DOTW Maachis topic discussed so far

well let me introduce u do dis thread n maachis.

maachis is a debate type of programme in which they discuss topics so far these r da thingz discussed:

mother n daughter in law riots(saas aur bahu k jagre),married men flirting with oda women,arranged marriage or luv marriage,young men marrying old mummy aged ladies.jav i havnt changed my mind its jst dat it woz eid n i cudnt cum online.im gonna shara my views n u guys all post ure comments ok?den we'l compare em a bit to wot they said in da show i'll start da first thing dis evening coz now guys i hav 2 go 2 skul.it was just to tell u dat i havent forgettoen neither hav i changed my mind

first topic to discuss coz its a main problem dats in nowadays they say "no rush to tie da knot".

yes im talking abt marriage well in maachis herez wot we got:

arranged marriage:is gud bcoz

*if anthing goes wrong u can blame it all on ure parents n u dunt feel guilty for it(contray to luv marriage)

*parents know wots best for u and dunt wanna hurt ya

*da person u get married to often be's from ure family n evrybody lyks ding it in their family

*ppl in da family know abt da house n evry thing abt da ppl of da house how theydres,behave,eat etc...

*ppl want to keep their izzat n their family n their society

and now da bad points:

*da gal n guy dunt know each oda properly they rnt dat aware of each oda

*alot of ppl simply dunt want to b in dat position so u cnt force em

*arranged marriage sumtimes brings ppl to forced marriage


n now luv marriage:
gud points:

*da pair has known each oda for a long time n trust each other they hav a very gud understading

*they know evrysingle lil thing abt em for instance
wot they do,wot they wear,their activities,ppl they hang or stay with,etc....so they dunt get any shoks lyk wiv arranged M.

*its a way to unite two ppl who lyk each oda

*lots of ppl r totally against arranged M and desire luv M.
bad points:*

ppl say "is zmane ki mohabbat sachi nahin"

*it breaks alot due to ppl who betray one another

*if ure parents were against it n ran away or u did court marriage u cnt go or dunt hav da guts to go bak 2 ure parents

wel i guess dat woz from da show n u guys plz post ure comments n share ure views with evry1

Originally posted by: euro_pakigal

first topic to discuss coz its a main problem dats in nowadays they say "no rush to tie da knot". [/quote]

cool topic to discuss
[Quote=euro_pakigal] arranged marriage:is gud bcoz

*if anthing goes wrong u can blame it all on ure parents n u dunt feel guilty for it(contray to luv marriage) [/quote]

who ever mentioned this point thinks same as me😆
n i think this point sometimes helps u n sometimes dont
it helps u coz then u can take ur anger out on someone that "You Ruined My Life"
it sometimes doesnt help u coz when things go wrong u just balme it on ur parents n do nothing to make ur married life a "Happy Married Life"

[Quote=euro_pakigal]*parents know wots best for u and dunt wanna hurt ya [/quote]

parents are more experienced than u but sometimes when u r unlucky then this experience doesnt work at all
[quote=euro_pakigal]
*da person u get married to often be's from ure family n evrybody lyks ding it in their family [/quote]

dont get this point

[quote=euro_pakigal]*ppl want to keep their izzat n their family n their society [/quote]

this is the point which can ruin ur life IZZAT i hate it when parents say accept this proposal for our IZZAT

[quote=euro_pakigal]
and now da bad points:

*da gal n guy dunt know each oda properly they rnt dat aware of each oda [/quote]

i think this point is sometimes helpful coz when u get married u have something to do i mean to know more n more about ur hubby whereas if u know them from ages or say from some time then ur life will be boring coz u already know about ur partner

[quote=euro_pakigal]

*arranged marriage sumtimes brings ppl to forced marriage [/quote]

thats true n i hate those ppl who force thier children to marry someone they dont want to whereas in Islam it says that to get married both guy n girl should be happy n accept each other by heart

[quote=euro_pakigal]
n now luv marriage:
gud points:

*da pair has known each oda for a long time n trust each other they hav a very gud understading

*they know evrysingle lil thing abt em for instance
wot they do,wot they wear,their activities,ppl they hang or stay with,etc....so they dunt get any shoks lyk wiv arranged M. [/quote]

i think this point is good n bad both (as i explained above)
[quote=euro_pakigal]
*its a way to unite two ppl who lyk each oda [/quote]

but sometimes love marriages r turned into arranged marriage so this point could also be for arrange marriage

[quote=euro_pakigal]*lots of ppl r totally against arranged M and desire luv M.[/quote]

cant think of anything for/against this point

[quote=euro_pakigal]bad points:*

ppl say "is zmane ki mohabbat sachi nahin"

*it breaks alot due to ppl who betray one another [/quote]

how do u mean that? plz explain
[quote=euro_pakigal]
*if ure parents were against it n ran away or u did court marriage u cnt go or dunt hav da guts to go bak 2 ure parents

yah thats true u cant go back to ur parents but i think when u Run Away with your Lover then u r senseless coz u dont think about ur sis borthers as they will be the one to suffer after u. parents will become more strict n will all the time think that may be they r also upto something

yaaar abhi to shadi kafi door pari hai 😆

😆 😆 Mashal.. u r soo funny!

Good points Moona.. and I agree with most of Aji's points too 😊 however, marrying in family is kool sumtimes but bad too as if one thing goes wrong whole family relations gets affected.

Originally posted by: Mashal

yaaar abhi to shadi kafi door pari hai 😆

mashal i dont think u read da first post properly.its just a debate dat we're having.

yes aji bak to ure points u didnt get
4th quote:i meant dat ppl lyk marrying their children in da family

10th quote:i meant summ ppl simply dont want their marriage arranged n dunt lyk it they just wanna go for luv M its a "shauk" dat has gotten into em.

11th quote:pp say dat nowadays luv in not trustworthy its just a game 4 sum ppl.and luv breaks alot of ppls heart when they hear dat 2 loverz betray each oda.


my views r a bit lyk aji
if a western gal has to put up wiv a couzin in da east and nothing of theirz matches it just duznt wrk out but she had 2 coz he was in da family dat is wrong.derz a big diff between da west n da east da mahaol,da ppl,their sense,da way they think evrything seems weird to both of em if da gal goes to her hubbys home n notices starnged n diff thingz from da west n da guy cumz here without any clue of wher he is and he gets shocked afta he se's his wife.dats one example sum parents dunt look at wot they're doing they're spoiling n destrotying their lives if they wanna arrange da marriag theirself b sure da gal is ok with it coz der r alos sum cases in which da guy n gal havent seen each oda and they just get maaried larki europe mien bethi hui hai aur larka pak mein.otherwise if da 2 hav known each oda n dat they do luv each yes of course prents shud.

luv marriage is breaking alot deeze days due to galz dat ran-away with guys but den they just sat with divorce nor got betrayed now n evrybody is scaired dat they daughter dunt go in dat situation n they b strict on their daughters.if its a tru luv den no-one shud stop em

ppl At least Reply
well its an ORDER SO you all HAVE TO do it
com'on ppl

oh ok i will reply...i saw this thread and i read all da comments but i didnt noe wat 2 rite so i jus read,,i was being silent 4 once


ok so bcuz of ajiz orders i shal reply


but i dunno wat 2 say..u al said it arready