*Season 2, Week 13* Analysis Thread - Page 12

Originally posted by: gmgi

Another beautiful episode to drive away the Monday blues.😃

Sonakshi thinks that her father is perfect, that he is superman. Because that is the image she has of her father, and this was amply supported by everyone in the family. Saurabh knows that his father is not perfect and doesn't have any out of the way expectations from him. And he doesn't try to play perfectly to the perfect tunes of his father too. He is closer to his mother and loves everyone in his family. But none of them have tried in any way to put a blemish in the perfect image Sona has of her father. Actually they have worked as a team to maintain it.

In the first four years of his life before Sona was born, Saurabh might have seen an angrier version of his father who might also have unintentionally hurt his mother. But after Sona was born Bijoy might have changed a lot to the milder version we have seen in S1. She was his pride and joy and he wanted to be a better human being just like Dev felt when Sona came into his life. His family supported him in this genuine attempt. Just like Bijoy is the only one who annoys or belittles Saurabh, it is only Saurabh who annoys Bijoy sometimes even going out of his way to do so. Bijoy supported Sona in all her ventures and she kept him her ideal and tried her best to fulfill his dreams. There was a stark difference in the way he treated his kids, supporting Sona in every way he could while making it an "in your face" to Saurabh most of the time telling how she has become a perfect daughter to him. Saurabh rebelled in his own way but never showed his hurt to Sona for they loved each other and he was the only friend she had. This explains why Sona went with the cheque to IN to return the money instead of Saurabh. If it is her Baba's pride in question it has to be Sona who answers it.

Asha and Dida had let him have his way only mildly reprimanding him for the way he treated Saurabh.But now Asha have decided to break the illusions of both her husband and daughter. Until now she never realized that their equation and these illusions were hurting anyone. But her eyes are now open to the fact that Sona expected the same what she believed Bijoy to be from Dev. When what she believes itself is non-existent how it could become true and whatever Dev does will never amount to her father's perfection. She has finally found the problem in their upbringing and is taking measures to make it right. She got her confirmation from Bijoy himself when he asked for her assurance that he was the best or a good father and husband and that Dev had asked him if Asha had never found any faults in him ever. The perfection that Sona wanted from Dev was a Herculean task for him and it would never have been a reality. This expectation of her alone was enough to doom their marriage. This was the reason why Asha didn't reassure Bijoy out rightly like she usually does and said that they made it work together.

If anyone can make Sona understand what she expected from Dev was next to impossible it is Bijoy. If he realizes what this perfection has done to his daughter's life he would definitely be more sympathetic to Dev and genuinely help him because Bijoy is the way to Sona.

Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts kindly.

Yesterday was jam-packed with profound conversations and introspections. Really appealed to the DQ's heartstrings that were demanding dard-e-dil since Friday.

Sonakshi says that her father is the best, Bijoy on the other hand is questioning if he is a good father or not. What that is meant to put across is that even though all of us are imperfect, for a daughter, her dad is always a hero. Just like Dev is for Golu (Like me, Vicky does very little for Golu's heart too!) & Soha and Bijoy is for Sona.

And the much talked about dialogue (I copied it from Suchi's blog) "Hum ek doosre ko blame karne mein kabhi der nahi karte, agar der karte hain to ek doosre ko samajhne mein karte hain'.

Humaara rishta hi aisa hai, toh agar tumhe kisiko blame karna hai na, iss rishtey ko blame karo"

What this conveys is that even though Dev & Sonakshi were very much in love with the other and their intentions were always right. However, they failed to put their marriage (rishta) above everything. They were not selfish enough to defend it from the external forces. Like Asha said to Bijoy, Asha and Bijoy decided to place paramount importance to their marriage. Unlike Devakshi, whose rishta was the weakest link in their lives!

Later in the episode we see an awesome exemplar of how partners should complement each other. Soha wanted to hear a bed-time story and Dev wasn't around. Sonakshi tried but her story wasn't fun. (By the way, Sonakshi ko Dev kee "stories" sune bina neend nahi aatee????). So, in Dev's absence, Sonakshi had to deliver Dev's story to make it worthwhile for Suhana. As much as dads are supermen, sometimes they are stuck too. As much as love is magical (aka Soha's fingers have magic, yet her dad was unreachable), sometimes love needs nurturing too. That is when a tough nut of a relationship makes through tough times. Like Asha said they couldn't even do this for 7 days (i.e. they couldn't even make it last more than 5 months, let alone for a lifetime!)

As we saw in the first Devakshi encounter... It does not matter if the mistake is 70:30 or 50:50 or 10:90.In a relationship, sometimes one partner takes on more and other times the other partner does. Only then the relationship survives the winds of change that get thrown at it left, right and centre.