Originally posted by: Shaavi
Yosho, I am a working woman. But I don't agree with anything that you said. I work for my happiness. My husband supports me if I have extra work in office. If not I am the one who is with the kids. Not because he forces me to, but because I want to. I come home and cook, not just one meal for the whole family, but I make different dishes for each of them. Not because I am forced to, but because I want to. Work is in it's place, but family comes first. I don't want to "grow" if it means hurting my family. Yes I spend a little more time with our kids than my husband. But I don't see that there is nothing wrong with it. Both of us love our children and both want what is best for them. Both my kids love and look up to me not because I am a professional or that I buy the things they ask for. But they do that for the love care and the priority importance I give them. When I make them the dish of their choice even after having a hard day at work, they appreciate me for that. They respect me for making them a priority and giving them importance.
My mom is a homemaker. After my father passed away she worked hard to give us an opportunity to have a life. She fought for us, protected us, was there for us. She didn't put herself as more important than us. And for me I couldn't have been more proud of my mom. She gave us such values that today we are praised for them.
Recently I was talking to one of my colleague. He is around 60 yrs old and has grand kids. I have seen him work like 18 hrs a day. He is very smart and intelligent and is also adept in technical knowledge. While talking to him for some topic I answered if I have to make a choice between my career and my kids, I choose my kids in a heartbeat. And he said I applaud you and respect you even more than that. Family is important. You shouldn't let other things consume you and take you away from that. And he was telling me that when he is with his wife, he is shut down to the world. Cause she is there at other times, so he wants to be there with her. His idea of a gift for his wife -- hand written coupons which can use any time she wants. And all of them are something that she could get easily with money outside but getting them from partner can give such a marital bliss. Usually they are like I will give you massages, will be your beck and call maid for a week etc. and he was saying that he has been doing this for like years and his wife loves it. Even more than the other gifts hie buys with money.
I do not agree with anything you said. What Sonakshi is doing is very selfish and all she wants to do is satisfy her false pride and ego. I am really glad the makers are showing that family is important more than what Sonakshi is doing.
Wow I never thought I would get a response like this!
Firstly I don't agree with what you said.
For me, this dichotomy between her work and her family has never risen. My mother is exactly like you. I mean does everything you said you do and by her choice only and we love and respect her for that.
But I don't get why this point is rising? Did we ever see sona giving more importance to her job? I never felt so!
And even if she did or any woman does... Why is she called selfish?
For you your family may come before everything, for someone else it might not. Or rather it may be equal just as I have always felt with sona.
So your point is she should sit at home? Or do her work from home so that she can be close to sona?
I am appalled that she is being called egoistic and selfish and what not just because she wants to make a name for herself!
But I guess should have expected it.
It's clear we will never agree on this so I will stop here.
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