Liked your post very much varsha😊
My husband's best friend's wife treated his mom ........and his sister very badly , fought and was seperated within two years of married life . The husbands mom was a widow who had lost her hubby when the boy was 5 . She made him an engineer by adjusting with sasural and taking brother in law's support . But the use ? All the fruits of the tree she tended for so many years were taken away by this quarrelsome girl who came in house as bahu and took him out of the house within two years . The boys mom died just before they moved out , just a week before they moved out . They were a lower middle class Marathi family in a chawl with only one good thing ..........The boy had studied and become an engineer . One of his first acts to do after getting jovb was to book a flat in the suburbs and the mother was looking forward to leaving the chawl and going there , doing a pooja and inviting her brother in laws , whose help she had taken for so many years to bring this boy and his sister up . She wanted to show them that Now even I am gonna enjoy some days of happiness and she wanted their blessings for her boy , some praise for herself that she finally made it ..........simple expectations of a simple woman . But where she went wrong was in getting this boy married . He fell in love with a girl , not even of his sub caste , yet she gave permission . The moment she came , she started the fights .First thing she did was took money control in her hands , picked fights with the boys sister who sensibly fixed her own marraige with a Bengali , so that her mom wud not have to go thru trouble of arranging finances for her marraige . .......and seeing her babhi's tevars , she quietly did ourt marraige and moved out one day .
The mother was left alone . The rudeness of this DIL was horrific .Throwing things in front of her , being verbose with hands on hips , constantly flinging on the mIls face that its MY husbands money , inviting maayka people for lunch and picking fights when MIL tried to help ..........the poor MIL , deeply insulted and humiliated wud go to a nearby garden and sit on the bench while the maayka party was over .
But the saddest part was telling the MIL that THEY wud be shifting to new flat , NOT She . The MIL had told all her brother in laws proudly that she was going to the new flat , so she took it hard . A week before they moved , MIL died of a STROKE .
I had gone once to their chawl to meet this DIL ..........she was out then . The MIL was alone , with red swollen eyes .........she had obviously been crying . Seeing me she said , MY Stars have changed for the =WORSE . I still remember the bleak look in her eyes when she said that .
The DIL was very happy that the MIL died . She actually told me that . Who the hell told her to roam in the sun ..........she said unsympathetically .
Well , The DIL made her hubby SELL the new flat and bought a flat in her maaykas building . She was very very happy . No responsibility of nanand .mIl gone . All was working as per HER wish . STARS for her seemed very FAVORABLE .
The boy rose to high position and roamed foreign lands in his sales side . Moneywas there , two SONS were born . But Other probs started . Her bhabis in maayka........two of them , treated her exactly the way she treated the boys sister . In fact the bhabhis turned the girls Dad against her by telling him ur daughter is creating trouble by filling ears of Sasuma . The girls father FIRED the girl in FRONT of damad ..........this boy . He told him , plz keep her in CHECK . She is causing rift in family .
Things came to such coldness that inspite of staying in same building The girl cud NOT step in her maayka . Her mom wud chori chupe come down to her flat when both bahus wud leave for work and meet her and cry and run upstairs before husnand found out . The senario was ........The girls father on side of two bahus while MOm on side of this quarrelsome gal .
This gal was VERY VERY adjusting with her bhabhis .She licked their boots so they wud thaw towards her , looked after their children with her two boys but the clever bhabhis used her babysitting but did not gve her an inch of fredom to come and go from maayka as she wished .
The last I saw her was in last trip to India .She was crying and telling me it wud have been better if she hd NOT bought a flat in maaykas building . No one shud make mistake of living TOO close to maayka , she said , weeping .
She was actually keeping relations with her Nanand now .........That bengali guy had floyurished in his businessand the nanand was very rich .She did not keep any relations with this bhabhi after her mom died but had kept relations with her bro by phoning him in office . Now THIS gal was sucking up to her as she had no maayka left .
See how Gods Lathi is . As she told me her story , I thought of the Sad face of her MIL . She had disrespected an old lady in her arrogance of youth and had brought tears of humiliation in her aged , hopeful eyes . Your punishment is not over yet , I thought sadly ..............as I looked at her two adol;escent boys . You got SONS ....no daughters . The maayka is just the tip of the iceberg , see what happens when THEY marry .
Varsha , ur a good human being . Just like u .my elder sis has excellent rapport with Punjabi bahu . But u guys did good so good came back to u . With people like this girl , the upper whiplash of karma is different . She drove her MIL to death .
In PR ...........What I HATED was Varshas disrespect to Mohanrao , her raising of voice , the way she flung that cushion . He is gem of man ...even fathers dont treat Daughters this well . Bhavna is typical saas but good lady overall , not bad like Rasika or SAvita .This family accepted her after Ashwin fiasco ............how much another family wud have hated her , Vrsha has no idea . She gets her way in 99% of things . Even if MIL got on her nerves ...this is not the way to react . Go to bedroom and lock door and rest , tell her I need to rest , dont wanna talk on this topic rite now . They had given her this flat and moved to Worli flat , why did u bring them here .to treat them this way ? Even this flat is Mohanraos only ........Its not given by Varshas maayka and its impossible for Satish to buy it at such young age . Her in laws r very nice and understanding overall . Varsha is used to getting EVERTHING her way . Rudeness to Satish , rudeness to Bhavna , she needs a lesson . Bhavna is even ready to look after baby while she commences her career . Fortwo years this dame wasnt even interested in job . And ok , if u wanna do it now only and ur MIL has other views , learn to ignore it coz in all other ways she is an Okay woman . No need to yell and snap , learn some RESPECT . Thats all I feel as I watch her story .
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Anupamaa
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