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Originally posted by: inlieu

@bold, I think we might see some of this in flashbacks when HS starts to open up to Babita at some point or perhaps when there is some sort of reconciliation of past and present in his mind.

I think HS has already reconciled his past and present otherwise he won't be thinking of marrying Babitha. Yes, he carries a lot of guilt but I don't see that going away. I don't think it's only the guilt that has kept Imarti alive inside him. She is a part of his soul. If you take it away, he will be lost forever. And I definitely don't want Imarti going away when Babitha comes. It would be so cliched. I for once want to see a man loving both his dead and present wife equally without feeling guilty about it.

Originally posted by: deefy89

Kudos to the writers here and the actress who played the part so brilliantly! I feel the same and am amazed that in a few short episodes I fell in love with her. Her attitude and strength was something I was in awe of.

I don’t personally think it would work if he played ashok. The viewer would never be able to see him as bad, after having fell in love with him.

How in the world she managed to change HS ? He was a abused child. How did she manage to heal his scars? Their love was not only passionate but also soul searching. How did they manage to achieve that in the short time they had?

All these things if presented in a better way can make a beautiful story.The actress was just fab.

If Aniruddh ever plays Ashok he will make us love Ashok don't worry. We will be sympathizing with Ashok more and more.😆

Originally posted by: Jiarao

TBH I don't want any deep discussion between HS and Babitha about Imarti. Whatever she knows Is enough. If at all he discusses about it , it should be with Minnie. If you ask me why I think so, I have no answer. But I always feel this connection between Imarti and Minnie.

I think HS has already reconciled his past and present otherwise he won't be thinking of marrying Babitha. Yes, he carries a lot of guilt but I don't see that going away. I don't think it's only the guilt that has kept Imarti alive inside him. She is a part of his soul. If you take it away, he will be lost forever. And I definitely don't want Imarti going away when Babitha comes. It would be so cliched. I for once want to see a man loving both his dead and present wife equally without feeling guilty about it.

The reason I talk about HS reconciling his past is that when Babita tried to say that Imarti was lucky, he cut her off. He is still not comfortable.

Yes, I agree that I don't want the cliched route of Imarti going away when Babita comes. That doesn't happen in real life. You can't forget a late (or even ex) spouse unless you have amnesia.

Originally posted by: inlieu

The reason I talk about HS reconciling his past is that when Babita tried to say that Imarti was lucky, he cut her off. He is still not comfortable.

Yes, I agree that I don't want the cliched route of Imarti going away when Babita comes. That doesn't happen in real life. You can't forget a late (or even ex) spouse unless you have amnesia.

Otherwise he is okay with talking about Imarti. For him two women are completely different and he intends to keep it like that. He wants Babitha to understand this and move ahead.He gets defensive because he feels Babitha hasn't understood him yet.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

TBH I don't want any deep discussion between HS and Babitha about Imarti. Whatever she knows Is enough. If at all he discusses about it , it should be with Minnie. If you ask me why I think so, I have no answer. But I always feel this connection between Imarti and Minnie.

I think HS has already reconciled his past and present otherwise he won't be thinking of marrying Babitha. Yes, he carries a lot of guilt but I don't see that going away. I don't think it's only the guilt that has kept Imarti alive inside him. She is a part of his soul. If you take it away, he will be lost forever. And I definitely don't want Imarti going away when Babitha comes. It would be so cliched. I for once want to see a man loving both his dead and present wife equally without feeling guilty about it.

I do want this. Not just a discussion about imarti, but a discussion about babitas life during those 17 years from babita herself. The other day they had a moment where she told hs about the taunts she received from lovely and how she secretly used to be happy when mini spoke back. I think this is needed on both sides. As much as mini has been an outlet for babita, there are things deep inside her over her feelings etc that she would have not shared with mini during this time (for eg maybe not wanting mini’s opinion of ashoks family to change in mini’s eyes). I think sharing her innermost feelings about her experience will not only help her (it always helps to speak) but might also bring them closer and give hs a better understanding of his wife, which can only make for a happier marriage. So to in hs case. There would be things that he would not even have shared with imarti herself during her last days. And I think from the fact that he stopped babita speaking about imarti means he’s not properly over it and is compartmentalising his life. Whether they like it or not their pasts are a part of them and who else can they share it with but each other.

On a side note, when I watched yesterday’s episode where mini arranged hs and babita to meet and on the terrace and babita was saying how this is wrong and shouldn’t happen before the rituals take place. Mini obviously disagreed with her and she then turned to hs to agree with her but babita gave him “the look” and he instead agreed with babita. This got me thinking, hs and babita are very different ppl, babita is very much into “what ppl will think/say”etc and hs is a bit more straightforward like mini. When they marry, naturally babita will start being in charge and wanting things her way. Will she expect hs to switch to her way of thinking or will she start to live for herself like hs and mini do. Btw I loved how she stood her ground with lovely and went back to HER HOUSE

Originally posted by: deefy89

I do want this. Not just a discussion about imarti, but a discussion about babitas life during those 17 years from babita herself. The other day they had a moment where she told hs about the taunts she received from lovely and how she secretly used to be happy when mini spoke back. I think this is needed on both sides. As much as mini has been an outlet for babita, there are things deep inside her over her feelings etc that she would have not shared with mini during this time (for eg maybe not wanting mini’s opinion of ashoks family to change in mini’s eyes). I think sharing her innermost feelings about her experience will not only help her (it always helps to speak) but might also bring them closer and give hs a better understanding of his wife, which can only make for a happier marriage. So to in hs case. There would be things that he would not even have shared with imarti herself during her last days. And I think from the fact that he stopped babita speaking about imarti means he’s not properly over it and is compartmentalising his life. Whether they like it or not their pasts are a part of them and who else can they share it with but each other.

On a side note, when I watched yesterday’s episode where mini arranged hs and babita to meet and on the terrace and babita was saying how this is wrong and shouldn’t happen before the rituals take place. Mini obviously disagreed with her and she then turned to hs to agree with her but babita gave him “the look” and he instead agreed with babita. This got me thinking, hs and babita are very different ppl, babita is very much into “what ppl will think/say”etc and hs is a bit more straightforward like mini. When they marry, naturally babita will start being in charge and wanting things her way. Will she expect hs to switch to her way of thinking or will she start to live for herself like hs and mini do. Btw I loved how she stood her ground with lovely and went back to HER HOUSE

Yesterday HS took side of Babitha because it was logical thing to do. He didn't want Babitha to feel uncomfortable.I don't think he will listen to her log kya kahenge always. He will try to explain her patiently and she will definitely listen to him.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Everything you said about happy marriage is absolutely right. Logically they should talk about their past. But whenever I try to imagine it, I get this uneasy feeling and I get a picture of Minnie listening to him . I have no logical explanation for this. It's just a feeling. It may or may not happen in the show.

Yesterday HS took side of Babitha because it was logical thing to do. He didn't want Babitha to feel uncomfortable.I don't think he will listen to her log kya kahenge always. He will try to explain her patiently and she will definitely listen to him.

I feel like there’s a lot of feelings and baggage within them that they’ve had from the past and have not shared with anyone before. They obviously need to do it away from mini, cos as much as babita and mini and “friends”, there’s certain things she just won’t be able to tell her. Both hs and babita are not the best at talking about their feelings, not to mention during those 17 years babita wouldn’t have had anyone to share it with. Or this is my thinking anyways.

Bold - hope so 😀 id much rather see babes as carefree as our mini is. I know it’s a generational thing but she cares far too much what ppl will say/think

Originally posted by: deefy89

Both hs and babita are not the best at talking about their feelings, not to mention during those 17 years babita wouldn’t have had anyone to share it with. Or this is my thinking anyways.

You're right.

Whenever she was being taunted, or felt alone, the desire to speak to someone about her feelings in the moment would have been super high. She was married but she didn't have a husband. And Poonam wasn't there either to whom she could have spoken with. Minnie was just a child so she couldn't understand much and there's no way she could've gone to the Khuranas. Her parents too were there only for a short time.

As a result, she just learnt how to keep everything to herself and lock it away forever. Similarly, HS also locked away everything and anything to do with Imarti because it was just far too painful to handle. But now they have to open up if they want to move forward. It's going to be painful, but they will be there for one another. They got that support that they were looking for.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I think he becomes uncomfortable only when Babitha tries to compare herself to Imarti or tries to become Imarti . He doesn't hesitate from sharing Imarti's likes and dislikes or how she took care of him with Babitha. He didn't share about her death because it was too painful for him to recall and also because Babitha never asked.

Otherwise he is okay with talking about Imarti. For him two women are completely different and he intends to keep it like that. He wants Babitha to understand this and move ahead.He gets defensive because he feels Babitha hasn't understood him yet.

I think so too, but on some level he is not comfortable talking about Imarti with Babita.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Everything you said about happy marriage is absolutely right. Logically they should talk about their past. But whenever I try to imagine it, I get this uneasy feeling and I get a picture of Minnie listening to him . I have no logical explanation for this. It's just a feeling. It may or may not happen in the show.

Yesterday HS took side of Babitha because it was logical thing to do. He didn't want Babitha to feel uncomfortable.I don't think he will listen to her log kya kahenge always. He will try to explain her patiently and she will definitely listen to him.

I think after they get married she will be less concerned because she officially can do whatever she wants with HS, whenever she wants.

Are you feeling that Minnie might overhear Babita telling HS about her past and how she mentally suffered?