de DESIRE to have a child of his OWN - Page 3

Originally posted by: sun29

nidhi is definitely not wrong either...as someone posted she needs that assurance from her husband that nurturing a child is both thier responsibility not hers alone...give her space to think about it,let her finish her internship ...let her feel that security and that conviction that a child would be both their priority not her's alone ...she is a understanding and wise girl...instead of emotionally pushing her to his decisions it is necessary to hold her hand and assure her...

I think Ashutosh realizes this...and he is doing exactly this...in terms of not pushing her...and the discussion on shared responsibilities may not go well when her mind is so firmly against the idea...so he has chosen not to push his luck...a very sensible and wise approach!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

I think Ashutosh realizes this...and he is doing exactly this...in terms of not pushing her...and the discussion on shared responsibilities may not go well when her mind is so firmly against the idea...so he has chosen not to push his luck...a very sensible and wise approach!

Good post Tanu. Desire of becoming parents is every married persons reality. Ashu is not an exception. Being orphan or insecurity may be there but I don't think that is shown till now as a reason, it is only we feel. I feel his only concern is his age as he wants to be a father and fulfill all the duties towards his child and time is running out of his hand. Last episode he told Nidhi that they should understand each others wish and majboori. His majboori is his age.

Originally posted by: koyelbasu

Good post Tanu. Desire of becoming parents is every married persons reality. Ashu is not an exception. Being orphan or insecurity may be there but I don't think that is shown till now as a reason, it is only we feel. I feel his only concern is his age as he wants to be a father and fulfill all the duties towards his child and time is running out of his hand. Last episode he told Nidhi that they should understand each others wish and majboori. His majboori is his age.

Originally posted by: koyelbasu

Good post Tanu. Desire of becoming parents is every married persons reality. Ashu is not an exception. Being orphan or insecurity may be there but I don't think that is shown till now as a reason, it is only we feel. I feel his only concern is his age as he wants to be a father and fulfill all the duties towards his child and time is running out of his hand. Last episode he told Nidhi that they should understand each others wish and majboori. His majboori is his age.

You are right, Koyel...Age is the topmost factor so far as Ashu is concerned...but, although he is not verbalizing his feelings, his insecurities are definitely a factor...it is these latent insecurities that have been triggered off by DB's words and brought up this demand for a child... and he is worried that he won't have the opportunity or enough time to enjoy these bonds that he longs for if it is left till too late...!

Originally posted by: koyelbasu

Good post Tanu. Desire of becoming parents is every married persons reality. Ashu is not an exception. Being orphan or insecurity may be there but I don't think that is shown till now as a reason, it is only we feel. I feel his only concern is his age as he wants to be a father and fulfill all the duties towards his child and time is running out of his hand. Last episode he told Nidhi that they should understand each others wish and majboori. His majboori is his age.

agree with you..koyel.. Chalo koi toh hain jo ashu ke pov samajh rahi hain..

Originally posted by: ithasme

agree with you..koyel.. Chalo koi toh hain jo ashu ke pov samajh rahi hain..

Originally posted by: Armu4eva

Age is one of the issues. .cannot b the only issue..! DBs AGE AGE jaap is the trigger.. there can b various latent emotions..which can come into play in this..! 😳

@Sujatha... i agree marriage is about one partner giving a bit more than another.. but this is not the issue that Nidhi has to give in... infact she has given the most since the start.. and it is time Ashu encourages Nidhis dreams n supports them..! She din say NO to him.. she just asked for some time... n i think.. Ashu isnt that old that he cant spare that much time.. esp when we live in the day n age of Rupert Murdochs Michael Douglas .. who r all late fathers with younger wives! 😊

Time is not the issue, Tanu...the question is how much time...but that is a call that neither spouse can take independently...it has to be a joint decision after factoring in everything...and yes, it is not uncommon for older men to become fathers...although Douglas already had children from his previous marriage...his children with Catherine Zeta Jones are not his first...

I am not saying that Nidhi should fall pregnant tomorrow...but her asking for a few years seems a little unrealistic to me...but again, that is entirely a matter of opinion!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Time is not the issue, Tanu...the question is how much time...but that is a call that neither spouse can take independently...it has to be a joint decision after factoring in everything...and yes, it is not uncommon for older men to become fathers...although Douglas already had children from his previous marriage...his children with Catherine Zeta Jones are not his first...

I am not saying that Nidhi should fall pregnant tomorrow...but her asking for a few years seems a little unrealistic to me...but again, that is entirely a matter of opinion!

Tanu ji, baat kritz ki nahi hain..Meri Baat ashu ke POV par hain..