*Season 2, Week 9* Analysis Thread - Page 30

Originally posted by: gmgi

Psychology fact - Anger is a natural defense against pain. When someone says" I hate you", they really mean "you hurt me."

After yesterday's episode I have pretty much made peace with the fact that Dev never went after Sona and the Bose family to check how they fared.( I still hope though) But he kept repeating the same thing over and over that it was Sona who left him. Sona and family leaving Delhi, the place where they grew up, worked and had contacts actually made a statement. Sona expected Dev to come after her. He always did. So what made him not do what he does this time around? It was the statement that she doesn't even want to live in the same city that he lives. Just like the Dixits came back to their roots making a statement to the society who hurt them, the Boses also went back to their roots.

There is a saying that a woman choose a partner like her father and a man chooses someone who reminds him of his mother. For Dev, Ishwari was not only his mother but he literally worshipped her. Same with Sona though not to that extend because of the difference in circumstances. But Dev could see the strength he saw in his mother in Sona and Sona saw the caring side of Bijoy in Dev.

The same characteristic that made them fall for each other is now causing them immense hurt. Dev acknowledges and appreciates subconsciously the fact that Sona just like his mother fought the adversities and has brought up their daughter wonderfully. But this same quality that made him trust her with his complicated family never materialized when it came to him. She never fought the world for him the way she fought for their daughter. This hurts him like hell and that is the biggest gripe he has with his ex-wife. What he appreciates in his daughter's mother is making him lash out at his lover.

Sona has seen the caring side of Dev all too well even before she became Dev's friend. All she ever wanted was to be included in that group. Their marriage became a war zone with Ishwari with more than a little help from GKB and her family planting land mines everywhere. Where Dev expected her to help him navigate through this avoiding the mines as much as possible, she made him pick each and every mine to disarm it and finally fell prey to the one that exploded. She never could understand why he was trying to avoiding these instead of facing it head on. But what she couldn't find in her husband, she saw it in her daughter's father. He overcame his fear of snakes which he had from childhood for his daughter. Even though Ishwari and Dixits made it clear indirectly that she won't ever be accepted as a Dixit if she is not able to give them an heir, she knew Dev never thought that way and accepted her as she was. She was able to go back with a six month old Soha only because of that. But seeing him willing to place their daughter his first and only priority, fight for her and work relentlessly to make her accept him makes her happy as Soha's mother but it also makes her frustrated with her ex-husband.

They now know that the other person is as much affected as they are. But they are unwilling to act on it because they don't trust that the other person cares as much as they themselves care. And now since the priority is their daughter they have enough means to interact with each other and don't have to go out of the way to create opportunities. Even though when they are alone with each other the lover's hurt comes to fore, if Soha's well being is under threat they will be a team. As much they are going to admire each other as parents it is also going to hurt the lovers in them and this bickering is only going to escalate. Added to that the frustration of being together but unable to act on it with all the sparks flying is going to create a mean edge to their fights. With Jothin still in the picture and Soha and Golu wanting them to be together I really hope the maturity of the parents take over the irrationality of the mean lovers before more people ends up hurt.

"It is hard to wait around for something you know might never happen, but it's even harder to give up when it is everything you want."

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Suppose a guy loves a hot girl. The sort he takes to the night club, chills at night outs with beer, flaunts her in front of his friends. Treats his very delicate very modern girl like his Princess. Then they get married. Next day morning he happily comes to the dining table expecting a sumptuous breakfast but the girl informs him that she doesn't know how to cook.

Next she wears a pair of shorts and wants to go clubbing but he objects as wives don't do such acts . he ultimately divorces her four months later saying she is not good wife material.

Whose fault is this? The feminist brigade will scream shoot this double standards ki dukaan, this asshole. How can he expect her to change in four months. It takes years. What did he dream marriage is - metamorphosis?

Now let's see a reverse case. A girl knows a guy is immature and tied to his mummy's apron strings. There are trunks full of evidences. She can see that he is horrible at balancing or handling relationships. Still she goes ahead and marries him because she loves him.

Four months later she divorces him because he is immature, mamma' s boy and can't handle relationships. The feminist brigade again screams shoot this guy. He should have grown up the day he got married. He was supposed to understand that marriage is a metamorphosis.

Then people say why is the word feminist used like an abuse?

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Suppose a guy loves a hot girl. The sort he takes to the night club, chills at night outs with beer, flaunts her in front of his friends. Treats his very delicate very modern girl like his Princess. Then they get married. Next day morning he happily comes to the dining table expecting a sumptuous breakfast but the girl informs him that she doesn't know how to cook.

Next she wears a pair of shorts and wants to go clubbing but he objects as wives don't do such acts . he ultimately divorces her four months later saying she is not good wife material.

Whose fault is this? The feminist brigade will scream shoot this double standards ki dukaan, this asshole. How can he expect her to change in four months. It takes years. What did he dream marriage is - metamorphosis?

Now let's see a reverse case. A girl knows a guy is immature and tied to his mummy's apron strings. There are trunks full of evidences. She can see that he is horrible at balancing or handling relationships. Still she goes ahead and marries him because she loves him.

Four months later she divorces him because he is immature, mamma' s boy and can't handle relationships. The feminist brigade again screams shoot this guy. He should have grown up the day he got married. He was supposed to understand that marriage is a metamorphosis.

Then people say why is the word feminist used like an abuse?

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Suppose a guy loves a hot girl. The sort he takes to the night club, chills at night outs with beer, flaunts her in front of his friends. Treats his very delicate very modern girl like his Princess. Then they get married. Next day morning he happily comes to the dining table expecting a sumptuous breakfast but the girl informs him that she doesn't know how to cook.

Next she wears a pair of shorts and wants to go clubbing but he objects as wives don't do such acts . he ultimately divorces her four months later saying she is not good wife material.

Whose fault is this? The feminist brigade will scream shoot this double standards ki dukaan, this asshole. How can he expect her to change in four months. It takes years. What did he dream marriage is - metamorphosis?

Now let's see a reverse case. A girl knows a guy is immature and tied to his mummy's apron strings. There are trunks full of evidences. She can see that he is horrible at balancing or handling relationships. Still she goes ahead and marries him because she loves him.

Four months later she divorces him because he is immature, mamma' s boy and can't handle relationships. The feminist brigade again screams shoot this guy. He should have grown up the day he got married. He was supposed to understand that marriage is a metamorphosis.

Then people say why is the word feminist used like an abuse?

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Suppose a guy loves a hot girl. The sort he takes to the night club, chills at night outs with beer, flaunts her in front of his friends. Treats his very delicate very modern girl like his Princess. Then they get married. Next day morning he happily comes to the dining table expecting a sumptuous breakfast but the girl informs him that she doesn't know how to cook.

Next she wears a pair of shorts and wants to go clubbing but he objects as wives don't do such acts . he ultimately divorces her four months later saying she is not good wife material.

Whose fault is this? The feminist brigade will scream shoot this double standards ki dukaan, this asshole. How can he expect her to change in four months. It takes years. What did he dream marriage is - metamorphosis?

Now let's see a reverse case. A girl knows a guy is immature and tied to his mummy's apron strings. There are trunks full of evidences. She can see that he is horrible at balancing or handling relationships. Still she goes ahead and marries him because she loves him.

Four months later she divorces him because he is immature, mamma' s boy and can't handle relationships. The feminist brigade again screams shoot this guy. He should have grown up the day he got married. He was supposed to understand that marriage is a metamorphosis.

Then people say why is the word feminist used like an abuse?

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

I hope you didn't write this to justify why the words 'independent, intelligent and feminist' are used as derogatory terms towards a woman.

Even if you did then you are generalising what you call the feminist brigade. There are feminists who believe in the spirit of feminism and also in honesty and truth. BTW, feminism is equality of sexes not pro-women; and not something to be achieved by bringing men down but by raising women to the same social standing and opportunities as men.

BTW, I do wonder why you divide the population into only 2 sections. One the so called feminist brigade and the other. Unfortunately, I don't belong to either of your categories!

Perhaps it shows my weakness by even responding to views like this. Take what you may. Off I go!