Ashamed of Archu's family - Page 4

Originally posted by: nikitagmc

Wow sereaishitedare !!! You are a psychology student???!!???? How totally cool!!!

I know that this thread is meant to discuss serious stuff, but I really can't express how excited I am to know this! I have always had an interest in psychology, (I'm doing MBBS, and often wondered if I should try and be a psychiatrist- seems to be a very intriguing field)

Read your posts in other thread too. Very thought provoking ones they were. In your answer to sherma di's post above too, I agree with many points. Archana shouldn't really be forced. Yesterday when she was asked to slap Manav, what did she do later?- she BURNED her hand. This girl is crossing all limits when it comes to Manav. Marriage to any other guy is a strict no no for her right now.

I hope you'll keep posting now!!!

PS: Is there any shorter name we can address you by? 😆

Originally posted by: bonnefille

didn't read the comments but my take is

sulo is right in expecting her daughter to get married. But not allowing her daughter to make a dignified decision in life for herself is wrong. After the jail fiasco, archana should have broken the rishta with jaywant and sulo should have supported her. Instead Sulo emotionally blackmailed archana intom marrying jaywant. Leave love.....the girl doesn't respect the man and does not identify with any of his characteristics. She has been cheated and lied by this man. Sulo should have atleast understood that the foundation of the relationship between jaywant and archana is extremely weak for it to sustain with happiness.

Manav's role should have only been to discuss with archana about marriage and no more. His shart was overboard. I don't think manav caring about archana's future was wrong.....if he was moving on in life....he should have wanted archana to move too and live life with happiness instead of hanging onto him all his life.

Archana should have been given time by both sulo and manav....neither did and thats where they both were wrong. Archana is emotionally and physically not ready for a relationship such as marriage and it can have consequential effects on her.

About society.....i think sulo should have given more prerogative to archana's happiness than what ten people say. Sulo should have just told her if you don't want to marry now......don't but try to emotionally disconnect yourself from manav. Thats what a mother should have done for her daughter if she really understood her.

Sulo has best in her heart......but her decisions and thinking is as bad as manav and archana's.

Originally posted by: vidyasu1

Sere, my compliments to you on starting an interesting topic. It tempted me to crawl out of the woodworks. cheers.😃😃

Originally posted by: sereaishitedare

Sherma sweety, I am not trying to disregard your opinion as I understand where you're coming from, but I am going to be factual here. I am a psychology student, so please don't take my opinions the wrong way.

The Karanjkar family is trying to be good to Archu, but are suffocating her in the process. Archana has obviously not gotten over the failure of her marriage, and pushing her into a marriage that she is not ready for will not help, it will suppress the grief and be a cause for chronic depression, and a whole host of other mental disorders. When faced with a tragedy, no matter what it is, the loss of a parent, the death of a child, the death of a spouse, the end of a marriage, heck even the death of a pet!, it is crucial to grieve before trying to move on. Think about it, if someone was 14 weeks along in their pregnancy, and had a miscarriage, would they try for another baby right away? Maybe, but if they do that miscarriage will haunt them for the rest of their lives, thinking that they replaced their lost child with another, and will either never be able to love their child or smother them and spoil them so they can't make any productive decisions in life.

Archana already has suicidal/self-harm tendencies that are the screaming for help 'Please get me some help, some therapy'. If Sulochana really loved her daughter and was trying to do whatever she could to keep her daughter safe and happy, she would have gotten her daughter therapy, not shoved her into an unwanted marriage.

As far as marrying a would-be-rapist, Vandu didn't want to marry him, she was blackmailed by Ajit and his mom. I don't condone it, in fact I strongly oppose such decisions, I'm just reminding you of what happened in the show.

Originally posted by: vidyasu1

Sere, my compliments to you on starting an interesting topic. It tempted me to crawl out of the woodworks. cheers.😃😃