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Originally posted by: Dancingdoll
@Adi, I don't have any doubts on whether she has the "right to information" or not...She does!! I dont have any doubts that she shld seek for answers as the future/current(this status would always confuse us!! 😆😆) DIL...With Dutta and Naku thinking about a future together, have taken steps to move towards that direction, she automatically gets rights to all the secrets and information in his life and vice versa!!...So, I have no questions about it....I dont mind her being curious and asking AS about the secrets....My issue was the "demanding tone"....My issue were the words used by her, something like, "You would have to give me answers" or smethng to get the answers from AS!!!....I dnt think she deserved to use tht tone with her secret lurking behind!! I totally agree, that AS was tryign to hide the secret forever and NAKU anyways intends to tell him, "One day" (probably when he wuld become blind due to old age and it woudlnt matter anymore whether she is fair or dark!! 😆) but nevertheless, she defn has all intentions to tell him!!!...And that is not my problem....as I said, I dnt have issue with her seeking information...AS reaction that Naku has witnessed since last week, definitely calls for snooping and investigating....but my problem is the tone!!!....She never appreciated the same tone used on her by others like Baaji for instance, he asked her to reveal the truth in the shed!!....or..Dutta had begged her just before CP's entry to tell him the truth, and what did she have to say - "Mein Kya bolegi saab"...I mean what???😲😲😲...that has to be the most insulting, hilarious and out-of-place line ever...can make anyone reach the edge bcoz of tht....You, who has always verbally confessed your love for me from the roof top, just ran away from my proposal and u have no explanation??? and u r wondering "what possibly can be said for this mess????"...this has to be the most preposterous response!!!😲😡.....Imagine if AS tells her the same thing - "Naku, Mein kya bolegi?".....wouldn't it be enough to go and bang ur head in frustration????.......This is what I meant by the tone....She needs to see herself in the mirror before she uses "demanding" tone!!!I am not trying to make her commit two wrongs, I am trying to make her understand that she is dng one wrong and is moving deeper into it and I am trying to make her mind her tone based on her own conscience!! I am not stopping her from investigating the AS's secret!!!Also, I strongly believe that you can never hide truth from the subject...he would eventually come to know and the more u delay, the worse the consequences.....Babi having issues in revealing, well, I will better not touch upon tht topic because then I would totally kill Babi😡😡....Not sure whether that woman nowadays even knows what she wants in life......I expected her to be happy for Naku, that finally Naku has found her happiness and finally the time has come when Babi can "happily" remove the soot from Naku's face and "free her daughter" from this prison!!!....She would be more than happy to do it....Wasnt she the one who told Naku long time back tht when she finds a suitable guy for her, she herself wuld take the onus to remove the soot!!!....Well,My blood boils to even think about Babi in tears and eating her paloo!! She can curse Dutta for "freeing" Naku from this marriage but when he wants to go ahead with this wedding, she doesnt want her daughter to remove the soot as tht wuld destroy her happines...How is she planning to keep tht secret from dutta forever, after the marriage???But I do object to Naku, waiting infinitely for her mom to come to terms with the whole change and then a green signal from her mom to reveal the one secret on which Dutta has had a right for a long time....But I guess, as someone put it before, I have become "immune" to this whole FR thing....I am now OK, whenever FR happens...I just feel tht the need of the hour is Tasha scene....They have to yet reach the zenith of their relationship...they have jsut started......
Agreed! Of course given the advantage of knowing that she herself is guilty of hiding a big secret from Dutta, we are absolutely justified in feeling that she perhaps loses a bit of her "moral" right to be demanding an answer. And in that tone!!! No-No!
But as I am the devil's advocate, i still believe that her secret and the secret aayisaheb wants to bury, forever, cannot be brought on the same pedestal. Of course, Aayisaheb could have a much valid reason to shield dutta, but nakusha has never asked anyone to keep mum about her secret like aayisaheb wants her to (woh toh Dutta ki kismat hi aisi hai ki koi, including anna's men haven't teased him about the magical beauty of his wife 😆😆).
When people are carrying a guilt of hiding a secret, confrontations almost always get them to speak up. When Baji absolutely forcefully confronted Naku, she did reveal the truth to him. I completely agree with you that she kept mum about this when Dutta probed. She could have simply come clean, but i give the benefit even in that case simply because he began by saying how her being "not so good-looking" was one of her assets. It was a time when she was not even equipped to face her own fears- almost alone in that conflict within her. Now she has Baji to atleast share her mind with in case Dutta reacts impulsively. That one moment when Dutta wanted to know her reason for running away was not so appropriate to reveal the truth as both of them were not really in a "composed" state to talk it out- we know that although he did put up a calm front, he was agitated and when you've to reveal something that is almost "unknown" to you too, to a person you don't want to lose, that is certainly not the time you'll find any courage to do it. Post that, thanks to all the madness (read: Babi digging the graves for them) yes, she can be charged GUILTY!
But, being the Devil's Advocate- let me use the theory of "Mens Rea" to support my point. Mens Rea deals with the "guilty mind" but in terms of 'intent'. On the one hand you have a person who has absolutely no intention to speak up the truth, even on being caught and confronted - twice- once by naku and then by Dutta- a person who in turn asks Naku to keep mum about everything. And then you've another person who is keeping a very big secret too, but definitely INTENDS to reveal it because she knows she cannot step into the new-found relationship of love without being transparent and truthful and her support systems aren't really encouraging her in anyway to face the consequences of her decision to reveal it to a rather impulsive person. Can you hold both of them equally guilty?
About the tone- yes it does not sound right at all- but we're judging that tone based on our existing advantage of knowing her truth, without even witnessing the entire conversation between the two. Remember, she is confronting her mother-in-law, who holds a lot of authority to deny her the answers- whether the justification is valid or not for this denial. Yet, Naku knows that if not coaxed she would never share those reasons that are perhaps giving her so much grief from within. Just as Baji was forced to let Naku break her silence and share what he could visibly see was eating her up, Nakusha too wants to get Aayisaheb to share her mind. I do not think we should read it as being "authoritative" to just know the secret. She is concerned about Aayisaheb too and so, in an event when she knows how hell bent the lady is about destroying all evidence of the secret - Nakusha has no other option but to force this truth out - she is very well aware that Dutta will catch up with this truth faster than Aayisaheb can even hide it!
And no, I am not defending Nakusha's guilt at all - but we must not connect this secret with the one she is shielding, because though her reasons for keeping mum are foolish, she is very very aware that the relationship needs to be transparent and she will eventually speak up her truth (I hope much before they turn old only gazing at each other 😛😆🤣). Yet, why does it never bother anyone that this man - who is so powerful - has never bothered to ever check on her background in terms of what was really bothering her or sit down with her and really talk to her about her past! 😊 It would encourage her to speak up, knowing that he is interesting in knowing her as deeply as she wanted to know him!
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