Why ArMan have to Run Away? - Page 8

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Shravani was a motherless child, was educated in the US, lived independently, chose social service/teaching profession, teachers really have great courage and on that Shravani was teaching elder people, which is even more difficult, came from a rich family. People generally flock towards those who have money, her father could've bought her THE BEST professional nurse to take care, she was bold enough to not give-in to her father's demands that she should get abortion (initially), that all together makes Shravani such a bold and a strong-willed woman, but the CVs spoiled it.

I'm not refuting that Shravani doesn't desire to have a mother figure in her life, but in which Maharashtrian Hindu caste is it acceptable for the to-be bride to live in the groom's house unless she is an orphan or a relative(cousin) who lived in that household from childhood

that is what I was pointing towards - missing logic. 😊

For me it is exactly opposite ..........I see no logic whatsoever in DENYING HELP when it is offered on a platter to u when u r in such a delicate , controversial position . Everyone keeps saying Shravani shud have stayed seperate , Shravani shud have brought the child up on her own , just like single moms do . All that is very well , but she HAD AN OPTION . And why she should NOT take the option is beyond me . Here in the US single moms r urged by government counsellors , social services etc to TAKE ALL THE HELP BY LEARNING TO ASK FOR IT . DON"T BE ASHAMED TO ASK HELP is the ADVICE . And she was offered help willingly without any expectation from her side by her fiancee's family . Her fiancee's brother offered to marry her and share responsibility in upbringing of child and his family stood by her staunchly offering their support and help .........why SHOULDN"T SHE TAKE IT ? When Help is available , WHY DENY IT ? Makes No sense to me at least .

Why opt for a babysitter when Grandmotherly love is available ? A Home atmosphere is available ? Savita took care of her like a mother . Why shouldn't she take this help and opt to 'show society ' instead how sINGLE MOMS LIVE ? Her goal was never setting a social example .........he goal was bringing SAcjhins child in the world and if his family supported her happily enough , she accepted it happily enough ..it was as simple as that . If she had no options it wud be a different story ...but the fact remains SHE HAD . And if she HAD , why deny it ?makes no logic to me ! Today here in the US I raise my kids all by myself and its really strenuous .........But tomorrow if I go to India and i get such help from my sasural or maayka why wud I say No ?

As Far as which Maharastrian Hindu Gal wud stay like this for two years goes .........I don't think any caste Gal wud stay like this ..........Be it Bengali , Gujrati , Punjabi . But Hers was a special case ......her fiancee DIED tragically . And her Fiancees family accepted her and stood by her . Maharashtrian Hindus r a very understanding caste and they do make special allowances , they r not without a heart . Gossip may be there but understanding ALSO is there . Its a perfectly normal caste with the usual flaws and equally strong good points . Maharastrians worship Marathi social leaders like Maharshi Dhondo Karve Or Jotiba Phule who fought for emancipation of women . Its a caste with advanced thoughts too . I personally feel far too much was made of her staying there for two years .

I agree with pallai . In fact Archana cud take some lessons from Shravani about commitment to a marraige . So cud the other K sisters coz they keep running back to their maayka when any problem occurs . Half the time all the three r in their maayka , weeping and doing dramas .Once she gave the commitment Shravani stood by it religiously .........she adjusted to the standard of living although she was accustomed to a higher one , treated sasural people with respect , was content with the simple life and frugal food . She gave the commitment her hundred percent . I rather like her for not stirring even once to go to her rich dad .

Koolsadhu,
I almost missed this reply as it wasn't quoted/directed with my name 😊

I wasn't saying anything about accepting or denying the help. Thats a next step. My point, which come even prior to that, was about the reasoning by the CVs in making that scene happen - Manav mouthing those dialogues to take Shravani home. I have written in some detail as in reply to Niha just a post above.

I have no issues with Shravani accepting the help. Shravani was offered the help and she accepted it, nothing wrong. Perfectly non-mahaan and normal behavior. It would've been really tough for the CVs if they had made Shravani's character deny that help and still if they had to take the storyline at the state at which it is today. But I wish CVs did that difficult job and had not taken this easy route where they never explained the reason.

Also if Shravani had denied that help, it would've been a slap on Manav's face. One has to have a lot of courage to do that. That was the point where the CVs were going to change Shravani's character. Finally today they brought her character to her original self of "unscheaming" person, but the CVs totally downplayed it.