Originally posted by: --Jenny2017--
Hello everyone.The end of the show did come as a shock to everyone and it's after-effects are clearly visible,atleast on me.There is a huge emotional void which will take some time to recuperate.
Anyways,wanted to share something today.Below is a post made by one of my friends Disha.She followed our show and we often had lengthy discussions about it.She is a shy and reserved person and hence dosen't participate in discussions here on IF.However she does post her thoughts on a few media portals like Fuze.I had asked for her views on Dev and Sona not being portrayed as divorced even after the makers literally showed Dev getting engaged to another lady(Nisha).Also they kept addressing each other as "ex" throughout the course of S2.She gave an interesting reply and it's worth a read.
Do let me know your thoughts on this post.Here it is-
Dev and Sona's reunion track or rather their entire relationship status over the course of Season 2 is directly interconnected with the live-in track.Logically speaking,Dev and Sona could never have been divorced.It takes a quite a few months to get a divorce and if that was the case Dev would have definitely learnt that Sona was pregnant with Soha.Since he had no clue about Soha it's obvious that Sona and the Boses had immediately left for Kolkata after that fateful separation night.The writers deliberately kept their relationship status ambigious throughout the course of S2.By scripting the live in track the writers openly declared the superiority of love over marriage.Every single character in the show backed the idea of live-in.Neha,Sona,Riya and Dev strongly spoke in favour of live-in.Dev even went to the extent of saying that Nikki and Lakshya's relationship without being married was much better than his and Sona's pre-leap marriage relationship.The writers clearly stated that love is far more significant than marriage.Marriage is only a formality,if two people truly love each other,then their relationship will definitely blossom.Now,let's compare the two couples by keeping Love vs Marriage as the context.Nikki and Lakshya were not married yet their relationship was as good as it gets.They did not need marriage to stay together under the same roof.Why was that so?It was because they loved each other deeply.On the other hand,Dev and Sona were technically still married yet their relationship was nowhere close to being ideal.Why was that so?It was because they did not acknowledge their love for each other.They initially hated each other's presence,then gradually became friends but the acknowledgement of love was not there.Since love is the most significant factor(which was missing),they could not stay together simply even though they were married.In both cases,the writers defied the importance of marriage in building a successful romantic relationship.Nikki and Lakshya were as good as husband-wife even without being married but Dev-Sona refused to even call each other as husband wife even after being bound by the institution of marriage.As long as Dev and Sona did not love each other again,their marriage held absolutely no relevance.They called each other as ex-husband and ex-wife primarily for two reasons-
a)They believed that they had no rights/haq over each other since their love had been crushed after the separation.There was no point in calling each other as husband and wife because it was a relationship only for name-sake.Infact when Sona wanted to get Dev remarried to Payal/Nisha,Elena had asked her to stop Dev,to which Sona replied-"Main Dev ko bhala kis haq se roku.Mind you,she was still Dev's wife but for her(and also for Dev)their relationship was null and void because there was no love in it.By agreeing to get remarried,Dev and Sona were ready to let go of each other.Why?Because there was no love to hold them together.
b)The second reason due to which they addressed each other as "ex was for convenience.If they called each other as husband-wife,then they would have to behave like a couple in front of public.By calling each other as "ex they freed themselves from the burden of behaving like a couple,considering that there was no love between them.I'll just digress a bit here.For the outside world,Dev-Sona were divorced.I mean,it's obvious that the Dixits would not have told people that Sona had walked out of her marriage.It would have been embarrassing for them if they told the public that the Dixit daughter-in-law had walked out of her marriage.It's obvious that they would have told people that Dev is divorced.This also explains why they kept calling each other as "ex.This also explains why Nisha had said the following dialogue to Dev-"Aapke divorce ko 7 saal ho chuke hain.Outsiders like Nisha would have been told that they are divorced.
So the point is that Dev-Sona had simply given up on each other because they felt that there was no love between them.For them,the absence of love meant that their marriage which happened 8 years ago was just a mere formality which could not bind them together and hence they were ready to let go of each other.The crux of the matter is-For Dev and Sona,it was love and not marriage which would make them husband-wife in true sense.When there was no love,they felt that they were as good as divorced.When Sona finally proposed Dev,love returned in their relationship and they acknowledged each other as husband-wife.
The purpose of the live in track and the reunion track was to establish the supremacy of love over marriage.It is no coincidence that we had the live-in track immediately after the reunion.Dev and Sona's reunion was a track whose foundation was laid on emotions and not on logic.
On one hand we had Nikki-Lakshya who were staying together like true life partners even without marriage and on the other hand we had Dev-Sona who were as good as divorced since there was no trace of love in their relationship.For Dev and Sona,their marriage had become null and void in the absence of love.As soon as love returned in their lives,their marriage automatically became valid for them.
Since the track had such a beautiful emotion to convey,I happily overlooked the fact that the writers had compromised on logic and had relied totally on emotions.The reunion and the live-in track were such beautiful parallel tracks which gave out a very clear message-Love alone can help two people become true life partners.Love(even without marriage)can make a wonderful relationship but a marriage without love holds no relevance and such a couple is as good as being divorced.
As I said,the two tracks were so beautifully interconnected that I'm more than happy to accept the compromise of logic.The writers used their fictional liberty in a wonderful manner.Infact,it's a brave step from them to give so much significance to love considering that our Indian daily soaps place so much weightage on marriage.If this was any other show,the live-in track would never have been handled positively(they would have portrayed Lakshya as a negative character trying to take advantage of Nikki).The writers initiated a debate on Love vs Marriage and proclaimed Love to be the winner through two tracks which were wonderfully interlinked.The best part about this entire scenario is that the same message was conveyed in two ways through two different tracks and two different couples-one couple who were life partners and soulmates even without marriage and the other couple which was at loggerheads even with marriage.In both cases,it was Love which was the decisive factor.
Ishwari wanting Dev-Sona to remarry is very simple to explain.Dev-Sona were married only for 5 months and then they separated for 7 years.Ishwari wanted them to renew their 7 vows before making a fresh start to the second innings of their married life.
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