Originally posted by: princessyashika
guys though i agree with u all that tonite gunjan's pain was seriously heart wrenching n thats what even i said as soon as i quoted to ayesha...but i vary in view to all of u in some extent.Gunjan's emotion for what all she feels towards sam constantly trying to make her walk is just perfect from her side...but in my view so is of sam's from his side.Yes he is eager to make her walk...but he has a reason for that...the reason is that he cant see gunjan become weak for a reason that is just so lame like disability.Whether we agree or not...being physically fine is something which that is very important to every human being.For a person who has been born with a disability....it may be a bit easier to cope up with things....but for a person who has always been fine his/her whole lyf....a sudden disablity can become one of the most painful things of lyf.Today if gunjan wudnt have been disabled then she wud have handled the whole situation of samrat denying for marriage in a different manner...the thought that i am no longer worthy of him doesnt come from the fact that "he denied marrying her"....but it comes from her disability.n thats what sam is doing....he wants her to regain that confidence....he never expected that the day she will stand up...she will marry him....but he wants to insticate in her the confidence that whatever happens we will fight for it together.In my view gunjan said that dialouge out of pain...the pain that she wants to stay away from him but he always does something that forces her to realize how much he loves her....n thats what is holding her to him....n thats why she refers to her disability so that listening that he goes away....thats in no way referring to d fact that she expects him to tell "what if hse doesnt walk"..coz she knows even if she doesnt he will still be with her.Its her beauty that she can create a mockery of her own disability even for just one smile of his....n thats what i know as "gunjan bhushan".I in no way agree that gunjan wishes samrat to show "what will he do if she doesnt walk"...she knows that very well....n neither is sam wrong in encouraging her to walk ....coz that is what will insticate the confidence...her fighting spirit back in her...the confidence to take her own stand on their relationship after what all happened on the vnite without thinking that she is disable and hence not worthy of him.Its not that he wants her to walk so that she can be happy with him...but rather he wants her to walk so that she can again become self confident in herself n become happy whether WITH OR WITHOUT HIM.
yashika, I m in no way ridiculing u or attacking u .. m jus telling u something because I feel that I understand disability better than u here .. since my own real, younger brother is spastic .. and that too, for life .. there's no hope for his recovery .. and ther wil never be ..
so, in the above scenario, when we make him feel complete and beautiful .. what do v do? because v cannot give him the hope that he wil walk again, because even he knows and v do, that he never will..! but jus because he never wil. that doesnt mean tht our love for him wil b less in any manner..nor wil it b more out of sympathy..it wil b JUS THE SAME as it was and thats how it always wil be .. so that, and HIS inner strength is an inspiration in life to live it fully and completely ..
and THAT is exactly what sam needs to show gunjan .. he needs to show her that his love for her is not dependent on her recovering again, but it is unconditional..we KNOW it is..but does she? look, when a person is disabled, its not jus a physical issue..its a mental issue more than a physical one .. u tend to think the worse of scenarios .. and its THOSE fears, those insecurities and scenarios that sam needs to forever vanish from her head...because ther is no need for them ..
@ red : her trust in their 'future' was shattered because he doesnt believ in marriage and he doesnt want him to change his beliefs for that..her trust in their love is very much ther .. and it always wil b until she dies, because they are connected by their souls .. BUT what she needs to regain here, is that trust in herself and the fact that if he loves her even now, inspite of all that has happened..is because he loves her unconditionally and that her curing has only a small place in their beautiful world, because even if she doesnt cure, he wil not stop loving her ..
and when she gets THIS, she wil gain the strength to hope for something..to make and live life even more beautiful for her .. and then automatically she wil show a will power and confidence in herself .. and its then and THEN only that she wil cure completely ..
otherwise what wil happen is, that she wil keep on urging her body to walk and walk and walk..wit a continuous fear that "what if I fail? but I hav to go on for him any way..because he believes in it .. " and ALL of her inner strength and energy is gone in first of all, fighting the battles of her head and heart .. and second of all, gaining the strength to be positive even tho ther seems no no hope in the horizon for a recovery - at the moment for her .. but when she has the faith that she is loved inspite of whether she cures or not, she can channelise all that energy into curing herself and recovering herself .. and its then and THEN only that she wil recover..
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