YIKESS !!! SaJan are SO JANUABLE!! - Page 35

Created

Last reply

Replies

608

Views

28.4k

Users

49

Likes

1.9k

Frequent Posters

DiyaS thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 7
Posted: 15 years ago
I'm going to post three stories here ...
Once there was a boy and a girl madly in love. The girl had an accident and lost her legs and the boy told her fervently that it didn't matter, they would be together forever. The girl, wiser, as most girls are, told him to stay away from her for a month, just a month. To go to all their old haunts, with their old friends, and imagine what it would be like to got here with her in the state she was in now, to have to help her in and out of her wheelchair or with her crutches all the time ... The boy agreed and stayed away for a month. She waited hopefully - she was as sure of their love as he was, and she knew he would come back and tell her it didn't matter at all, that he was ready for the commitment.
A month later, when he came back, she got the shock of her life. In a low, ashamed voice, he told her he had done what she had told him to - and he realised she was right. He couldn't live with a handicapped girl. Not for the rest fo his life. And he left - leaving her heartbroken.

Story two - a husband wife got into an accident and the wife lost her legs. She was in hospital for over three months for rehabilitation and getting new legs. During that time, her husband had an affair with his wife's counsellor ... then as his wife was recovering, he recovered his senses and realised that he did love his wife and didn't want to, wasn't going to leave her. The counsellor had resisted the affair for as long as she could and embarked on it, knowing fully well it would not last.

Story three - Husband wife and family going on holiday, got into a car accident, the wife's mother and two other people died, their baby son who was just learning to walk, had his foot crushed and it had to be be amputated - he was just one year old. The parents' marriage didn't survive - they are now divorced.

The third story is fact - I know the husband. Incidents like these CAN wreck lives ... I just think they're showing this quite well ... and Samrat is actually coming out smelling of roses because his love is so strong ... but it could easily have been shaken, both by Gunjan's paralysis and by her pushing him away. And that's why I still love him ( and in my FF he's becoming more and more januable 😉) ... but I can understand Gunjan and her pain very well too.
meens1981 thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Dazzler Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 15 years ago
@ all taadaa....i better go n sleep or am gonna be ranting abt sammy n gunjan in my meetings tomm

@navs, mads, diya....was just giving my POV ...so no offence or hard feelings dear🤗

@gia...will catch u later sweets

@ayesha....lovely analyis...partly i cud see gunjan's pov....wil reply back later

Tadaaaaa n SAJAN dreams to alll😊
..-Jia-.. thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 15 years ago
Bye Meens Di 🤗 It was nice meeting you today!!!
xaviara thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail + 4
Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: ayesha_80

Pheww!!! Its a loong task to read all ur posts.. But wat's happening here.. When i left, everything was fine and now mamla seems to b a bit tensed.

Well guys, before going v discussed Sam, his dedication, love, commitment everything. So, i'll share my views on Gunjan now.
i guess in friday's epi., she said "yun roz roz harney se behter hai, mein ek dafa hi apni haar man lun". We know that this is NOT Gunjan at all. She's always been a fighter and has faced every situation wid courage. But now circumstances have totally changed. She knows that no matter how everyone is being normal in front of her, yet things are not the way they used to b.
U guys may not agree wid me, but the way i see her sitution is that since her accident, there have been instances, where she was left wid no other option, except to look out to someone's help. Firstly, we saw her being all strong and say that i won't let anyone have pity on me, i'll always stay happy so that the others around me also stay happy. But soon after that, we saw her will-power shaken, when she realized that she can't even make a cup of tea for herself.
Then i wudn't go into those devraj bro's times, but even in the last week's holi epi., she told Samrat that she can manage things herself, but wat happened was that she fell trying to sit on her wheelchair. So, another reality check for her, that i can't even sit on my chair widout any help. Being so deeply in love wid Sam, she wud have loved to be in his arms her whole life, but now when he picks her up, it shatters her confidence, and makes her feel as if she's a burden on him. While writing this, i've realized that in yest. epi when Sam bends to pick her up, she doesn't want it. She wants herslf to be self-sufficient and she's every right in doing so.
Then she tried standing up and walking wid the walker, but again fell down. Again a set back, that i won't be able to walk ever. How many times more she has to prove it to HERSELF that life is not the same for me.. Everytime she's attempted these things is bcoz of her own will power, but wat she got in return was the mere fact that I CAN'T WALK..
So, it is but natural that she wud never bear that her disability affects any of her loved ones. I do appreciate the fact that Sam is making untiring efforts to make her walk, to bring her back to normal life. But all these efforts wud've died down, if she never tried. Whenever he said to hold his hand and try getting up, every time she did it. Even today, she stood up, but again she was back on her wheel chair with every hope fall and break on the ground like a piece of glass.
The question here is that y, despite so many attempts, despite standing on her own feet for like a couple of times, she can't take the first step. To me, the answer is that whatever happened wid her on the valentine's nite has made her heart lose the will to recover, the will to b back to the normal life. Her body recovered from that gun shot, but her heart had suffered and mayb died even before that happened. Today, when she says "mujhey bar bar is kami ka ehsaas mat dilao", coz i can handle my life wid this disability but ur being around me, mujhey us kammi ka ehsaas dilati hai, which has come in our relationship. And that kammi has taken my whole life away from me. I want the best for u, bcoz i have always loved u, but i myself am not the best for u.. And when she says this, not even a single tear drops from her eyes because i guess she cannot feel any pain, more than the pain she's actually gone through.



Ayesha I could keep hugging u for this beautiful post hun !!! U said it !!!! *hugs a million times*
ayesha_80 thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 15 years ago
Diya, I'm all wid u in this one. I've seen ppl change drastically after such incidents. I've spent my whole life wid this (as in not in any kind of a relationship, but wid a life-long disease). The word that automatically gets attached to such ppl is "bechari" and to tell u the truth, this word KILLS. Mine is a looong story, wud tell u some other time.
But when i see Gunjan getting up and falling down, i actually see myself falling down. Mayb that's y soon after the episodes, i write updated for u and Mads, coz i have to get out of that trauma myself.
Edited by ayesha_80 - 15 years ago
DiyaS thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 7
Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: meens1981



@diya ....i agree but wasnt sam in d smae baot....he never wanted to get separated from his chahsmish who gave him d confidence that he's worth sumone's love n if that some1 is going away from u , that wud easily kill as well....coz as per his POV as well he was equally damaged when d love of his life didnt understand d victims he's becum becozof his past nightmares's n even after baring his dirty secrets n soul how will he feel when his chashmish had given him na ulitmatum...yes she dis..."mujhe tab rokna jab tumhe shaadi pe vishwas aa jaye." ...had she been d selfless that we know of she shud have fought out his concerns with him.,...but we understoood she was emotionally fragile n vulnerable so she was broekn....now y cant that apply to samrat as welll....just becoz he appears confidenf from outside,,,,...but we all know he's so opp inside. infact more vulnerable coz gunjan had d secuirty of her sis n dad's love ....but he never had nething but for his chahsmish n imagine his plight when that was being santched away from him....i totally agree they need to talk about it n sort it ou....but she needs to listen to him for once for that....am praying evey great gods whether she finds d strenghgt to walk or not let her listen to him once then nothing else hopefully will matter to her



no meens, he isn't in the same boat ... for one, he's not the one sitting in the wheelchair , and secondly, and this is the analysis I was actually thinking about last night and never got down to doing 😕 .... HIS love has been through the test of fire ... he's seen his Chashmish slipping away from him, and then come back as though by a miracle ... the feeling of loss he had when she walked away from him, was NOTHING compared to the feeling that he had when she lay in that hospital bed fighting for her life ... now he KNOWS that whatever happens, he cannot lose her, he will do everything he can to get her back, because losing her is not an option he can live with. Hi vulnerability when she walked away from him, was NOTHING compared to the helplessness and sheer despair he felt when he thought she was dying ...

And I think that is what has given him strength to fight even his own precious Chashmish ... earlier he used to treat her with kid gloves, if she said anything, it was - yes, you're right, you can never be wrong, but now he's saying that no, if you send me away from you, it's wrong, because even death cannot take you away from me, and if you feel it's because you're no longer whole and perfect for me, well, I'll show you that you're wrong by making you get up on your feet again ... the only problem is, that is NOT the whole problem for her. So he HAS the strength and the confidence in their love, and she has lost it ... partly because of the loss of her legs and even more so because of what happened that night. Both the wounds are festering inside her ... and both are feeding off the other ... which one has to heal first is the issue - whether her getting up on her feet again will bring back her confidence, or whether her faith in him and their love will finally push her to walk again. And I think it's the second ... but how he's going to do this, I really don't know ...

..-Jia-.. thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: ayesha_80

Diya, I'm all wid u in this one. I've seen ppl change drastically after such incidents. I've spent my whole life wid this (as in not in any kind of a relationship, but wid a life-long disease). The word that automatically gets attached to such ppl is "bechari" and to tell u the truth, this word KILLS. Mine is a looong story, wud tell u some other time.

But when i see Gunjan getting up and falling down, i actually see myself falling down. Mayb that's y soon after the episodes, i write updated for u and Mads, coz i have to get out of that trauma myself.



Di you know what? I am in the same boat as you. I myself suffer from a disability. Whenever I see Gunjan I see myself. I can totally relate to her. When I was 6 I was found to have this disability and have to live with it for the rest of my life.
DiyaS thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 7
Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: ayesha_80

Pheww!!! Its a loong task to read all ur posts.. But wat's happening here.. When i left, everything was fine and now mamla seems to b a bit tensed.

Well guys, before going v discussed Sam, his dedication, love, commitment everything. So, i'll share my views on Gunjan now.
i guess in friday's epi., she said "yun roz roz harney se behter hai, mein ek dafa hi apni haar man lun". We know that this is NOT Gunjan at all. She's always been a fighter and has faced every situation wid courage. But now circumstances have totally changed. She knows that no matter how everyone is being normal in front of her, yet things are not the way they used to b.
U guys may not agree wid me, but the way i see her sitution is that since her accident, there have been instances, where she was left wid no other option, except to look out to someone's help. Firstly, we saw her being all strong and say that i won't let anyone have pity on me, i'll always stay happy so that the others around me also stay happy. But soon after that, we saw her will-power shaken, when she realized that she can't even make a cup of tea for herself.
Then i wudn't go into those devraj bro's times, but even in the last week's holi epi., she told Samrat that she can manage things herself, but wat happened was that she fell trying to sit on her wheelchair. So, another reality check for her, that i can't even sit on my chair widout any help. Being so deeply in love wid Sam, she wud have loved to be in his arms her whole life, but now when he picks her up, it shatters her confidence, and makes her feel as if she's a burden on him. While writing this, i've realized that in yest. epi when Sam bends to pick her up, she doesn't want it. She wants herslf to be self-sufficient and she's every right in doing so.
Then she tried standing up and walking wid the walker, but again fell down. Again a set back, that i won't be able to walk ever. How many times more she has to prove it to HERSELF that life is not the same for me.. Everytime she's attempted these things is bcoz of her own will power, but wat she got in return was the mere fact that I CAN'T WALK..
So, it is but natural that she wud never bear that her disability affects any of her loved ones. I do appreciate the fact that Sam is making untiring efforts to make her walk, to bring her back to normal life. But all these efforts wud've died down, if she never tried. Whenever he said to hold his hand and try getting up, every time she did it. Even today, she stood up, but again she was back on her wheel chair with every hope fall and break on the ground like a piece of glass.
The question here is that y, despite so many attempts, despite standing on her own feet for like a couple of times, she can't take the first step. To me, the answer is that whatever happened wid her on the valentine's nite has made her heart lose the will to recover, the will to b back to the normal life. Her body recovered from that gun shot, but her heart had suffered and mayb died even before that happened. Today, when she says "mujhey bar bar is kami ka ehsaas mat dilao", coz i can handle my life wid this disability but ur being around me, mujhey us kammi ka ehsaas dilati hai, which has come in our relationship. And that kammi has taken my whole life away from me. I want the best for u, bcoz i have always loved u, but i myself am not the best for u.. And when she says this, not even a single tear drops from her eyes because i guess she cannot feel any pain, more than the pain she's actually gone through.



Ayesha, this was truly, truly beautiful ... especially blue@ 👏 👏 👏 👏

@meena, yashi ... good to get diff POV's, this was a great discussion!!!

@ naveen, mads, ayesha, yashi, meens, jia and any other bhoots hanging around ... have to go now, g'nite, all ... let's see what this week brings for us

PS ... do you ppl notice ... they never tell us in any article what's gonna happen to Gunjan ... first it was whether she will recover from coma or not, and now they still "haven't decided about her paralysis" ... don't you find it strange? Are they really writing the track as they shoot? Find it difficult to blv that somehow!
ayesha_80 thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 15 years ago
Awww. Thanks Naveen. Anyhting for Gunjan.. and dher sari hugsss to u too..
..-Jia-.. thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: DiyaS



Ayesha, this was truly, truly beautiful ... especially blue@ 👏

@meena, yashi ... good to get diff POV's, this was a great discussion!!!

@ naveen, mads, ayesha, yashi, meens, jia and any other bhoots hanging around ... have to go now, g'nite, all ... let's see what this week brings for us

PS ... do you ppl notice ... they never tell us in any article what's gonna happen to Gunjan ... first it was whether she will recover from coma or not, and now they still "haven't decided about her paralysis" ... don't you find it strange? Are they really writing the track as they shoot? Find it difficult to blv that somehow!



Awweh ok bye Diya! 🤗 Talk to you later hun! Good night!!

@Bold: I know it is weird! Every article says that they still don't know what is going to happen with Gunjan's recovery. And yeah I think they do write the track as they shoot!

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".