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One day a boy aged 1 and 1/2 yrs , tried to climb on sofa. He kept trying and failed miserably...when he couldnt succeed he started crying ..his mom tried to help him climb, but he didnt like the idea and he wanted to do it himself..and failed again..then he was angry irritated and started crying even louder..his mom tried to pacify him and carried him...he didnt like it..the next thing he does is...he scratched his mom's face and tried to hit her too..lol...Mom knew getting angry at him would only increase his anger and at the same time he is not going to understand...so what she did is tell him that he is hurting her and she is feeling bad... acted as if she was crying and thats it...he sobered down...
When a child fails in an activity his first outburst is always towards the one who is closest to him/her..not because they want to hurt the person that they love ,it is because they feel that this person is going to understand them and their outburst more than any one else and this person is not going to be prejudiced and will love them no matter what !! No filters required to talk to person whom you love!! ( Dev's words )
Now coming to Dev. He is not angry at Sona . He is angry at his mom and his family . He is angry because he feels used by them. He is hurt that his needs didnt matter to them...his love ..his Sonakshi.. the one thing that he wanted in his life was snatched away by the people for whom he had lived so far. Dev as a person never shared his pain to anyone from his younger age. Even his mother who proclaims to know him has no clue about his fears, desires, likes , wishes etc.It is Sona who could see him thru as a "MAN". He enjoyed being with her because she gave him the freedom to breath and had no expectations from him. She enjoyed his company because he is the first person outside her family cared for her so much. Slowly Sona and Dev became each others weakness. Among the two Sona was a stronger person primarily because she had a good support system at home and at the same time a fabulous mom . Dev was emotionally dependent on Sona and slowly was becoming addicted to her ...her presence in his life.
So far so good. Now comes infertility issue. When Sona knows abt this she is completely broken and role reversal had to happen. Dev had to become the strong one ...but what to do , he was never brought up as an emotionally strong person. He could not become that emotional anchor that Sona required. And here the balance is lost and what we see is a Divorce betwn them.
After such an incident in life every one needs something to look forward to. I always believe that 90% women become stronger when faced with difficulties...where as men on the other hand gets into the so called shell and break loose.I guess this why they say men are from mars and women are from venus!!
Sona had no time to brood abt her broken relationship because another relationship was blossoming in her womb. To top it all it was her Dev's child that was growing in her. That too when every one had thought that she could never be a mom!!
On the other hand Dev...lost the battle completely ...and now he doesnt have his emotional support too!! He knows he was cheated by his mom whom he considered as GOD ...that image broke..he did speak to his mom about what he felt abt the incident and about her role play in that ... but that was an emotional conversation...again bottled up decides to do everything that Sona had challenged him...and from here on we see a new Dev...7 yrs of emotions bottled up...his relationship with that girl is a facade ...again his old habbit of temp solution..he is deeply in love with Sona...seeing her after 7 yrs was a bliss but her words at the stage hurt him and he had to let it out...all those frustration , anger , love ..every emotion possible had to come out...but did he speak abt it to the girl in the hotel room...NOPE!!
Today he behaved typically like a toddler failing in a task and then fighting with the one he/loves the most...so him going and making a ruckus in front of her room proves that in his life his mom is out of the picture...the one who he considers to be close to him is SONA...HIS SONA...someone who he thinks can understand him and will never judge him wrongly.
Dev needs healing ..someone needs to show him the mirror and tell him how much he is hurting Sona..., sadly Sonakshi is in no frame of mind or has the patience to deal with him. Reason he has hurt her with his words on topics that she never thought of hearing from "HER DEV". She loves him too just that now she has greater responsibility to taking care of Soha...and she doesnt have time for his childish acts..
His ONLY CHANCE of heeling now is from his daughter Soha. Am eagerly waiting to see the bonding betwn Soha and Dev...waiting to see if the CV team will show how Soha helps Dev to find peace in his life...let us see what our CV team has in store for us...( very unpredictable team !!)
PS : Having said the above I do not justify his action of giving hope to another girl when his mind and body is yearning for his SONA!!Not at all justified!! Even if he marries his girl friend...I am sure he will see Sona's face when he looks at her...her every word from her will sound as if Sona is taking. For a person like him , its best to get back to his love or stay as a Bachelor!!
