNOWS Savita . In fact this is EXACTLY the way Savita went to see Sulochana ........she pretended she didnt care and used harsh language to cover up her intentions . Archana is not a fool when it comes to reading Savita .Even on the day Savita took her gold necklace she alone realised the old lady is doing it more out of hurt spite and not greed coz she felt she had lost . Archu will handle her properly .

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Mandy

@mandy0310

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Posted: 15 years ago

#114

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Kool, Manav is not going to stay with what he said ..he was angry and frustrated .The minute he finds out his mother is not well , he will go running to her . I think he is a wonderful son ..of course we will agree to disagree here but I will say again .he is a wonderful son .....

People say things they don't mean in the heat of the moment ..

Did you see me saying even one bad thing to savita for slapping Archana ...I didn't ...because it was a typical heat of the moment thing ....

No one has faced his cold fury for a long period of time , the only one who faced it was Archana but then those were very different days..

I hope from next week onwards we start seeing things moving i nthe positive direction for the Deshmukh family and the other Deshmukh bahu taking charge of the house ....

I think Manav is a good son too, he has his flaws but no one is perfect. I think that what Manav walked in on was just the last straw in a series of incidents where Savita has treated Archana poorly. He just had enough. Damodar, Vandita and Manav have tried to get through to Savita but instead of her understanding Manav's point of view, her hatred just increases and things intensify from there.

I can see Manav going to apologize to Savita and wanting to take care of her but Savita is going to have to control herself, her insulting and abusing Archana only makes things worse.

Kool, Tanya is right about Manav he doesn't stay angry for long and besides Sulochana and Manohar are the ones who reached out to him after Archana fell ill. They put aside their anger and accepted Manav. Vaishali is the one who ended up admitting she was wrong and apologized to Manav for the way she treated him. Varsha, while we never saw an apology we did see her change her attitude towards Manav. Point being all of them have put aside their anger and gave Manav a chance, that is all he asks of Savita. No one expects Savita to worship Archana and praise her but at least try and get along with her, be civil for Manav's sake. If Savita stands any chance at having the relationship she wants with Manav then she will have to accept the fact that Archana will be a part of Manav's life.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#115

Originally posted by: sindoorfan
Kya Kools, aab rulayo gi kya? Thanks yaar for understanding... was feeling HORRIBLE over this misunderstanding. I almost never post, but come to ur thread EVERYDAY... and have come to like some of you immensely... specially u and Tanya... and Tanya, noticed u have clicked "like" on Kools last post to me... that shows u care even for a stranger like me.. u r lovely dear... u both r :-)

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reachanupama

@reachanupama

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Posted: 15 years ago

#116

Hi Kools,

I love reading your commentary and I do agree with your views almost everytime but not this time. There a number of reasons for me doing so :
1. Savita entered Archana's house with vengeance. She had made up her mind to thrash her. That bothered me. I would have loved if Savita came there out of concern and saw Sachu playing happily with Archana and then there was some talk leading to Archana getting slapped. That is acceptable.
2. Manav was very very wrong to behave that way with his mother and thats not pardonable but there is nothing wrong in standing up for your wife. He might not have begun the conversation with his mom on the right note but he clearly told his mom what happened when Archana found Sachu and why did she get him home. There is a lot of talk on the forum that Manav should not throw Archana on Savita's face and leave it to time for their relations to mend which is exactly what he did today. He knew his mom would flare up on seeing Archu so he asked her to take Sachu home and that he would drop Sachu later. That haq etc. dialogies were not needed but what he said was the plain truth. Probably what pained him was the fact that Savita continued to inflict pain on Archana even when she did not tread her path. I hate Manav for breaking off relations with his mom and I might never love Manav the son ever again but I can understand his predicament torn between his wife and his mother.

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Adi

@enigma6

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Posted: 15 years ago

#117

yes Kools, I do see ur point. and I do realize with parents its a diff equation. In our case, yes, my husband did give that ultimatum in desperation during one of the "episodes", but never actually followed it through. How could he? No matter what, she is his sister...one and only... and in her own way she loves him, and so does he. Yes he did not talk to her for almost 2 mnths, but believe me that action hurt him as much as it must have hurt his sis. Slowly as a family we again came together, but mine and her relationship perhaps can never be smooth. I have now learned to accept that. She has her own family, since my mil passed away some yrs back, and my fil too old to be dragged into all this, it does become more of our responsibility to work this out somehow and keep working at it probably all life. A friend of mine had said, why tolerate a sil? MIL ya FIl hoti toh saamaj shakti, but why her? U know why Kool? Because she is the only sis he has, and somewhere up there my MIL's soul will never rest in peace if her 2 kids drift away..... so we do what we can... but trust me it does get pretty tough... I see my husband's frustration... and hence I can see Manav's frustration too. I believe, just like my husband, Manav too won't carry this forward... he will rush to her side when he realizes how sick she is and how much she needs them now. The character Manav is still not dead for me... IF he were to turn his back, EVEN AFTER knowing abt. his mom's health... that day YES Manav will be dead.

Edited by sindoorfan - 15 years ago

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#118

If Savita stands any chance at having the relationship she wants with Manav then she will have to accept the fact that Archana will be a part of Manav's life.

Mandy YES .But no one likes this fact to be constantly thrust in her face coz she feels humiliated . That LIKE IT OR NOT U got to accept her . That HURTS Mandy . It tramples the ego , especially of an aged person . It makes one feel FORCED TO CRAWL . It puts one on the defensive , makes one rebel . And thats whats constantly happening to Savita .