Originally posted by: nushy1995
First of all, thank you for voicing out the obvious. Haha, thank you for this well written piece
And no, you are not the only one. I too think they go overboard with their Sanskar and Parivaar Ka Taqat when the reality is different.
TBH, Rishita is a scapegoat for writers to promote Dhara and more importantly, the unity of Pandy Family. Otherwise not a single member of this family has ever opened up to her but they just assume she'll be melted by Dhara's kindness. So bloody true! They shouldn’t use Rishita’s character to showcase what has been shown already in 60+ episodes 🤷♀️ Rishita could have provided a different angle to the story’s narrative.
The biggest blunder had been going ahead with the marriage itself.
Dev gets a lot of bashing for being a mute spectator but he was the only one who actually foresaw what would happen if he and Raavi got married. Keeping his and Rishita's suffering aside, Raavi would never be happy. Dev messed up by not speaking out in time but koi usse pooch leta pehle whether he wants to get married to avoid the ensuing mess. Dhara also saw that he would be unhappy marrying Raavi and tried at her end. That’s why she went to ask for Rishita’s hand and got slapped. That was painful to watch but an important bonding moment. Loved how Dev and Shiva stood up for their Bhabhi and band bajoed Rishita ki sadi hui family. Dev refused to marry Rishita initially but hungama ho gaya on wedding day 🤷♀️ Somewhere I sympathise with the crazy situation he was in too.
Gautam shouldn’t have assumed that just because he fell in love with Dhara, Dev would also love Raavi after marriage. The whole secrecy and kaand happened because of his insistence on this point.
Sure, Janardhan insulted Dhara and his sister (I can't remember her name) slapped Dhara. If you want to honor your Bhabi, don't marry Rishita. Why was it necessary to go ahead with the marriage? Even Dhara requested Gautam to tell Raavi everything but then they went ahead, circus happened and she emotionally blackmailed Shiva and gave Raavi's Mausa Ji the idea to blackmail the poor girl on the worst day of her life.
And now they are being hailed as saviors. No where should they be hailed as saviours. Saviour koi hai toh woh hai Shiva, who agreed to marry a girl he hated just because of his Bhabhi. Keeping Shiva ki underlying feelings for Raavi aside, it was his and Raavi’s sacrifice.
Keeping aside the crackling chemistry of Shiva and Raavi that everybody keep talking about, God forbids if a girl is married under such circumstances and to a guy who is brash and less educated, that marriage is bound to get doomed. I can’t even imagine! 😱 It would be devastating in a real life scenario.
Coming back to Rishita, Gautam made it sound like they got together because of ShiVi. An innaccurate statement. Dev had no spine to begin with and the was Rishita claimed her right, on a normal day any girl with lowest self esteem would come out of her infatuation and call off the wedding herself as Raavi did. Heck! Prafulla herself wouldn't get her married to such a guy. But again, it's all Parivar Ka Pyaar they keep on harping about. In a way, Gautam isn’t wrong on this statement. Dev would have gone ahead with marrying Raavi anyway. Raavi would have agreed to marry him too. If she can marry a guy she hates due to family coercion, she can definitely marry the man who she loves if pushed enough 🤷♀️
Shiva is another Namuna out there. Just because he respects Dhara doesn't mean everyone else will. Even Rishita is her bhabi. He hasn't shown one iota of warmth regarding her but she is expected to do Dhara Jaap all the time. This guy has no problem in shaming Dev about loving another girl. Why? Just because he doesn't have a personal life, can't anyone else have it? Agree to the point of infinity.
The fact that these brothers can't keep their s**t together is evident by the fact that whenever they are left alone, Shiva and Dev fight. DEv can sulk on his own, Shiva can plot but they can't have a proper conversation and it's always Dhara or Gautam who has to come forward with a Belan/Chappal to reunite them.
Again a disfunctionality which is used to show how Dhara/Gautam is the thread to tie all together. This sums up the craziness created. There are far better ways to show the bonding without glorifying one character or couple over the other.
Like other members have mentioned here, it's easy to portray Rishita to be negative because she's not Sanskari and she is selfish and rude and everything else. I agree with them.
But if you remove the veil of Sanskar, Pandya family members are much more problematic than Rishita. At least she is what she is. She doesn't preach something which she doesn't herself believe in. Here people expect something but can't give the same respect to another because she was not Dhara bhabi's choice. Exactly! Pandya parivaar is not doodh ka dhula hua. Their internal misunderstandings have resulted in two majboori wali marriages - one Dhara-Gaumbi themselves and now ShiVi.