Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
Bonny I agree with your post .My views exactly .
.But the end bottom line is .............Divorcing was Archnas decision [ she did not listen to her mom]
Marrying Jaywant is hers again [ Sulo had retreated]
Resigning from job is again HERS [ She disregarded Satishs correct advice]
Burning hand , thinking she Violated her spiritual marraige and ABUSED her god is again hers . Her so called STUPID mom was not even aware of her doings .
Each one has to take responsibility of his or her actions .Blaming Archnas misfortune constantly on her family isnt fair . If others have an opinion that her family is not wrong but correct , saying they are 'drooling over her family' isnt fair either . Why shud their opinions NOT be respected ? Saying such statements and then saying I did not mean to annoy anyone doesn't make much of a difference afterwards .
Shravni is constantly criticised in the forum , people say she opted to have this path .......so she will suffer what she sowed . Doesnt same apply to Manav Archna jodi ?
It wud sadden me to say I am ashamed of Archanas family . I am NOT . I criticize them , have difference of opinions with them , but they r like my family .Saying I am ashamed of them wud amount to saying I am ashamed of MY family . I am NOT . No family in the world is perfect but all in all Karanjkar family isnt a bad family .It is loving and pretty normal .
I cud have asked how about being ashamed of actions like burning hand etc from a well balanced gal like ARchna who normally gave advices to her sisters when they made mistakes but I won't . Even this action I sort of understand .........Manav has affected Archana very very badly .She needs therapy or she may end up setting herself on fire .
One more thing ............about this 'grieving period' . You guys may not agree with me , but exactly how much shud this period be ? Two years , five years ? Her biological clock is ticking , so her mom was worried . She is 28 . And btw will the grieving period for Archana ever end ?She doesnt want to get over manav or move on . Its downright unhealthy . She wants to hover around him and Shravni and rush in to save him each time much to Shravnis irritation . I dont see her as the type of single women u guys r talking about at all .........the ones who live seperately , adopt , live fulfilled lives of their own .
Manju cud buy seperate house coz she and Vinod had joint income . Is buying house and living easy ? Females like Manju , Archna r not on high positions to take costly financial decisions .Flats cost phenomenal in Mumbai . Its possible , but normally unmarried gals like Archna end up sharing home with brothers and bhabis and suffering in life . This serial is not showing rare females , they r showing common lives .
I'm not going to say much here, but I wanted to comment on the grieving period comment of yours. As a psychology student, I can honestly and factually say that the grieving period depends on each individual. There are certain phases to grieving. I'll put them up here real quick and simple.
Shock/Denial
Anger
Compromise/Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
It isn't always in that order and there is no definite period for each. A person can also flip-flop between two phases for a while, end up at square one and have to work through it all over again.
Someone like Archana would need extensive counselling to help her get over her grief, and it IS possible to take an entire lifetime to get over the grief although it is VERY rare.
Kool, I apologize if the title of my post has hurt you in any way because of it resembling your family, but what I'm trying to get at is that Sulochana is a bully who thinks she is always right and only sees what she wants to see. She saw how much pain her daughter is going through, she sees how BAD of a person Jaywant is, he has criminal tendencies, and she is leaving a LOT up to chance, without sitting down and thinking logically. If you were to be engaged to someone like Jaywant and your mother knew he conned you into signing papers and framed someone and basically engaged in criminal activities, would she let you marry him? Would your mother not support you if you stood up for yourself? Would your mother not see your pain? Would your mother not break off the engagement if she knew of all the HORRIBLE things he did, if only to ensure your safety? I am pretty darned sure she would call it off, even if the guy's family DID want this marriage to occur.
About the biological clock, how does she even know she can have children? Should she be pushed into a marriage if she is only going to be tortured, just for the sake of having a child who will not have a happy life anyways, because of an unstable family? If for whatever reason she cannot have a child, can she not adopt? There are so many children out there in need of a loving family, can she not accept one as her own?
Owning a flat in Mumbai, no one said she had to OWN one, I personally rent out an apartment of mine to a couple for 5500 / month, an amount I KNOW is manageable for most people with a stable job like Archu.
The Karanjkars mean well, but they are all very bossy and have a scapegoat in Archana, whom they can constantly give orders to on how to live life under the pretext of it being a piece of advice. Why do I say order? Because they automatically expect her to do what they suggest.
Archana and Manav do need to live through what they committed to, but should they really have to not even SPEAK to one another because of it?
Sorry I know I said this would be short, but I couldn't help myself =)
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