de DESIRE to have a child of his OWN - Page 7

Originally posted by: mudraswathi

Thank you Sujatha for reproducing Gyneac's views here... as a doc, she is correct... but why we are unable to look into the fact 'What is making girls opt for career than the maternity?'

We encourage girl children right from their studies to reaching the moon and takeup risks. We all have fought in the entrance exams..performed well in the interviews...running our companies on the right tracks... managing everything... these are giving us sense of importance, self reliability... show me one person who can live a decent life without them..either she is an emotional wreck or a submissive bahu...

Apart from the self satisfaction, the most important and one cannot ignore is earning money... I repent even today, I couldnt be of any help to my mother when she was in a deep trouble..

In all, if there is a balance in the society for women, social status, special credits (like accept motherhood break as a normal one)... we may find a solution

Mudra...we had this discussion earlier too in another context...the luxury of choice...the choice to opt for a career or not...in this case, much of these arguments including the gyanec's are valid primarily becasue Nidhi has the luxury of choice...she has no external pressures on her whether it is her career or money.,...she has the advantage of being able to time her career...she has a family that will stand behind her like a rock and support her choices...

However, I agree with you that we need large scale reform...maternity related breaks need to be factored in while looking at resumes, we need better childcare faciltiies at work...ideally, if women and men could take turns in having kids, life would be so much easier 😉

I wish men and women could take turns in many things including having Kids!😆 But alas.. it aint possible! I had read the Gyanec's view on FB Sujatha Ji and I do support her to a certain extent. I m running behind career myself and amidst that marriage and family life ceases to be important. Reading your discussion has really opened my eyes! 😛 Coming back to Ashu, I feel his desires are not expressed well yet! Thanks to his articulation skills, he is still learning to put forth his POV's. I do see a growth in it since he has got married, but the heart to heart convo which could help his wife understand his needs is missing!! Poor Ashu😭

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Mudra...we had this discussion earlier too in another context...the luxury of choice...the choice to opt for a career or not...in this case, much of these arguments including the gyanec's are valid primarily becasue Nidhi has the luxury of choice...she has external pressures on her whether it is her career or money.,...she has the advantage of being able to time her career...she has a family that will stand behind her like a rock and support her choices...

However, I agree with you that we need large scale reform...maternity related breaks need to be factored in while looking at resumes, we need better childcare faciltiies at work...ideally, if women and men could take turns in having kids, life would be so much easier 😉

Originally posted by: pooja.philip3

I wish men and women could take turns in many things including having Kids!😆 But alas.. it aint possible! I had read the Gyanec's view on FB Sujatha Ji and I do support her to a certain extent. I m running behind career myself and amidst that marriage and family life ceases to be important. Reading your discussion has really opened my eyes! 😛 Coming back to Ashu, I feel his desires are not expressed well yet! Thanks to his articulation skills, he is still learning to put forth his POV's. I do see a growth in it since he has got married, but the heart to heart convo which could help his wife understand his needs is missing!! Poor Ashu😭

For the first time, he stated his desire categorically yesterday..but he still did not take her into confidence and explain his reasons...she might have been more sympathetic if he had done that and also assured her of his unstinted support with regard to her career and also child rearing responsibilities!

For the first time, he stated his desire categorically yesterday..but he still did not take her into confidence and explain his reasons...she might have been more sympathetic if he had done that and also assured of of his unstinted support with regarding to her career and also child rearing responsibilities!

Originally posted by: Libra

For the first time, he stated his desire categorically yesterday..but he still did not take her into confidence and explain his reasons...she might have been more sympathetic if he had done that and also assured of of his unstinted support with regarding to her career and also child rearing responsibilities!

@sujatha.rao

You never know, the way KPji is being all logical and realistic, he might surprise us by doing just that.

I think maybe a possibility, is that Nidhi might see him at the hospital in the new born nursery, visiting with the babies, and also maybe overhear, some conversation between him and DB at the bday party, where he tries to explain Nidhis POV, and tells DB that he loves her enough to sacrifice his dreams etc, so that Nidhi can have hers. Or somthing along these lines, and maybe she will understand, and give him his present after the party and they are alone.(just dreaming, nothing in life is this simple, but hope toh kar saktein hain na 😳)

Yeah...having started on it, I wonder how long he can leave it unfinished...cause this issue is bound to be there like an invisible barrier between them even if they choose to not discuss it...better they talk about it and figure out some way of dealing with it!

nice post tanu..actually Yes..To have one own Family Is the main desire in Ashu..She want His family to be complete and also age is one major factor...