Pallavi is still not important for Raghav yet - Page 7

Originally posted by: Shivi.forever

Wow same pinch dear same five year marriage experience me too.. but i m yet to learn such stuff because my in-laws always support me against my husband because i m emotional as well as practical n he s kinds emotional. So they trust my opinion on certain stuff. But unke support se miya biwi ka argument chalu hi rahega. But we kinda reach a truce. Learnt in d first year itself discuss n decide s d key. Once decided don't back off. Seal d deal. Once do e no going back from both the parties. Now we r a unit.

Raghvi ll also go there but due to dysfunctional dynamics of their marriage they ll take time. But when they get there. There s no going back.. 😊😊

Wow glad know many of your views and experiences ☺️☺️☺️ once marriage is done no going back. Pull and push go hand in hand 😂😂😂

Originally posted by: libran90

Not that I am watching on a regular basis, but I have always felt that Raghav does not value Pallavi as much as he does his family. I mean I know they are blood and all, but for Pallavi also D family was no less than blood. She still went ahead and chose him, and in clear words she said, "You are my priority", and she is living up to that statement.

It's not that Raghav does not value her, but I feel that he always values her from a perspective of getting his family back to him. He has a rather conflicting stance, where he feels Pallavi is the reason he has a home and family, but whenever it will come to choosing, he will not choose the very person who brought this family back in his life. And then he has an additional baggage that he thinks he doesn't deserve Pallavi.

As I have seen the show progress, I have seen Pallavi starting out to be weak compared to Raghav. Now, the tables are turning, where we see that Raghav's weaknesses are becoming prominent apart from his behavioral issues. I am actually quite happy that they are showing the growth as well as the chinks in the armour of both the characters.

In my opinion, Raghav will only get a reality check when he will lose Pallavi - when his companion, his partner, his friend, and a woman who has immense faith in him will not be there. That is when he will he will come to terms with his fear of both losing Pallavi and not deserving Pallavi. Thoda sa hi sahi, but he has taken her presence for granted. She needs to walk out on him again. And we also will need Mandaar in the picture. Cause if its friendship cum budding love with Raghav, then it is admiration and respect for Mandaar. Raghav coming to terms with Mandaar and Pallavi's equation and the "khaulna-ubalna" scenario is what will be a fun watch.

In conclusion I would just applaud Pallavi for her capacity to love defective people, who never seem to choose her ever, and she is busy choosing them, be it Deshmukhs or Raghav. I just want someone to go tell that poor girl - "I choose you Pallavi." I feel sad for her, but I hope the makers make up for that via Raghav Rao.

@bold- this is so beautifully written. The entire post is, and I agree with every word, but this para strikes a chord. The most heartbreaking thing about all of it is, she's happy choosing these people and not being chosen back. Whatever love she gives, it's without the demand (or expectation) of it being returned just as genuinely, she's just happy to love the people she loves.

Originally posted by: meghumonu

It is very difficult for young or teenage viewers to understand the reality and maturity of Raghvi relationship because they are not some teenage couple or a couple from some toxic show. Only people with deep EQ or married people will understand the underlying emotions of these characters.

Ye bhi sahi hai. Coz once u r married u have a lot of different perspective about life. It comes with responsibilities n unvavering trust in d bond. No one takes d other for granted it s just d belief that they r watching ur back which boosts u to take life head on. It takes a lot to reach there tough. U trip u fall u get hurt n what not. But once u r there. There s no going back. After certain time u can actually guess what d other persons reaction to the scenario would be so it ll hurt less coz that was expected. But the sting will still be dre. But we would have learnt to look past that by then..

I feel like if the show survives the next few weeks, then we'll get to see a very beautiful track

love can't come without pain but it will make them even stronger

also I just love how Pallavi has progressed

from blaming Raghav for unnecessary things (before marriage) to becoming so understanding and mature

being with the Rao's really brought back her brain, she's actually using her intelligence now

I fell in love with this show because of Raghav's character but I think the makers have done justice to Pallu's now 👏

Originally posted by: Shivi.forever

Ye bhi sahi hai. Coz once u r married u have a lot of different perspective about life. It comes with responsibilities n unvavering trust in d bond. No one takes d other for granted it s just d belief that they r watching ur back which boosts u to take life head on. It takes a lot to reach there tough. U trip u fall u get hurt n what not. But once u r there. There s no going back. After certain time u can actually guess what d other persons reaction to the scenario would be so it ll hurt less coz that was expected. But the sting will still be dre. But we would have learnt to look past that by then..

Exactly my point!! I still remembered when most of the insta or twitter fans thought after marriage Raghvi will fall in love instantly through their nok jokhs . I was like not possible this couple is very mature for their age and it will not be typical nok jokh falling in love but much more than that!! And here we are after 3 months of the marriage where Pallavi has fallen and express it outwardly but Raghav still hesitates to express though he loves he too!! How beautiful was their journey from friendship, to trust, to attraction and then in love. Each jouney was given due time and portrayed so realistically.

Originally posted by: DivyaaaV

I feel like if the show survives the next few weeks, then we'll get to see a very beautiful track

love can't come without pain but it will make them even stronger

also I just love how Pallavi has progressed

from blaming Raghav for unnecessary things (before marriage) to becoming so understanding and mature

being with the Rao's really brought back her brain, she's actually using her intelligence now

I fell in love with this show because of Raghav's character but I think the makers have done justice to Pallu's now 👏

Its not being with Raos that brought her brain back...its the determined change in Raghav for Pallavis sake..the heartfelt change in him is what made her trust him immensely. And now with him as support she is dealing effectively with VD and Sulo while being nice to Aai and Kaka.

Originally posted by: meghumonu

Raghav is stuck between typical idhar kua udhar ghai!! One hand he wants to save Keerthi his only living sibling and on the other hand he wants to give closure to Pallavi and help her move on with her life because he loves her so much!! It is true love only where it gives you the strength to let go and self sacrifice knowing it will kill you but he is doing it regardless. He wants Pallavi to move on in her life and find someone better suited for her because in his mind he still thinks he is not good for her after all the suffering she has gone because of him. But he do not understand that by doing all this Pallavi is not moving away from him but in return is deeply falling in love with him as her love for him only increases because of his actions. She understands what pure and true love is and for Pallavi family comes before everything and any man who values family is perfect for her. Now seeing Raghav destroying himself to protect his sister she is further falling for him because she knows this man deserves her love every bit of it. If he can do it for a sister who do not even love him then what can he do for her when he falls for her. She still has hopes that Raghav will love him back just like she loves Raghav.

This is reality is it not we did not give up on our love till the last moment fighting to the bitter end expecting that one day he/she will understand and will reply back with same amount of love.

It's not him sacrificing himself that bothers me. And I know Pallu totally understands Raghav in this matter and her feelings aren't not change and may in fact instill the belief once again that he is really a nice person and not what others make him out to be.. That much she knows... And she will not ever give up, I know judging by her declarations and clarity... She has made that clear to Raghav time and again..

@bold: I don't know. I don't think so he will do that and even if he does, it will be kind of hard to understand.... Sacrificing yourself makes sense when you have thought enough about the other person's emotions and his/her happiness, if he gives up on her without understanding her emotions.. I would call it guilt tripping and nothing else... The first time he let her go to Kolhapur, I was totally rooting for it because they needed it... But if this time he does it without even taking a look at the person in front of him or without taking into consideration how deep she feels for him.. I would call him stupid..... Better person ke paas kyun jaane dena bhai? Khud hi better partner ban jao... I have been there in personal life and I have made that choice of I-don't-deserve-you kind of choice and it's cowardish I discovered... If you feel for that person, you work out, you talk, you try, otherwise I feel it's just wanting to get rid of guilt and toxicity...You see the person in front of you and her emotions, and not just your own guilt..

I guess I went off track, and it might not be even related to RR.. But about true love and sacrifices, it's not that simple for me.. Like Pallavi said, insaan bade bade kaam toh kaee baar aasaani se kar jata hai, par chhote chhote kaamon se pata chalti hai asli baat.. Anyways I am not rooting for him to be an ideal lover ya husband, but at least I hope it's intense enough from both sides even through their mistakes... And mostly my problem isn't how he is behaving, but how it's coming out.. It's on the writers.. Not Raghav, I know he feels deep enough for Pallavi, but it's not hitting home.. His conflict isn't doing it for me.. LOL.

Originally posted by: meghumonu

Exactly my point!! I still remembered when most of the insta or twitter fans thought after marriage Raghvi will fall in love instantly through their nok jokhs . I was like not possible this couple is very mature for their age and it will not be typical nok jokh falling in love but much more than that!! And here we are after 3 months of the marriage where Pallavi has fallen and express it outwardly but Raghav still hesitates to express though he loves he too!! How beautiful was their journey from friendship, to trust, to attraction and then in love. Each jouney was given due time and portrayed so realistically.

Pallavi has not confessed her love did I miss something ? She only mentioned her trust in hm.

Originally posted by: Ubiquitos

It's not him sacrificing himself that bothers me. And I know Pallu totally understands Raghav in this matter and her feelings aren't not change and may in fact instill the belief once again that he is really a nice person and not what others make him out to be.. That much she knows... And she will not ever give up, I know judging by her declarations and clarity... She has made that clear to Raghav time and again..

@bold: I don't know. I don't think so he will do and even if does kind of hard to understand.... Sacrificing yourself makes sense when you have thought enough about the other person's emotions and his/her happiness, if he gives up on her without understanding her emotions.. I would call it guilt tripping and nothing else... The first time he let her go to Kolhapur, I was totally rooting for it because they needed it... But if this time he does it without even taking a look at the person in front of him or without taking into consideration how deep she feels for him.. I would call him stupid..... Better person ke paas kyun jaane dena bhai? Khud hi better partner ban jao... I have been there in personal life and I have made that choice of I-don't-deserve-you kind of choice and it's cowardish I discovered... If you feel for that person, you work out, you talk, you try, otherwise I feel it's just wanting to get rid of guilt and toxicity...You see the person in front of you and her emotions, and not just your own guilt..

I guess I went off track, and it might not be even related to RR.. But about true love and sacrifices, it's not that simple for me.. Like Pallavi said, insaan bade bade kaam toh kare baar aasaani se kar jata hai, par chhote chhote kaamon se pata chalti hai asli baat.. Anyways I am not rooting for him to be an ideal lover ya husband, but at least I hope it's intense enough from both sides even through their mistakes... And mostly my problem isn't how he is behaving, but how it's coming out.. It's on the writers.. Not Raghav, I know he feels deep enough for Pallavi, but it's not hitting home.. His conflict isn't doing it for me.. LOL.

I guess most people cannot accept Raghav sacrificing himself for his sister who do not even love him!! That is what hurting them!! They want him to response to Pallavi with same passion and love she has for him. But we have to understand Raghav by nature is not an expressive person and the amount of trauma he has gone through for last 10 years it will not be overnight when he becomes expressive all sudden it takes time in reality and that is what it is shown here.

Originally posted by: RainbowUnicorm

Pallavi has not confessed her love did I miss something ? She only mentioned her trust in hm.

She has indirectly through her actions and words given him hint. Kya hai in dono ke rishte main ishq ka zikar karne k liye lafzon ki zarurat nahin !! Apni adao aur ankhon se hi ishq ka bayan ho jati hai!!