Pradeep Has Done Nothing Wrong!!

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Ankit

@ankit_nyc

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

Why all this hate for Pradeep? What has he done wrong? Should he be forced to stay in an unhappy relationship? He is willing to support the kids and Mona financially... What else can the man do? He is not happy with Mona...Divorce is fairly common these days, so why this much hoopla over a divorce? Right or Wrong choice, every human being has the right to make that choice...I personally don't agree with his choice, but I sure am not gonna deprive him the right to make that choice...Pradeep has given Mona a great opportunity to gain confidence and prove herself in the professional world...Mona should be thankful for the opportunity. As far as kids go, Pradeep has done his part as much as Mona has...He has provided financially for them like Mona has provided for them in other ways...Mona hasn't exactly done a great job as her son is ill behaved and the older girl is a thief... 😕 I hope Pradeep finally finds the happiness he deserves with Anu. 😛 Kalyug hein...every man and woman for themselves... 😛 why should a man have to suppress his dreams? Mona chose to and Pradeep chose not to...Should he be hung for that? Should she be turned into a saint for staying in a bad marriage and not being able to support her kids financially? 😕

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@test21

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Posted: 13 years ago

I would say one thing...each individual has a right to lead their lives as they want, provided they do not cause any harm/pain to anyone else...

I would say Pradeep was not wrong if he could jusify where Mona went wrong...just because he suddenly felt that he always wanted to be a "bada aadmi"...does not give him the right to leave the lives of 4 ppl in a throttle...

If you noticed, it was all about him...he had other dreams...he wanted to be a rich and successful person...he all of a sudden started loving Anushka...

It was never that the relationship between him and Mona turned bad..or they were not compatible...

Pradeep proved himself as a selfish human being who put his desires/needs/suddenly developed charm for a different life above his family...

Providing school fees/home expenses etc.is not the only responsibility of a father/husband.

I agree divorce is quite common these days, and would be correct too in cases of irrevocable differences between the couple...

But here the reason is infidelity...and divorce is not a solution to it.Its just a way to break free from a relation which doesn't exist anymore...If you love someone else, please break free from the current relationship you are in, before you even think of having any sort of relation with anyone else...The least any person in a committed relation can do is move out of it, before you get involved with anyone else...I think each and every relation deserves that amount of honesty and trustworthiness...and moreover the way Pradeep is portraying things is as if he is doing a "help"/"favor" by providing for Mona and the kids. The Kids are his responsibility too.

Mona has to call him in order to discuss about kids n all? Shouldn't he have the basic courtesy to let his wife of 12 years know that he has decided to move on and how their lives will move on from this very point of time?

For me, Pradeep is wrong as he did break his wife's trust/ has been extremely selfish/ and should handle the situation in a better way.

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pravku

@pravku

Beginner

Posted: 13 years ago

A divorce or separation is the worst thing to happen to the kids no matter whichever way you want to justify it. Kids don't beg to come into the world... parents bring them into this world. Once there, parents have to provide them with a healthy conducive environment. Pradeep's character has been portrayed nothing short of a male hooker who is sleeping his way to the top. Hundreds of ambitious men attain their career, money and fame sacrificing time with their family and working extra hours and maybe in different cities...all while loving their wife and kids unconditionally...doesn't mean to attain success, you mentally scar your kids for life. And once you have broken one relation..where does it end?

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mbtv_india

@mbtv_india

Beginner

Posted: 13 years ago

nothing wrong??

Pradeep has 3 kids, and before leaving he didn't even see his kids, and didn't even tell them when he'll see them again. He failed at understanding his responsibilty towards them pretty badly. He is a man who can not differentiate between right and wrong. A woman who wanted to win his lost love back after 12 years, makes him believe that he loves her, and he starts believing that. He is a man who doesn't understand what is love, commitment, or responsibility. He wanted growth in his career, I can understand that, and every man or woman want to grow, but not at family-cost. Winners are the ones who can manage both ends family and career. Pradeep is a complete loser.

It was wrong only if they were having any kind of disagreement before Anushka came in their life. They were leading a life full of love. Pradeep doesn't realise what he is loosing because he has been brain-washed by Anu. Pradeep-Mona shared pure feelings of love. Anu only used dirty tricks just to win him over Mona.

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Ankit

@ankit_nyc

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: mbtv_india

nothing wrong??
Pradeep has 3 kids, and before leaving he didn't even see his kids, and didn't even tell them when he'll see them again. He failed at understanding his responsibilty towards them pretty badly. He is a man who can not differentiate between right and wrong. A woman who wanted to win his lost love back after 12 years, makes him believe that he loves her, and he starts believing that. He is a man who doesn't understand what is love, commitment, or responsibility. He wanted growth in his career, I can understand that, and every man or woman want to grow, but not at family-cost. Winners are the ones who can manage both ends family and career. Pradeep is a complete loser.
It was wrong only if they were having any kind of disagreement before Anushka came in their life. They were leading a life full of love. Pradeep doesn't realise what heis loosingbecause he has been brain-washed by Anu. Pradeep-Mona shared pure feelings of love. Anu only used dirty tricks just to win him over Mona.

😕 It was all a sham like Pradeep said...he wasn't happy... Now he is happy... 😛

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mbtv_india

@mbtv_india

Beginner

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ankit_nyc
😕 It was all a sham like Pradeep said...he wasn't happy... Now he is happy... 😛

He failed to find out where the real happiness lies. Seeing your child performing on stage for first time, getting a reward for performing good in school, or having pleasure out of an EMA? He failed to see the beauty of a mom, failed to see a woman playing dirty tricks on him.

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Kalapi

@Kalapi

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

I actually agree with you. People in relationship does sadly fall out of them, priorities does change...even love marriages do break...it is sometimes a normal progression in a relationship...now the question is that the younger generation (specially this generation) believes that no matter what because the couple is married they have to stay together...maybe because of 'duty'...but can one just 'perform' (in the fullest sense)the duty of marriage because they at one time got married...there are countless instances in our society where husband have affairs and the wife looks the other way because of their inability to withstand societal pressure or their inability of support themselves financially or emotionally. We can argue that a couple once married should always stay married, but it does happen that way sometimes and people do become unfaithful to each other... if they just continue a relationship just because they are married...to me both at that point become unfaithful to each other...of course sadly the 'children' of such marriages are the victim in the truest sense, and one would like that there were no children involved in such scenarios...but reality is much different...in reality there are women like Mona in real life who believes blindly in their husband and think performing their wifely duty will ensure a smooth married life...but sometime, one person does move on sadly... the number of divorces happening these days in India only attest to the this...

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Kalapi

@Kalapi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: pravku

A divorce or separation is the worst thing to happen to the kids no matter whichever way you want to justify it. Kids don't beg to come into the world... parents bring them into this world. Once there, parents have to provide them with a healthy conducive environment. Pradeep's character has been portrayed nothing short of a male hooker who is sleeping his way to the top. Hundreds of ambitious men attain their career, money and fame sacrificing time with their family and working extra hours and maybe in different cities...all while loving their wife and kids unconditionally...doesn't mean to attain success, you mentally scar your kids for life. And once you have broken one relation..where does it end?

I agee with you about Kids didn't beg to come to this world...consider this scenario...say Pradeep was alcoholic and in his intoxicated state he constantly abused Mona...could you till advise Mona to continue staying to with because of Kids...as divorce could harm the kids mentally...I feel both are similar instances...how could the kids grow up in a situation where the Dad has a physical relationship with 'another' women...kids are extremely perceptive...it is better for them to learn that there are limits in a relationship than to learn accept everything because of 'marriage'...my POV

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Anjali

@blyton

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

I am one of that minority which believes that an amicable divorce is better than a hostile marriage. Also, an EMA is ethically wrong but human nature being what it is, it would be naive to expect that it does not happen in the real world. It does happen even in India, in the middle class and in small towns. Watch an episode of Sach ka Saamna, Aap ki Kachcheri or Crime Patrol to find out.

I would not like to take the moral high ground on Pradeep wanting to leave Mona and move on with Anushka. It is true that frustrated ambitions can drive a person to the point where he becomes insensitive to the feelings of others. But imagine what a world would be where everyone thought only about themselves! If tomorrow, Mona feels that her kids are a liability and she could have achieved much more in life, would we forgive her for leaving them? NO! Why? Because she is the mother and has a greater duty? Why such double standards?

In my eyes, Pradeep's greatest fault is not in having an EMA but in lying about it for SIX MONTHS and admitting it only when he had no possible chance of hiding the truth anymore. The second fault is that he thinks only FINANCIAL support is enough for his kids. Let him and Anushka take responsibility for the kids for just one week. Then they will know.

I would not like to abuse Anushka for all this. As manipulative as she is, it's not she who is answerable to anyone. Pradeep is, and he can't escape the flak for what he has done. People are hanged for following their heart when it doesn't even hurt anyone else--take honour killings for example. Then why should Pradeep be exempted for throwing four innocent lives to the winds?