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Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

You know that’s exactly what I was thinking. She will start resenting at some point that she’s not the most important person in HS’s life. I think she ought to.

I dont know how i feel about that but doesnt a mother most happy to finally get a man that loves her child as his own . I dont know but i think when going for second marriage parent usually makes sure that his child is comfortable

Originally posted by: sheen97

I dont know how i feel about that but doesnt a mother most happy to finally get a man that loves her child as his own . I dont know but i think when going for second marriage parent usually makes sure that his child is comfortable

This is a slightly different scenario. Often the new spouse accepts the child as part of the marriage. Here it's the other way round. He is actually marrying the mother of his daughter, who is not biologically his and is relatively new in his life as well.

Also, Babita has a tendency to compare everything HS does with what Ashok did or did not do, so if HS' actions aren't the polar opposite she will feel uncomfortable. In this case, she probably wants HS to treat her like a queen and pamper her, and shower her with affection, which is fine but up to a certain point. He will have responsibilities as an Inspector and towards Minnie as a father, and Lala, NB, etc. I think Babita will be very possessive about HS, so let's see how that goes.

Also, Babita isn't an evolved mother, in the sense that her dynamics with Minnie have been in a reverse fashion too, where she is often in the position of the child and Minnie the mother. There's gotta be some psychological aspects to consider there.

I don't think Babita will ever feel insecure of being second to Mini. Infact she will be the happiest. As I said, every woman is a mother first and then herself. She'd be over the moon, infact still is, that HS loves Mini so unconditionally and deeply, more than a real father would.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I don't think Babita will ever feel insecure of being second to Mini. Infact she will be the happiest. As I said, every woman is a mother first and then herself. She'd be over the moon, infact still is, that HS loves Mini so unconditionally and deeply, more than a real father would.

It's not being second to her that's the problem, it's the prioritization. I can't really explain it. We'll see,

Originally posted by: inlieu

It's not being second to her that's the problem, it's the prioritization. I can't really explain it. We'll see,

But isn't being first, second itself the priorities in/of life?

Okay, I'll wait to get this into my head.

Originally posted by: inlieu

@bold you mean they argue over how to parent Minnie? I would love to see that!

yes....both had different set of mind ... as any individual ....we already seen it now being official couple , both asserted their rights esp Hanuman who never shown his right over Minnie

even i feel Babita won't insecure seeing Minnie is more close to Hanuman .... even with drinking habit she was more relieved atleast he listen somebody with when Naeem Bi says he loves her like daughter Babita beaming says yes her Minnie is sp

I guess Minnie might be confused seeing New Babita giving imp to Hanuman above rest e.g Dadu Beeji.... as already we seen in segment ... Minnie who always saw her babes obeying or giving imp to her grand parents now dynamic changed ...

Originally posted by: inlieu

It's not being second to her that's the problem, it's the prioritization. I can't really explain it. We'll see.

I haven't gone through the previous pages to read the built up to this discussion, so I'm just jumping in. Lemme know if I'm interpreting anything wrong.

Yes, Babita is a mother and her first priority will always be Minnie. But her being a mother doesn't exempt her from being a woman. She too, has her own wants and desires. She too, will have certain expectations that she will want HS to fulfill as her man.

So far we have seen HS fulfill his duties as Minnie's dad. We have that relationship solidified and we know just how far he will go for her. Bit what about Babes? What is he willing to do for her? What is she willing to do for him? How do they even equate with one another as lovers? As husband and wife? In this relationship, Minnie cannot be a factor. This is a relationship between a husband and a wife. If you involve Minnie in any way, then it no longer becomes that. It instead becomes one of a parent and child.

There will be times when Babita wants to spend some time alone with HS and HS will have to give that to her. Minnie cannot interfere or start hogging him. Yes, she has been craving a father her whole life and now that she has finally gotten one, she will be soaking up all his love. But let's not forget that Babes has also been craving for a husband. She wants (and needs) that intimacy that only a warm, loving husband can provide. If HS starts giving in to Minnie everytime she wants to spend time with him over Babes, then she's bound to feel neglected.

I'm not a mother so I don't understand the exact depth of those feelings, but I genuinely don't think that being a mother is the sole defining factor of a woman. And haven't we been saying that she needs a life outside of Minnie? So let Babes explore what that side is. Who is Babita? What is Babita, the wife like? What kind of lover is she? What kind of woman is she?

I know I'm emphasizing on the womanly aspect a lot, but that's what I can best identify with at the moment. Before becoming a mom, Babes is a woman. And I refuse to believe that upon getting a child, that the woman ceases to exist.

As far as babita will not at all be jealous of Minni bcoz earlier also she told to. Naeem bi that she is happy that HS treats Minni like his own daughter and loves her just like babes does so she is relieved and happy... And moreover for a mother her child will be always first priority being a mother I can say confidenetally... Seeing Minni happy will be always the first goal for both Babita and HS both....