Pallavi is still not important for Raghav yet - Page 9

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

@bold- this is so beautifully written. The entire post is, and I agree with every word, but this para strikes a chord. The most heartbreaking thing about all of it is, she's happy choosing these people and not being chosen back. Whatever love she gives, it's without the demand (or expectation) of it being returned just as genuinely, she's just happy to love the people she loves.

I think I would also add, that unlike the Deshmukhs, Raghav appreciates Pallavi's gestures, but he is so in his head with his fears, that he is just ruining it for himself.

I don't know what will make him see that. But I think Mandaar is the only one who can disrupt this consistent "I am undeserving" thought process only.

Originally posted by: libran90

I think I would also add, that unlike the Deshmukhs, Raghav appreciates Pallavi's gestures, but he is so in his head with his fears, that he is just ruining it for himself.

I don't know what will make him see that. But I think Mandaar is the only one who can disrupt this consistent "I am undeserving" thought process only.

Oh absolutely, it won't even be fair to compare. But the thing is, his struggles, while very understandable and sympathetic, are all in his own head, and there really isn't a way for Pallavi to feel that care, affection and appreciation, because his words and actions are a bit all over the place right now. And I don't love the idea of it becoming Pallavi's job to do the labour to pull him out of his head- it puts way too much onus of the relationship on her alone. It's one of those things where a shock to the system is needed, as you said, Mandaar seems to be that shock. Meanwhile, I've wanted Pallavi to pull back a little ever since the 'this is my family' day, so I hope we get to see that as well soon.

Isi liye Mandaar ki entry is important.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

It's not just about her importance though, I think. It's also that she does have the moral high ground here, they both know it, and he's actively obstructing her from getting justice. What he's doing, it's plain wrong, he knows, she knows it, she even knows that he knows it, and yet he's still doing it.

Aashi didi,kya bol gaye aap? 😂

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Oh absolutely, it won't even be fair to complaint. But the thing is, his struggles, while very understandable and sympathetic, are all in his own head, and there really isn't a way for Pallavi to feel that care, affection and appreciation, because his words and actions are a bit all over the place right now. And I don't love the idea of it becoming Pallavi's job to do the labour to pull him out of his head- it puts way too much onus of the relationship on her alone. It's one of those things where a shock to the system is needed, as you said, Mandaar seems to be that shock. Meanwhile, I've wanted Pallavi to pull back a little ever since the 'this is my family' day, so I hope we get to see that as well soon.

I don't know why I feel that this Mandaar character is not going to be Mandaar to be honest. Let's see what happens. I feel that Pallavi-Amma-Farhad will solve this mystery. Keerti, she is hopeless to be honest. Even though she isn't vile like Manasi, but I wouldn't hold my breath if she turns vile.

Another thing I feel, even though Pallavi may not want to pull back, Amma will suggest her to do so. Raghav needs to understand that Pallavi is no means to an end anymore and neither she is an outsider. She is his wife, she is family and she is a partner, which means it's a two way street. And also the thing is it is the "Thirsty cannot live without water" situation. Raghav has been so thirsty for love, care, trust, friendship. If he feels that someone will take that away from him then I don't know how Raghav will react. He may have withdrawal symptoms I think.

Originally posted by: parboni

Aashi didi,kya bol gaye aap? 😂

'Didi' 🤣

Main jo boli, samajh aa gaya na? Toh bas phir, theek hai.

Originally posted by: Doc

Agreed to.the core..

He needs a reality.check..!

And wats the use of defending a sis..whi just hates him a lot..

🤣

Doc,congratulations on becoming a Goldie 🤗

Jhoot bolu toh mera saavla rang gora padh jaay 😈

Par I want to see Pallavi questioning Raghav one day what her position in his life is. Is she just a medium of connecting him to his family and maintaining the family or if she actually means anything to her as a person.

Dekho apna Raghav husband achcha hai no doubt. Par galat logo (read: Kirti) k wajah se Pallu ko sideline kar deta hai vo. Sunny ko approve karne k time pe bhi yehi kiya tha. Par iss baar zyaada galat kr raha hai.

Originally posted by: libran90

Not that I am watching on a regular basis, but I have always felt that Raghav does not value Pallavi as much as he does his family. I mean I know they are blood and all, but for Pallavi also D family was no less than blood. She still went ahead and chose him, and in clear words she said, "You are my priority", and she is living up to that statement.

It's not that Raghav does not value her, but I feel that he always values her from a perspective of getting his family back to him. He has a rather conflicting stance, where he feels Pallavi is the reason he has a home and family, but whenever it will come to choosing, he will not choose the very person who brought this family back in his life. And then he has an additional baggage that he thinks he doesn't deserve Pallavi.

As I have seen the show progress, I have seen Pallavi starting out to be weak compared to Raghav. Now, the tables are turning, where we see that Raghav's weaknesses are becoming prominent apart from his behavioral issues. I am actually quite happy that they are showing the growth as well as the chinks in the armour of both the characters.

In my opinion, Raghav will only get a reality check when he will lose Pallavi - when his companion, his partner, his friend, and a woman who has immense faith in him will not be there. That is when he will he will come to terms with his fear of both losing Pallavi and not deserving Pallavi. Thoda sa hi sahi, but he has taken her presence for granted. She needs to walk out on him again. And we also will need Mandaar in the picture. Cause if its friendship cum budding love with Raghav, then it is admiration and respect for Mandaar. Raghav coming to terms with Mandaar and Pallavi's equation and the "khaulna-ubalna" scenario is what will be a fun watch.

In conclusion I would just applaud Pallavi for her capacity to love defective people, who never seem to choose her ever, and she is busy choosing them, be it Deshmukhs or Raghav. I just want someone to go tell that poor girl - "I choose you Pallavi." I feel sad for her, but I hope the makers make up for that via Raghav Rao.

So nice to see you here after so long. I used to always think where you left after Raghav’s redemption track started. You have said it all. Although they have come a long way and it is his intentions to give a closure to her pain as well to save Kirti, even I feel he still doesn’t give her the priority in his life which she deserves. Her capacity to love and care for every one is amazing. I admire Raghav for always being there for his family but I am waiting for the day he tells Pallavi that she is his priority. yes, I would love to see him choose her above every one.

Originally posted by: libran90

Not that I am watching on a regular basis, but I have always felt that Raghav does not value Pallavi as much as he does his family. I mean I know they are blood and all, but for Pallavi also D family was no less than blood. She still went ahead and chose him, and in clear words she said, "You are my priority", and she is living up to that statement.

It's not that Raghav does not value her, but I feel that he always values her from a perspective of getting his family back to him. He has a rather conflicting stance, where he feels Pallavi is the reason he has a home and family, but whenever it will come to choosing, he will not choose the very person who brought this family back in his life. And then he has an additional baggage that he thinks he doesn't deserve Pallavi.

As I have seen the show progress, I have seen Pallavi starting out to be weak compared to Raghav. Now, the tables are turning, where we see that Raghav's weaknesses are becoming prominent apart from his behavioral issues. I am actually quite happy that they are showing the growth as well as the chinks in the armour of both the characters.

In my opinion, Raghav will only get a reality check when he will lose Pallavi - when his companion, his partner, his friend, and a woman who has immense faith in him will not be there. That is when he will he will come to terms with his fear of both losing Pallavi and not deserving Pallavi. Thoda sa hi sahi, but he has taken her presence for granted. She needs to walk out on him again. And we also will need Mandaar in the picture. Cause if its friendship cum budding love with Raghav, then it is admiration and respect for Mandaar. Raghav coming to terms with Mandaar and Pallavi's equation and the "khaulna-ubalna" scenario is what will be a fun watch.

In conclusion I would just applaud Pallavi for her capacity to love defective people, who never seem to choose her ever, and she is busy choosing them, be it Deshmukhs or Raghav. I just want someone to go tell that poor girl - "I choose you Pallavi." I feel sad for her, but I hope the makers make up for that via Raghav Rao.

Even if you're not a regular viewer, you've perfectly put Raghav's viewpoint here.👏