Choose the one that you see yourself as - Page 4

Originally posted by: mpks1

I can’t vote in this poll as see myself as a combination of all the 3 FL’s

Though majority feel like they can relate to Rishita and she is realistic, which might be true. I am absolutely selfless like Dhara and Raavi, even my MIL says this. So when we visit India with the kids, I split my time between my in-laws and my parents house. My parents have fairly a very big house, we get the largest bedroom with a bathroom to ourselves. My inlaws is pretty decent as well but when my other BIL’s also visit, my MIL will come to me first and say, Prema I know you will understand, is it ok if I give you the smallest room as I don’t want others being unhappy because of this room situation. I won’t say a word, will take it. As is my trips are 3-4 weeks and I split my time between the 2 houses, why make it miserable by putting my foot down and ruin my entire trip, But my MIL has compensated in other ways, I got the most family jewelry without even asking. I even asked her if she talked to others before giving it to all me, she said that some of these are from her hard earned money (she retired as a lecturer) so she doesn’t have to ask anybody, can choose to give it to whomever she want to. So if you lose some, you gain something else😆

As for Rishita’s traits, have the guts to talk openly with my inlaws and the extended family about what I think but without hurting anybody. I am not rude or disrespectful but they hear me out. I have a problem only with my Devar in the entire family. Only my husband and Jeth can handle him, he is a spoilt brat😕
i am also like Dhara, won’t hesitate to do household chores and help both my Mom and MIL😃

You win me over with ua traits🖤

Me being the youngest daughter in law and also living separately with hubby like all his siblings, didn’t need to adjust too much except some stuff that I feel is fair after I have been given so much ease. My mom in law is also related to me through my maami so she knew me since childhood and also loves me more comparatively🤷🏻‍♀️ But that way the expectations are also more from me. And I try my hardest.

But when the question of unfairness and words come I am usually the most silent one as I bear it all. Don’t even let hubby say a word because when she loves me she can also say stuff to me thinking I am hers.

Originally posted by: raindropsroses

I chose Raavi, though I’m not completely Raavi, as I don’t have my head in the clouds always. But there are other characters of her that I completely relate to.

I’m very quick to forgive, no matter who wronged me. It comes easily to me to forgive my loved ones, but even strangers I forgive cause I believe that forgiveness is important for the forgiver’s mental peace too.

And another thing is that I’m a nautanki exactly like her. I go around the house doing things making my family constantly wanting to face palm 🤣

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Should have guessed😝

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

You win me over with ua traits🖤

Me being the youngest daughter in law and also living separately with hubby like all his siblings, didn’t need to adjust too much except some stuff that I feel is fair after I have been given so much ease. My mom in law is also related to me through my maami so she knew me since childhood and also loves me more comparatively🤷🏻‍♀️ But that way the expectations are also more from me. And I try my hardest.

But when the question of unfairness and words come I am usually the most silent one as I bear it all. Don’t even let hubby say a word because when she loves me she can also say stuff to me thinking I am hers.

Maahi 🤗 we have so much in common❤️ Just like you, I also don’t let my husband talk on my behalf. There has not been a single problem because of me or my behavior and no complaints from them. This is all mainly due to the fact that we live away and visit them once a year for 4 weeks. This situation is easy to handle. At the same time I am not sure how I would have handled, behaved if I had to live with them forever, don’t even want to go there😆

My inlaws also believe in nuclear family set up as they themselves lived like that as my FIL was a central government employee transferred every few years all over India. One thing though if I ever lived in the same city as them in India, they would have asked us to live separately. But my husband family and his extended family (uncles, aunts, cousins, their families) have too many get togethers and parties all the time and celebrate every milestone. So when I visit, have to set aside days just only for that.😩

Originally posted by: Pixiepadhi

Thank you ❤️

Pixie🤗 you are dazzling❤️ Congrats!😃

Originally posted by: mpks1

Maahi 🤗 we have so much in common❤️ Just like you, I also don’t let my husband talk on my behalf. There has not been a single problem because of me or my behavior and no complaints from them. This is all mainly due to the fact that we live away and visit them once a year for 4 weeks. This situation is easy to handle. At the same time I am not sure how I would have handled, behaved if I had to live with them forever, don’t even want to go there😆

My inlaws also believe in nuclear family set up as they themselves lived like that as my FIL was a central government employee transferred every few years all over India. One thing though if I ever lived in the same city as them in India, they would have asked us to live separately. But my husband family and his extended family (uncles, aunts, cousins, their families) have too many get togethers and parties all the time and celebrate every milestone. So when I visit, have to set aside days just only for that.😩

We have this too common then. Many get togethers and parties at my in laws place too. And I do love them but too many of them just make me feel a bit tired😆

We live separately and that’s a boon. I love them all and all of them love me and also being the youngest I get too much care from all of them. But there are things that every DIL had to put up with.

Yet I feel I got ease in these matters so grateful for them.

Originally posted by: mpks1

Pixie🤗 you are dazzling❤️ Congrats!😃

Thank you premaa ❤️

Mahi!! 🤗Thanks for creating this poll!🤗 I voted for Raavi!! ❤️ Ahh the innocence, positivity of this girl is something I absolutely adore! She is a cute munchkin! I relate the most to her!! That girl’s smile can make you smile even when on your worst day ❤️

Originally posted by: Nups_mish

Mahi!! 🤗Thanks for creating this poll!🤗 I voted for Raavi!! ❤️ Ahh the innocence, positivity of this girl is something I absolutely adore! She is a cute munchkin! I relate the most to her!! That girl’s smile can make you smile even when on your worst day ❤️

Raavi is sweet, and innocent too. She is also wuite forgiving and believes in accepting her fate and moving on.🖤🖤🖤

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Raavi is sweet, and innocent too. She is also wuite forgiving and believes in accepting her fate and moving on.🖤🖤🖤

Completely agree!! She is so forgiving. Initially she was upset with what happened and blamed Dhara but she quickly accepted her fate and is doing her best to make things work!! ❤️

Originally posted by: chandiniebinda

I relate more to Gaumbi, as being the oldest sibling in a middle class house.

Taking care of everyone and making sure that they have everything that they need and want even if you don’t have the stuff that you need or want..

Putting there needs, desires and dreams before yours…

Specially the scene of yesterday’s episode where Gaumbi just became stressed and irritated because he didn’t know from where he could get the money…

And after doing all this, people still make you feel like you aren’t good enough of aren’t doing it good enough..

I'm the oldest kid in my house and on mom's side too, so I reciprocate with Gaumbi's character the most and you have stated out the points well enough. I feel older kids bear the brunt of the family quite often, especially if they shoulder the responsibility.