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Is it legally a crime? No. Is it morally or ethically wrong? Yes.
A father has the right to know about his child. He has the right to experience the joy of fatherhood.
Was Sonakshi wrong in keeping her child away from his father in terms of ethics and morality? Yes.
Now let's break it down.
Sonakshi mortgaged her parents's entire life savings to pay back the unwanted loan her brother and husband set up behind her back for which her parents were humiliated and her father "accidentally" physically assaulted.
Now the question is does a daughter has the right to risk her parents being dragged to the street, their entire life savings gone for the sake of doing the right thing to the man who has never done the right thing for her?
We all know what Dev is capable of. Is it too far fetched to imagine knowing what Sonakshi and Bose family know that to get his child he will force Sonakshi's parents on the street and block all their way out until they hand over his child? He took away Sonakshi's job and closed all her ways so that she can be his mother's nutritionist, he also took away the job he requested Ranveer to take when he refused to dance to his sister's bidding.
So does Sonakshi, the daughter, has the right to put her parents's respect and dignity under Dev's power to be crushed again for doing what Sonakshi, the wife and mother, should do in the normal circumstances?
Say if the situation was reversed and Dev had to choose between risking his family's potential ruin and doing the right thing to Sonakshi, what would you expect him to do? And would you blame him if he chose his family over Sonakshi then?
Secondly, Sonakshi was handed a pre-nup which clearly stated that at the event of divorce, her or her child from the marriage will not have any claim on Dev or Dev's property which was signed and handed to her by Dev. There is no reason for her to believe that all this happened without his consent.
So if a woman is told that she is the biggest mistake of her husband's life, called a gold-digger, home-wrecker, told that she pretended to be a good wife and it's good that she is barren because she will make a bad mother, and handed a pre-nup with a clause that excludes her and any child she has from any claim to her husband and the child's father and his property, she should still think what is that man's right as a father?
Are we talking human being here or Saint? Because no human being would after all that will think about the man's rights.
I am happy to see that Sonakshi, unlike Saint like TV bahus, is a very human.
However, there is another person's rights to consider. That is of her daughter to know her father. So when the daughter was old enough to understand, she told her daughter the truth and gave her the choice.
She is still young enough to create memories with her father if she wants but old enough to make a choice.
Sonakshi could have waited until she was an adult or until Dev met Soha and she was forced to reveal the truth. But she told her the truth now without caring for her own heartbreak if Soha chooses her father.
She also could have poisoned her mind with every single thing that happened with her since Dev came into her life and everything would have been truth and very effective to keep Soha with her permanently. But she did not do that.
So in my book, Sonakshi not only is an excellent mother, but also an excellent daughter and sister. She didn't neglect her responsibility to her family just because she got married.
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