Originally posted by: Transference
I am tired of thinking about marriages being about TaL mel -love or arranged.
My problem is that Shivi gave forgotten that they have grown up together. It can get ugly as hell when you have such relationships.
I have been in one and when things turn ugly, they get really ugly.
But, it's like one instance and dialogue that gives you hope and realise that two people have known each other.
I don't have a problem with that but I have a problem of it being about the family. I don't want every problem of the couples to be a family problem.
I need time to type more, which isn't possible right now given my arm injury.
I completely agree on the family part! And I’m scared to hope but I would love if ShiVi work things out with zero interference from the family. That would make this track fulfilling.
You know the interesting thing is today after a long time I felt the episode actually connected back to their childhood. Heading off to bed so won’t be able to elaborate until tomorrow but a few things stood out:
1. Gaumbi’s reaction: I didn’t enjoy the mentions of violence nor did I like how quick Gaumbi and the other brothers were to blame Shiva. Not to mention the fact that no one realizes that Shiva & Raavi are no longer children… the constant insulting and bickering is not healthy. They can have real problem especially as a married couple. But… I felt they were quick to defend Raavi because of this dynamic they have seen over the years. It was a reaction that stems from habit… over the years, they have seen Shiva “hurt” Raavi. He has made her cry. They have protected Raavi from Shiva over the years. The second they see Raavi cry and Shiva wake in silently, they immediately assume he hurt her. And that is where they are wrong. This isn’t a simple fight over him ruining her dress with a gola. I know just yesterday we were wondering why the family doesn’t treat Raavi a bit differently than Rishita. I think this is a prime example. Had it been Rishita, they would have not jumped to this conclusion.
2. Raavi’s outburst and raw anger stems from their childhood equation. Despite her cheery nature, I’m sure they are moments she felt extremely disrespected over the years. And angry. But somehow their dynamic overshadowed all this. Now with the added complexity in their relationship, the feeling of pain and disrespect cuts even deeper. They both want much more from each other and expect the other to understand without them saying it.
3. Shiva’s pain is another example. I truly believe Raavi has done her share in terms of making Shiva feel awful over the years. I don’t believe this is the first time the entire family supported Raavi over Shiva. Perhaps not with such gravity but I’m sure he has seen this scene play out before. I wish the makers would focus on his pain and the feeling of being neglected, isolated and taken for granted bogging down on him. Everyone has a breaking point. His insecurities didn’t just come to him overnight. It traces back to their childhood. Even after the gola scene, Shiva was blamed (he was wrong) but I’m sure there were times he wasn’t wrong. Her words have affected him right from those days.
My eyes are closing out of tiredness but there are a lot of other subtle references to their childhood. As well as mentions of Raavi’s childhood dream of being a Pandya Bahu (even Maami mentions this). A lot of connections were made.
I think this episode was set on the day of the wedding. It was inevitable. I don’t think ShiVi could have gone straight to a healthy, romantic and happy phase without crossing this difficult bridge. One of the biggest things that separates them from GauRa. They themselves need to come face to face with their past and acknowledge it. But they also have to take the best parts and move forward. Grow. Both of them were right. The past can’t be ignored but you also can’t live in it. At the same time, both have their share of mistakes. The family needs to take a step back. If they can’t sort this on their own, they shouldn’t move forward together.
This post is a bit all over the place but will try to post something that actually flows tomorrow. I hope your neck sprain is getting better 🤗
Edited by Raingoddess - 3 years ago
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