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--Hope--

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

Fizi:

I agree

right now if priya really wants to communicate with aditya she does not need advise from a woman because the lens is wrong

she needs advise from a man only then she will know how to get through to aditya

believe me there is a difference

remember when adi asked her for that first kiss and later too

everythime chinu was her counsel

he always helped her understand Adi's actions and mindset

a woman cannot do that

men understand men

women generally understand other women

if you want to cross the aisle you got to connect with someone from the other side of the aisle for assistance

vidya, imli, uttara and especially devyani are useless to her if she is really looking to connect and communicate with aditya

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 13 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: --Hope--
Mind Your Own Business Mom

but she wasn't listening

in fact this is a trend of her with her sons

she has so many issues with her husband as a man that she treats her sons like puppets to vent all that silent rage on her husband. With Aditya especially she has always felt maternal insecurities at his long standign closeness with his dad

she was a bad mother to Gaurav - forcing him into a compromising situation instead of accepting him for his reality and trying to help him not Vidya or her husband

she was a bad mother to Aditya today - being his accuser rather than his confidante and support

with a mother like this who needs an enema (sorry I meant enemies)

horrible just horrible

she has issues being treated as a doormat by her husband but through his relationship Aditya has always been concerned and sensitive to Priya. He made one error in judgement that does not make him his dad??? That was so below the belt coming from her, as a mother I am ashamed.

Today when Aditya needed her as HIS mother she was busy playing Priya's mother

If you cannot help Devyani do not criticize and wrongly accused - hold your tongue

She needs to realize Aditya is not the problem

The communciation between Aditya and Priya and Priya's undefined "ask" is the problem

Mind Your Own Business Devyani

Leave these two grown ups alone

Shame on you for comparing your son (who is already going through hell and back) as a husband with your own husband who was a rapist, a philanderer, a incestous lover, a manipulator and now a stalker and potential murderer.

Really you see your son in this light???

shame on you as a mother.

The fact of the matter is that a Man's manual to relationships is very different than a woman's manual to relationship

Priya has a problem. Fine.

but she has to explain her problem clearly

that is what communication in a marriage is all about

how can she expect him to understand when he sees the problem differently??

in professional relationship management they tell you that conflict resolution is only achieved when the issue, the outcome and the expectations are clearly outlined

nothing of the sort is happening here

priya wants HIM to understand, HIM to change, HIM to grovel and beg

if he does all of this priya he will not be HIM, he will be YOU

Don't set out to change him that will be a lose-lose situation for you

a win win situation is communicating, understanding, accepting and trying. NOT CHANGING

that will not happen

friendships do not come to lovers. love comes to friends. that is the order of things. if you don't get it then seek divorce. that is the only solution.

friendships do not come to lovers. love comes to friends. that is the order of things. if you don't get it then seek divorce. that is the only solution.

I agree with this point and all the other points as well. Devyani tries to dominate and tries to get her way. Especially with her sons.
Poor Adi. Even his mother is not able to give some sort of support and rather ordering him, 'come home and behave' as though he is a school boy. Bossing over?

Edited by rightnow - 13 years ago

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julliemehta

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Posted: 13 years ago

#13

agreed with HOPE

i dont find any problem in Adi

Adi has to go away then only Priya will understand Wts Adi's place in her life

Adi did lot many things for her

even becoz of him only she found her enemy

she got courage to fight bcoz of Adi only

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FIZK6

@FIZK6

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Posted: 13 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: julliemehta
agreed with HOPE
i dont find any problem in Adi
Adi has to go away then only Priya will understand Wts Adi's place in her life
Adi did lot many things for her
even becoz of him only she found her enemy
she got courage to fight bcoz of Adi only

Priya already knows she wants to be with Aditya but he needs to think about her too.
To him, getting close to Priya is the solution.
To her he needs to understand her.
They need to communicate.

Yes, Aditya did do a lot for her but Priya also did a lot for him too. Aditya gave her the strength to fight and live. During their one year of marriage she tolerated everything for Aditya.

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--Hope--

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: julliemehta
agreed with HOPE
i dont find any problem in Adi
Adi has to go away then only Priya will understand Wts Adi's place in her life
Adi did lot many things for her
even becoz of him only she found her enemy
she got courage to fight bcoz of Adi only

Julie

I hope they do not show Adi acting lke a whipped boy

he can go quiet and try to understand but not whipped

i had enough of that with pratgya

i left that show because they emasculated krishna to make him chick flick material the show ended up becoming an indian version of will and grace sitcom

i also really hope they do a good job explaining priya's problems

right now i cannot see how adi has affected her feelings and self respect other than the incident he has already apologized or repeatedly

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--Hope--

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Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: FIZK6

Priya already knows she wants to be with Aditya but he needs to think about her too.
To him, getting close to Priya is the solution.
To her he needs to understand her.
They need to communicate.

Yes, Aditya did do a lot for her but Priya also did a lot for him too. Aditya gave her the strength to fight and live. During their one year of marriage she tolerated everything for Aditya.

understand what fizi

cvs need to explain that

her compliant seems to be the old incident nothing new since then

when I as the average woman don't understand how can he as a man

men dont work on the emotional plane like us they work on the physcial plane this is reality

if we want them to travel to our plane we need to show them the way, the ladder, teh destination

remember men and directions their default programming does not allow them to ask fora map which is why they have to use the trial and error way

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Pirated_Fun

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Aditya might have manipulate the situation to sleep with her but he never forced her

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--Hope--

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Posted: 13 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: --PiaSenGupta--
Aditya might have manipulate the situation to sleep with her but he never forced her

@bold how pia?

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FIZK6

@FIZK6

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Posted: 13 years ago

#19

I am continuing this from another thread.

Only after Priya feels she can trust and rely on Aditya, only then can they be with each other and only then will Aditya be able to break down with Priya at his side.
Everyone is telling Aditya he needs to be strong for the family, but what about him?

Aditya has always been able to talk to Priya about everything, more than he has with his mother.
At the moment his marriage is questionable, his mother is a victim of someones nasty game, his maasi is pregnant with his dads child, alot is happening and he is trying to hold everything together.

Leaving aside his issues with Priya, the guy is going through a lot emotionally too but he himself is not thinking about it. And when he does he is going to need someone to help him get through this and only Priya can do that.
Like how in the past Priya was a timebomb waiting to go off, its him now.

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 13 years ago

#20

I dont call it manipulation but his sheer physical need. And the ambience created by the mischievous Imli.

Men are like that. Give them some attention and they begin to dream. Here it is his estranged wife.Not some other woman.

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