Originally posted by: aishwish
hummm..aish,welcome my mate.. great to have you comment..I looked it, yep tu theek bole chorri.. essay hai... me chuckling.. ole ole . ..aache ah ja giving you a ... a high five.. daya ,warrie se pooch, hammie, when t comes to showing affection, lowers ,eyes, looks the other way and walks off in silence... but tera saath, crooked smile and high five...😆
Hey hamlet, a very well written post! Had a great time, reading. So, first of all thank you for the write up. The way you have summed it up, it's touching the boundries of being "perfect" Waise toh you have said it all, still my two cents. me humbled...
Every relationship, that kala was endowed and the equation she shared , was secondary, to her, the prime being "bhau and tai" relation. Always maintaining the belief that she controls dutta, she didn't even herself realized when dutta became the driving force behind each n every action and reaction of hers. so do we then deduce, that she did not know her self that well after all,and that she too showed signs of being a slave to her own inherent weakness of revenge and greed.This then is the basis of greek tragedy, where a powerful, well placed persona has a personality flaw , that eventually destroys the person...
Indeed she's a strong human character,who belongs to the category of those, who believe themselves as the writer of their destiny, preferring to ignore the fact, that there is God, who holds their, hand helping them write it. Another similarity between the bro sis duo, only difference, dutta assumes himself as craver of his destiny, while kala hallucinates herself to be that for others as well, a prime reason behind "why kala is kala and dutta is dutta"..interstingly pointed out Asih, so we give her the benefit of doubt of having mental health issues..due to what she witnessed in the past. So we thus create an empathy towards her ...and where there is sympathy ,there may be justifications for her actions...
I'm sure kala and AS must have their share of "mother daughter" moments, but in the whole show through out never kala could be seen recalling them , reason? She was always busy accounting the moments where her brother was being loved by her mother, she very fondly remembers and crib that her half brother still enjoys this facility of resting his head in her mother's lap, but very easily she prefers to ignore the fact that due to all the nourishing and nurturing, now her own ego has become so big fat that it restrains her to go to her mother and accept her faliures. I agree that AS lacked the staunch essential motherly strength, quite many times, but what kala expected from her was the justification of her misdeeds, which if she didn't, she can't be blamed!!! But, yes I agree that children like kala needs special attention from parents, which AS, being the single mother raising four kids, must have failed to do, if only any such special grooming could be provided to her durig her growing years, there are chances that she would have been a quite toned individual. aish, you have written this section beautifully...very moving.. so more if onlys.. I agree the woman needed support, emotional support, more so from her mother,as it is common place concept that a mum is a daughters , best friend, a sholder to cry on.But in Kala's case this did not happen.. all her mother's attention pewtered off towards the needy 5year old Dutta.. and he was a male child.. so perhaps, she thought it overthe years to galvanize herself with enough hate ,that would empty her outof the milk of human kindness!..become a toughie!to show her mother that she was no less than a man!,she was intelligent, and strong enough to take risks like a man!. Asih, look at her marriage, she thought that if it was a companion she needed who would understand the gremlins in her closet, which her mum couldn't , she was rebuffed, for Kishore failed to calm her past emotional hurt. Even motherhood , failed to give her life meaning.. her wound festered and became a cankerous sore.. in the form of Dutta! So can we deduce that AS should have been vigilant to the signs of her daughters two pronged emotional truama.. one losing a father, and second accepting a new member in the family...an adopted boy!... yesss Kala needed what we call here Victim Support, and then AS should have followed certain strategies.. helping kala to accept this killer's boy!
Even with her sisters, who were her blood relatives, their equation with dutta proved the base of herequation with them, till they hated dutta, she loved them, the moment they didn't she hated them , not for once before locking them, she considered what, who and how they have been to her, it was only dutta.agree totally, hating him and going against every one who sided him was her driving force..on a path..of punishing her mother for what she failed to do suppoert her when she needed her mother the most...
With her hubby, too, because kishore could not meet the stature of dutta, neither could support or help her manipulating dutta, just like sudarshan, she played a disinterested wife to him,Even as a mother, she saw her child as a pawn to fulfill her desires against dutta, even a Mother couldn't over power the Tai in her! well said...but Kishore never could get to grips with her pyshic,she did n't want moralistic lectures, told time and again , your'e bad your'e bad... she wanted some one to love her and say... it's ok I understand why you did, do what you do, i'll help you fight it ..
With nakusha and baaji toh, it was obligatory on her part to hate them! But as far as why her hatred towards "dutta's women"couldn't be taken as a normal sister-in-law's insecurities is concerned, IMHO, it's because normally, when a sister-in-law gets insecure due to another woman in his brother's life, she doesn't plan to kill her, like she did with sups, with naku, she didn't needed to do so, coz the way tasha's marital life accelerated, no body could imagine, it'll reach the destiny called love, when it actually took place, before she could do anything, she was thrown out of what she claimed "her home", and when she came back, within few days she had decoded this "nakusha ke chehre ka raaz" and knew that things are gonna back to square one. Quite possible that if after the second marriage, things have been normal between Baaji, naku and dutta, kala would have kept herself occupied with plotting schemes to harm naku, or back fire baaji's work projects, and may be her horrendous act of planning dutta's accident could be postponed.again,Asih,a brilliant paragraph,with Baji he was yet another destitute adpoted male, brought onto the family ,courtesy of Dutta... she perhaps hated him , as he was seen as Dutta's strongest male bonding relationship. she knew he was Dutta's confidante, some one on whom dutta off loaded... previously she was the one... so again some one she considers her own.. she has to share with another.. and that may be the issue with Naku also... sharing dutta with another... so Asih.. has Kala got a problem with sharing... phele AS ko share kerna .. use ladke ke saath..
As far as her yearn for ruling the "dutta's world" is concerned, for me it was just the same way an adolescent tries to use his father's shaving kit or tries to wear her mother's saree. Coz the only thing he/ she could probably see being in the place of his/her parents is the perks, totally oblivious of the responsibility it brings with it, or the sheer hard work it requires, or the sacrifices it demand. The underworld which she knew, was a place where trading of such stuff took place, which if done by abiding the law, would cost heavy duty, not even in her dreams, this realization stuck to her, that this could be a place where flesh is traded with the same merciless coldness as objects and had it not been "dutta bhau" associated with her, strong chances that destiny would have led her to a circumstance similar to nakusha. She was aware of the fact that just mere the name of DSP is enough to make a bullet, coming towards her, take an about turn, but very easily decided to be unaware from the number of bullets; DSP took to build a stature so high, that even bullets were scared of him. The whole play of female don by her, to me, was just as children play chor police, being completely unware, what it takes to be a thief or cop! She was manipulative, through out her life she manipulated, others, but what led her to her doom was the fact while playing this manipulating game, which often went dirty, she didn't realized that she manipulated herself, the most, she illusioned that she needs dutta for his money, she ignored that she needs him for her survival, just like a parasite!!! 👏 fantastic paragraph.. aur kya bolon main... however, just a couple of things.. ok, so it appears that the woman hangs on to her brudders big name, bold name.. so no harm can come her way, so protection hai use Dutta ka naam ke...so that means ke she can do willy nilly.. in others words she could have been a worst person, operating out side the law.? aur come on Asih... she is the same as Dutta when it comes to becoming a Don...the woman is willing to take risks... think about it . Asish... Kala is a risk taker!Tashaan!
The "kala dutta" clashed that was witnessed, was inevitable, even if SP would not have been killed (accidently) by DP. As long as dutta and kala's path crossed each other in any whatsoever way, it would have happened. Reason, they both were similar in almost every trait yet poles apart on ethical background'''.such pairs are born to clash! TOUCHE!
Well that was all from my side, and just now I've realized that post transcended itself from being "post" and it's more like an essay, making people yawn'lol, and to top it all, I'm confused that was I evaluating kala's relationship with others or simply bashing her..lol.
phew! hooo haaa ..me breathless... nehi oye kurriye... loved every single word ju tune lega hai..chaal chance to mila mujhe to get to know you a bit... thank you sooo much.. for the time , effort you put in both ,Kala and 😆 me.haaa.. chaal ab tere meherbani... much love xx hammie
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