Pallavi is still not important for Raghav yet - Page 5

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav is a typical husband who will take his wife for granted until she leaves him and makes him work for her. Sad reality of so many marriages, this one is no different. He is filled with guilt of hurting her, he does love her even though he may not say it to her explicitly as other couples do, but he does love her. On the other hand, he is filled with guilt of never being there for his family, and being an indirect reason for the destruction of his family. He will not be able to balance the two, because the latter weighs heavily on him over what he's done to Pallavi. The only time he will work to balance the two is when she actually stops working on this marriage and leaves him. I want her to leave, because she's been too understanding and too accepting, and often in real life, when you're all this, you'll be walked over and over by those you love. So once in a while, say, "I'm done with your shit, now you fix it".

I also want Raghav's past to make an entry again. Since they've moved into RR, we've not seen him go to the old annex where he's housed the replica of their home. This is an apt time to bring this in and it may also show viewers why Raghav is choosing his sister and not wife. Like I said, his family weighs heavier on him.

I feel for Pallavi but she's not been strict with him. Bohot dheel di hai, now tighten your hold on your husband woman, otherwise you'll be another secondary citizen at home.

yaa..exactly.he just have taken her for granted now........not much importance over his family.

she seems to have high expectations from him, & he's not being par over it.which makes her disappointed

unless, he values her, he will keep doing that.today for Keerti, tom again for Amma he will do...nothing new in that

Originally posted by: samarp2

& doesnt even give a damn, that her this stupid act, is effecting her brother's marriage

One innocent Farhad life is getting destroyed..

Raghav is ready to sacrifice his life

no value at all, for so many lives being getting destroyed😡😡..selfish much😡

Pata nahi it s deliberate or she has some grudge against these people after they messed up her relation with BEINTAHA pasta wala sunny bunny.

Even then they were all against her so she s thinking it to be a kind of POETIC JUSTICE she s receiving..

I m going paranoid i guess no amount of reasoning or logic s going to explain her this behaviour.

Originally posted by: samarp2

yaa..exactly.he just have taken her for granted now........not much importance over his family.

she seems to have high expectations from him, & he's not being par over it.which makes her disappointed

unless, he values her, he will keep doing that.today for Keerti, tom again for Amma he will do...nothing new in that

Well describing Raghav is like a typical husband not valuing his wife will be too simple defining the Raghvi relationship. Their relationship cannot be compared like a typical Indian Marriage at all. This is one of those rare cases where they both love each other but unable to express it types. This types of couples exist also but are very rare. So I think comparing Raghav to a typical Indian husband will be an insult to depth of the character.

Originally posted by: meghumonu

It is very difficult for young or teenage viewers to understand the reality and maturity of Raghvi relationship because they are not some teenage couple or a couple from some toxic show. Only people with deep EQ or married people will understand the underlying emotions of these characters.

That's the problem, many young audience go crazy when couple goes into fight mode and they can't understand many things. It's need maturity and experience to get the underlying emotions between couple. I hate u and leave me alone, is it true words and mean it??? Not all.. every couple know this emotions when they say it. Unfortunately fd gets separate into hubby vs wife fight mode. Needs to see two side of a coin 🤗🤗🤗

Originally posted by: meghumonu

Raghav is stuck between typical idhar kua udhar ghai!! One hand he wants to save Keerthi his only living sibling and on the other hand he wants to give closure to Pallavi and help her move on with her life because he loves her so much!! It is true love only where it gives you the strength to let go and self sacrifice knowing it will kill you but he is doing it regardless. He wants Pallavi to move on in her life and find someone better suited for her because in his mind he still thinks he is not good for her after all the suffering she has gone because of him. But he do not understand that by doing all this Pallavi is not moving away from him but in return is deeply falling in love with him as her love for him only increases because of his actions. She understands what pure and true love is and for Pallavi family comes before everything and any man who values family is perfect for her. Now seeing Raghav destroying himself to protect his sister she is further falling for him because she knows this man deserves her love every bit of it. If he can do it for a sister who do not even love him then what can he do for her when he falls for her. She still has hopes that Raghav will love him back just like she loves Raghav.

This is reality is it not we did not give up on our love till the last moment fighting to the bitter end expecting that one day he/she will understand and will reply back with same amount of love.

I don't think Raghav wants Pallavi to move on from him or find someone better. He will never give her up. He us not even thinking there. He wants her to have closure from Mandar and move on from that alone. But his way right now is not right. By offering to sacrifice himself he is making Pallavi choose to retract her case from police. Its a battle of wills. He is just being manipulative to both save his sister, and make Pallavi choose him .

Originally posted by: RainbowUnicorm

Well said..actually he is making her choose between Mandar and him...past and future..and he is twisting her hand to make her choose him.

Sorry to differ here. I don't think he wants to put her in such spot. If that was the idea he would have never accepted that he s surrendering to give her closure. It's something else that weighs him down. May be his sister n mom r what he has yearned for all his life. N now this mess he has lost the track of things. He s attacked from all sides. D scene outside Deshmukh's house shows his helplessness. He would never want pallavi undergo same helplessness like him. He values her more than that.. that i m certain..

But it s his flaws to find loopholes s what ll cost him d seperation..

Originally posted by: Ubiquitos

Jahaan tak mujhe lag raha hai it's not about Keerthi vs Pallavi really... It's about protecting his family vs the right/ morally just thing to do... Like practicality vs idealism... In all this, his emotions for Pallavi are kinda on and off and mostly laden with guilt for not doing the right thing or the RR style nonchalance ki I am right I will handle it... I am unable to understand his POV wrt his own marriage in this matter, however conflicted it might be, it's not making sense for me... Apne aap ko jail bhejna kaunsa closure hua bhai if you sit down and think seriously? And especially when that person knows the real culprit is someone else... Oopar se what happens to Pallavi if he goes to jail, Pallavi uss closure ka kya achaar dalegi..

Somebody was discussing a scene on Twitter where Kaka is thanking Raghav and kind of blessing him for being a supportive husband to Pallavi, and that user kind of felt that it was a special moment for both of them as somebody from deshmukh family or a father figure was blessing their marriage... Such an heart touching awiiee kinda emotion I felt reading that post and boom I shift to the show to watch that scene and bro I am disappointed and how... 🥺

Kul milake mujhe toh Raghav Rao apni hi koi trip par gaya hua lagta hai, kabhi guilt trip kabhi protection trip... 😆

Ye meri bhadaas hai, I might change my views btw agar kal ka episode acchha hua toh.. 😆

Yup, Raghav's emotions make sense, but his actions are literally so all over the place, and so senseless, that it's becoming a little hard to connect with him and sympathize for him. He's acting as if Pallavi's agenda is to send any random person to jail, so by going himself he'll solve her issue. How he thinks this will give her any closure is beyond me.

@ bold- that scene was just 💔

I don't mind him trying to protect Kirti, in fact, I expect that, but so far he has made an extremely stupid plan- it doesn't make me feel for him, all it makes me want to do is roll my eyes at him, so thoda sense aa jaaye plot mein toh badhiya hoga.

True, nothing new for him, he's in character. He has still not understood her position in his life, rather he's not realized it yet because he's grappling with so many problems.

And that is why his situation is different. His past has been bad, he has this one chance to fix it and he will do it. It's really not about sister vs wife. But it will become that if she continues to allow him to take her efforts for granted, because she's trying very hard for this marriage and her family (The D's) - basically for justice. He is not trying hard for this marriage because he feels unworthy of being loved by her, this is obvious. A man who has hurt a woman will feel unworthy of her love and will not work on that marriage. This is how they function. Until they don't come out of the guilt trip, things remain in a suspended bubble of unspoken love. Does he value her? Yes. Does he love her? Hell yes! What is stopping him from siding with her over his sister? Practicality. Raghav is not an idealistic man, he's practical. In real life, idealism hardly works....but he's still wrong.

These two have been brought on the crossroad of differing ideologies and their shaky marriage, bad past and family troubles is revolving around these ideologies. Its more about right and wrong over wife and sister right now, but still, RR needs to focus on his marriage too. Pallavi is not a door mat.

Originally posted by: samarp2

yaa..exactly.he just have taken her for granted now........not much importance over his family.

she seems to have high expectations from him, & he's not being par over it.which makes her disappointed

unless, he values her, he will keep doing that.today for Keerti, tom again for Amma he will do...nothing new in that

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav is a typical husband who will take his wife for granted until she leaves him and makes him work for her. Sad reality of so many marriages, this one is no different. He is filled with guilt of hurting her, he does love her even though he may not say it to her explicitly as other couples do, but he does love her. On the other hand, he is filled with guilt of never being there for his family, and being an indirect reason for the destruction of his family. He will not be able to balance the two, because the latter weighs heavily on him over what he's done to Pallavi. The only time he will work to balance the two is when she actually stops working on this marriage and leaves him. I want her to leave, because she's been too understanding and too accepting, and often in real life, when you're all this, you'll be walked over and over by those you love. So once in a while, say, "I'm done with your shit, now you fix it".

I also want Raghav's past to make an entry again. Since they've moved into RR, we've not seen him go to the old annex where he's housed the replica of their home. This is an apt time to bring this in and it may also show viewers why Raghav is choosing his sister and not wife. Like I said, his family weighs heavier on him.

I feel for Pallavi but she's not been strict with him. Bohot dheel di hai, now tighten your hold on your husband woman, otherwise you'll be another secondary citizen at home.

👏💯

@bold- I so see this happening, and it's making me all kinds of annoyed. The last thing she deserves is to be taken for granted again. I said this a couple of weeks ago, but I really want her to pull back a little bit.

He may be feeling all the right things for her- in fact, as audience, we know he is, but if you can't make your partner realize it through your words and actions, then what's she supposed to do with his feelings?

Originally posted by: samarp2

he was always that manipulative...

so clearly he told her, for the past (dead), ur spoiling ur present & future relations..

he was not at all, thinking, from her POV.just being plain selfish & manipulative ( just for sister's blind love)

That was an instant reaction he didn't mean it he said so immediately. It ll take time for him to change he was always little grey shaded he s come around a long way but when it s d question of his sister je would go to any lengths to safeguard her. If it s about justice u r sending someone jail na get ur closure s his saying. But him going to jail s also pallavi's defeat. He needs to calm down n think clearly. He has too much on his plate currently to see anything. He s not clear sighted as pallavi. He sees things from different angle.