Falling in LOVE..a taboo? - Page 5

Originally posted by: Reshmi_AnYa

Shilpa, Congrats for the first post...Great subject...

Answer to your question unfortunately is yes. Each and every person will agree that falling in love is no sin. But..But..But they wont let own daughter or son to fall in love.

The parents prefer not to step out of the traditional norms when its a matter concerning own kid. Meeta maa told Navya that she is her best friend. When she find out about Anant, all the friendship went to drain and she turned into a protective mother. Agree with the other comments that it's the fear which makes a parent to impose restrictions on children. We can't blame the parents for the fear which rules their mind. The media digs out loads of unpleasant news regarding the youth and it's quite natural that a parent feels that they only can make the right decision for the child. Even a love married couple in our society won't easily welcome the news if their son/daughter falls in love.

Parents should have a better understanding of children. They should realise that its the restrictions that force the children to tell lies. Parents shouldn't behave like Meeta maa who is not letting Navya to speak about her feelings. Meeta maa should speak with the daughter and see whether the guy is good for her. If the guy is bad the mother can explain and make her daughter understand about the same. If the guy is good and perfect the mother should support the daughter and guide her all the way.

Don't know when the Indian youths will get the freedom to choose the life partner. Me thinks, we ourselves should set an example when our on kids grow up😃

Originally posted by: Nidhi82

What a nice topic you have opened..completely thought provoking.

I agree to all of you that falling in love is still considered out of bounds in our society.But I have seen drastic changes in the mentality and way people perceive love marriages.

20-25 years ago, thinks were very different, we hardly used to come across couples who had love marriages.

But now, every other couple I meet is in a relationship or has had a love marriage.😊

Regarding the parents point of view, I think its completely fair on their part of being extra cautious.

After all no parent wants problems in his/her child.A proper and soulful communication is what is needed for the present generation.

At the end its up to us, how we project ourselves in front of our parents.If our actions are one of responsibility and maturity, parents do get our message across.They do try and apprehend our views and our will.

Falling is love is not a sin...it has never been and it will never be.😃It is one of the most beautiful feeling in the world.And everyone has the right to experience that once.😳😃

I am a strong believer in love and love marriages...and just want to say, if you the find your right partner..go all out to get him/her!!!😃

Originally posted by: svkworld2

Thank you Preet (sorry, don't know ur name) for your reply. We have heard the words "friend" many times from the parents mouth but sometimes it looks like a mere term than trying to become one!!

You have raised another important question about religion. I have posted my thoughts on that as well. Would love to hear your thoughts on this issue too.

Originally posted by: robsessed

hey congratulations for your first post...very interesting subject indeed.

Falling in love is not a taboo but meetas behavior is somewhat weird makes us think why parents of today are behaving this strict with their children!!!!she literally is forcing navya to not stand firm with her decision of loving someone.moreover she didnt give anant a chance to prove himself which actually renu di gave him.honestly speaking i didnt expect this kinda reaction from navyas family rather i thought anants family will create chaos..so if navyas family is not granting the situation then lot more hungama will be seen when anants family will get to know the facts.creatives here are trying to impose a wrong idea by showing navyas family open minded yet so conservative at this point of time.anyway the idea of love a taboo is not the concept of modern india so i strongly disagree love being a taboo

Originally posted by: divyasn

People say that when you are loving some one , you don't get to see the negative things .

Once you get married and stay together , then only these things will come into picture, and that may be the reason of failure of love marriages .

I am from a state where love marriage is still kept a taboo. If an elder one does a love marriage ,

it is difficult to get an alliance for the younger one as well .

Regarding me , I cannot live with and adjust to the faith and traditions of another religion .

So no chance of love marriage for me 😳

Originally posted by: ashakd

Is this navya forum or shadi ka forum? ????

Agree with all of u, shadi means compromise, but the benefits, far too outweigh the compromise, so dont mind it.

Shilpa, shall comment on u r post soon.

Originally posted by: patti4

Reserved...

What thought provoking opinions...great discussion everyone...

BTW Shilpa, congrats on ur 1st post! And on what a topic... going where angels fear to tread...

Quickly skimmed the fab posts but looks like no one has yet brought up the elephant in the room ...or am I the only one?...Any guesses on what it may be?...that which strikes fear into every parent's heart regarding their betis...(as well as betas too IMO )...shall spell it out (with the inevitable wrong spelling )when I return later if no one else hasnt dared to...

Originally posted by: chucklebuddy

congo on ur first post..🥳

parents always show some resistance at first coz the children are always not correct in choosing their life partners..😳

Originally posted by: svkworld2

Great and even more thought provoking replies, everyone. Thank You so much.

Will get back to you all once I am in a calm state of mind. Suffering from Monday blues and flustered at work.

But as I was glancing though the posts, 2 things caught my attention :

Religion - Why is religion so engrained in our society? Aren't we human beings at the end of the day and isn't that greater/ above all else. We have read/come across stories were kids were killed because they fell in Love with someone outside their caste. Why? What is the thought process behind their thinking. Are we so prejudiced and pre-determined in our thinking that we can't accept change? Are parents succumbed to society pressures again or is it the family honour that becomes questionable. At the end of the day, are all these greater than your kids happiness/life?
1. Age - We have seen situations where girls are forced into marriage immediately after they graduate. Why? Why can't they work, meet new people? Are parents again afraid that their kids might do something that is again "not acceptable"?? What should the girls/youngsters do at this stage?

Thoughts??