Pallavi is still not important for Raghav yet - Page 6

Originally posted by: RainbowUnicorm

I don't think Raghav wants Pallavi to move on from him or find someone better. He will never give her up. He us not even thinking there. He wants her to have closure from Mandar and move on from that alone. But his way right now is not right. By offering to sacrifice himself he is making Pallavi choose to retract her case from police. Its a battle of wills. He is just being manipulative to both save his sister, and make Pallavi choose him .

Well quite a few times he told her that she deserves better than him after what he had done to her. Also I disagree with you on this manipulation part if he truly wanted to manipulate Pallavi he could have easily removed all clues and let Pallavi trying to find out the truth in vain and secretly removed Ved also knowing Pallavi will not trust him over her husband. He is not manipulative here if he was Pallavi would be not even get a single clue and that was his intention but the moment Pallavi told him that what she wants is the closure and her suffering after Mandar's death his stance changed immediately because she cannot she Pallavi suffer all her life just to save Keerthi. So by sacrificing himself he is giving Pallavi a closure and a chance to move on and also saving Keerthi. His character is very emotionally complicated.

Originally posted by: Chahat_A_Doshi

Today when he told Farhad tum aisa kaisa MERA wife ke saath baat kar raha hai

No one talks to RAGHAV RAO's wife like that

It was about him not her

He should have said how dare you talk to Pallavi like that

Why si people value other when they are about to lose them

Seedhe se samajh nai aa sakti he will need Mandy to understand what Pallavi means to him

Ma nr bola shadi kar kar li

Ma ne bold chhod Dr tickets Dr si hai you are free

Pallavi insaan hai chabi se chalne wali gudiya nai

Get it ma behen he has suffered for 10 years and now he does everything to keep them with him

Nibba isiliye approve his nahi toh Hyderabad se get out ho chuka hota

Keerti caused an accident she jasbt reflected reflected on her actions chhodo she is denying it to his face when he has given her details

Dheet besharam nalayak ladki hai

He will be so ashamed in front of Farhad when he comes to know she was ready to throw Farhad under the bus

I didn't tell you anything WHY Disnt you think she could have suffered trauma after causing an accident Speak with her tell her it was wrong an innocent life was lost

He never lets an innocent person suffer did he not think about the family of that victim

Parivar apna nahi doosron ka bhi hota hai

Raghav surrenders

Pallavi doesn't get closure she loses another husband another partner the man she is falling in love with again all because of Keerti

She is so hurt not just because he chose Keerti but he sided with the wrong with injustice he is sacrificing himself he is thinking only about Keerti what about her

Why no one ever thinks about her

Where does she stand in his life what does she mean to him

Pallavi silent treatment de isko

Room nikala

He needs to understand that now there is someone in his life He is responsible for her too

He is now the head of his own family

When u put it like this it makes sense . He s ignoring pallavi n trying to give her icecream while she wants cholocate just like pacifying s child. U need a suspect i m ready to surrender leave my sister alone. By surrendering also she ll be alone. It s her loss in both the scenarios.

Originally posted by: gayatherry88

That's the problem, many young audience go crazy when couple goes into fight mode and they can't understand many things. It's need maturity and experience to get the underlying emotions between couple. I hate u and leave me alone, is it true words and mean it??? Not all.. every couple know this emotions when they say it. Unfortunately fd gets separate into hubby vs wife fight mode. Needs to see two side of a coin 🤗🤗🤗

As I said a person with deep EQ and married person with experience of few years will understand Raghvi equation a bit well than others because they have also gone through same thing what Raghvi is going through in the show.

Bold - Exactly. He is closed off, unwilling to let her into his problems. He spoke of his past and closed off. I knew he will close off because when you've been through something and finally say it to someone you trust, there is this mechanism that takes over to guard you from further questioning. People close off after huge confessions like his. He is feeling a lot for her, but he is still not out of his past and now he will not let her fix it for him in her way. He has to have it his way, almost ignoring the fact that she understands his past and is part of it. I feel like he's been keeping her away from all that after that one day of confession.

It's one reason why I feel that she needs to take one step back, reassess the situation because it's not as simple as she thinks. She will not be able to force him into seeing things her way only because he's hell bent on not letting her do so. If she does not take a step back and let events unfold as they may, then she will do more damage and all her efforts may go to waste. Of course this is a tv show, nothing will really go wrong, but in real life, the moment you overstep that one boundary your husband has drawn for whatever reason, damage is done instantaneously, and all of a sudden, the wife is found to be the culprit. Then onward, many of her efforts are also taken for granted, more like "You did this, now you fix it". That's the last thing anyone wants.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

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@bold- I so see this happening, and it's making me all kinds of annoyed. The last thing she deserves is to be taken for granted again. I said this a couple of weeks ago, but I really want her to pull back a little bit.

He may be feeling all the right things for her- in fact, as audience, we know he is, but if you can't make your partner realize it through your words and actions, then what's she supposed to do with his feelings?

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

True, nothing new for him, he's in character. He has still not understood her position in his life, rather he's not realized it yet because he's grappling with so many problems.

And that is why his situation is different. His past has been bad, he has this one chance to fix it and he will do it. It's really not about sister vs wife. But it will become that if she continues to allow him to take her efforts for granted, because she's trying very hard for this marriage and her family (The D's) - basically for justice. He is not trying hard for this marriage because he feels unworthy of being loved by her, this is obvious. A man who has hurt a woman will feel unworthy of her love and will not work on that marriage. This is how they function. Until they don't come out of the guilt trip, things remain in a suspended bubble of unspoken love. Does he value her? Yes. Does he love her? Hell yes! What is stopping him from siding with her over his sister? Practicality. Raghav is not an idealistic man, he's practical. In real life, idealism hardly works....but he's still wrong.

These two have been brought on the crossroad of differing ideologies and their shaky marriage, bad past and family troubles is revolving around these ideologies. Its more about right and wrong over wife and sister right now, but still, RR needs to focus on his marriage too. Pallavi is not a door mat.

exactly! he's acting just like we expected him to

the only issue his he can't process his feelings with all this guilt looming over him

he got so angry when Pallavi said this isn't what I expected from you because he values and loves her but as you said he thinks practically and he's scared for his sister

he does feel unworthy of being with her so he hasn't realized that she is just as important to him as his Amma and sister

there will be a day when Raghav will realize this and choose Pallu over everything

he'll want to be the best husband and she will be his priority

its just navigating the balance between your family and wife, an issue that many people face in real life

and bechara hasn't even realized he loves her, just wait and see what he will do after he does

only thing is poor Pallu must be hurt because how will she know that he values her if he doesn't express it and stays hidden?

I'm glad that at least Amma is supporting her like true family right now, because she really didn't have anyone to call her own with the Deshmukh's and she can't piece together her relationship with Raghav either

Bold - very true, we often see things from a married woman's perspective but for men, the journey is equally difficult because most of them really struggle to balance their family and wife, especially if they're living together, and in standard indian setting, we live together.

He will come around, but for now, Pallavi should really assess and question where she stands in his life. It's adding more trouble to his already troubled life, but if not now, it will be never.

Originally posted by: DivyaaaV

exactly! he's acting just like we expected him to

the only issue his he can't process his feelings with all this guilt looming over him

he got so angry when Pallavi said this isn't what I expected from you because he values and loves her but as you said he thinks practically and he's scared for his sister

he does feel unworthy of being with her so he hasn't realized that she is just as important to him as his Amma and sister

there will be a day when Raghav will realize this and choose Pallu over everything

he'll want to be the best husband and she will be his priority

its just navigating the balance between your family and wife, an issue that many people face in real life

and bechara hasn't even realized he loves her, just wait and see what he will do after he does

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Bold - very true, we often see things from a married woman's perspective but for men, the journey is equally difficult because most of them really struggle to balance their family and wife, especially if they're living together, and in standard indian setting, we live together.

He will come around, but for now, Pallavi should really assess and question where she stands in his life. It's adding more trouble to his already troubled life, but if not now, it will be never.

yes! and its not Raghav's fault that he his not prioritizing her

he is guilt ridden, but many married men don't even realize what is happening and what is wrong in their relationship

that's why I loved it when she called him out and said this isn't what she expected from him

she'll have to make clear what she wants and make him question what she means to him, only way for him to get over this guilt and address the inner problem at hand (which isn't sunny, keerthi, amma, or mandar)

and likewise he also needs to open up to her again, let his feelings out, he's been guarded since he revealed his past

Not that I am watching on a regular basis, but I have always felt that Raghav does not value Pallavi as much as he does his family. I mean I know they are blood and all, but for Pallavi also D family was no less than blood. She still went ahead and chose him, and in clear words she said, "You are my priority", and she is living up to that statement.

It's not that Raghav does not value her, but I feel that he always values her from a perspective of getting his family back to him. He has a rather conflicting stance, where he feels Pallavi is the reason he has a home and family, but whenever it will come to choosing, he will not choose the very person who brought this family back in his life. And then he has an additional baggage that he thinks he doesn't deserve Pallavi.

As I have seen the show progress, I have seen Pallavi starting out to be weak compared to Raghav. Now, the tables are turning, where we see that Raghav's weaknesses are becoming prominent apart from his behavioral issues. I am actually quite happy that they are showing the growth as well as the chinks in the armour of both the characters.

In my opinion, Raghav will only get a reality check when he will lose Pallavi - when his companion, his partner, his friend, and a woman who has immense faith in him will not be there. That is when he will he will come to terms with his fear of both losing Pallavi and not deserving Pallavi. Thoda sa hi sahi, but he has taken her presence for granted. She needs to walk out on him again. And we also will need Mandaar in the picture. Cause if its friendship cum budding love with Raghav, then it is admiration and respect for Mandaar. Raghav coming to terms with Mandaar and Pallavi's equation and the "khaulna-ubalna" scenario is what will be a fun watch.

In conclusion I would just applaud Pallavi for her capacity to love defective people, who never seem to choose her ever, and she is busy choosing them, be it Deshmukhs or Raghav. I just want someone to go tell that poor girl - "I choose you Pallavi." I feel sad for her, but I hope the makers make up for that via Raghav Rao.

Originally posted by: gayatherry88

It's pain but that's the reality. We all experience in our life's. I never who love and pain is bigger on a couple because both are right on their on own ways. Many things we can't say it too loud instead we need to understand their actions and emotion's. Husband and wife relationship is very different from others because love, hurt, pain, possessive, jealousy everything would high when we love each other a lot. It's a journey, which is painful but yet beautiful ❤️❤️ that's what I learned on this five years of marriage 😊😊

Wow same pinch dear same five year marriage experience me too.. but i m yet to learn such stuff because my in-laws always support me against my husband because i m emotional as well as practical n he s kinds emotional. So they trust my opinion on certain stuff. But unke support se miya biwi ka argument chalu hi rahega. But we kinda reach a truce. Learnt in d first year itself discuss n decide s d key. Once decided don't back off. Seal d deal. Once do e no going back from both the parties. Now we r a unit.

Raghvi ll also go there but due to dysfunctional dynamics of their marriage they ll take time. But when they get there. There s no going back.. 😊😊

Originally posted by: libran90

Not that I am watching on a regular basis, but I have always felt that Raghav does not value Pallavi as much as he does his family. I mean I know they are blood and all, but for Pallavi also D family was no less than blood. She still went ahead and chose him, and in clear words she said, "You are my priority", and she is living up to that statement.

It's not that Raghav does not value her, but I feel that he always values her from a perspective of getting his family back to him. He has a rather conflicting stance, where he feels Pallavi is the reason he has a home and family, but whenever it will come to choosing, he will not choose the very person who brought this family back in his life. And then he has an additional baggage that he thinks he doesn't deserve Pallavi.

As I have seen the show progress, I have seen Pallavi starting out to be weak compared to Raghav. Now, the tables are turning, where we see that Raghav's weaknesses are becoming prominent apart from his behavioral issues. I am actually quite happy that they are showing the growth as well as the chinks in the armour of both the characters.

In my opinion, Raghav will only get a reality check when he will lose Pallavi - when his companion, his partner, his friend, and a woman who has immense faith in him will not be there. That is when he will he will come to terms with his fear of both losing Pallavi and not deserving Pallavi. Thoda sa hi sahi, but he has taken her presence for granted. She needs to walk out on him again. And we also will need Mandaar in the picture. Cause if its friendship cum budding love with Raghav, then it is admiration and respect for Mandaar. Raghav coming to terms with Mandaar and Pallavi's equation and the "khaulna-ubalna" scenario is what will be a fun watch.

In conclusion I would just applaud Pallavi for her capacity to love defective people, who never seem to choose her ever, and she is busy choosing them, be it Deshmukhs or Raghav. I just want someone to go tell that poor girl - "I choose you Pallavi." I feel sad for her, but I hope the makers make up for that via Raghav Rao.

yep! perfectly said

I also think he'll only understand when she's going to leave him

there was a time when I never wanted a separation between these two but I think its needed now

I'm just hoping he gets over his guilt by that time so he doesn't think Pallavi is better off with Mandar and lets her go

they both need closure and he needs to realize his feelings for her by then, otherwise we're going to get a lot of heartbreak