Dev doesn't love Sona enough - Page 3

Originally posted by: Jade0001

Dev love Sona yes I agree , without her his life is empty she has automatically become that pillar of strength for him

now everything Dev does it first has to start with his mother she needs to be the most happy then comes Sona and its good that he loves and respects his mother

now the love he has for his mother can not be measured to the love he has for his wife that on its own already is different levels of love yet Dev fails to understands this

at this stage both Dev and Sona were suppose talk about themselves find solutions but no instead both have dragged Ishwari into their mess making it all about her and her feelings

right now it seems as if there is no respect for the marriage

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

What you are saying is the weirdest thing about the show. Instead of looking tragic the entire scenario is looking irritating and idiotic.

Originally posted by: yyy

I am sorry but I could not get the parallel between your story and Dev's choices .Wife and mother have different place in a man's heart and i don't understand the reason for saying Dev doesn't love Sona enough .Loving your mom equally doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife .I am glad Dev still respects and loves the women who took care of him and made him what he is today .I am glad he did not turn his back on his mom during old age and he did not turn out to be another Vicky .

The decision to marry her after knowing her medical condition was not to please his mom .It was only because he loved her and could not let her go .The decision to lie about pregnancy was wrong but again it was to make his wife and mom bond stronger so that his wife gets the love she is yearning for .He was wrong in lying to her about pregnancy but it was for his wife not his mom .Even after everything if his love is not enough then I would say no matter what he does in future he will always be blamed .He cannot abandon his mom to prove his wife is important to him .If that is what is expected of him then I am glad he is not like those men who throw their parents into some old age home

Isn't it strange we always question about Dev's loyalty towards Sona and his love for his wife/mom but never once we ask the same question to Sonakshi. We never expect Sona to stop loving her dad/Bro or love Dev more than her family .The Sona I am seeing now is just worried about her relation with MIL not once I see her give importance to her relationship with Dev and for her husband's feelings .Whether right or wrong Dev took a decision for his wife whereas the wife is just worried about Family and her MIL .I don't see Dev anywhere in the picture .

Being a dog lover and having 10+ street dogs at one point of time I have only one thing to say .Dogs just don't look for food and shelter .They are emotionally attached to their master and if they are separated from their master after certain age they are mentally effected .I would say people should not bring a dog home unless they are 100%sure that they can take care if it .Kids are not responsible enough to understand the responsibility that comes with pets .I would like to appreciate you for finding a alternate home unlike the person I know who dumped the dog somewhere far as they were unable to take care .I was upset for months to know about this incident .

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

Bang On 👏👏

Agree with you. Dev does not love Sona equal to his mother.Sadly Sona the
Mahanta Ki Devi is also ok with it.As long as she get to be with her owner.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

My Dog story - I live in an apartment and wanted to stay clear of pets due to society regulations. My Son left the dog ( female) in the hands of his parents ( me and my wife) and happily goes about doing his job ( he loves it too but does not have the time to take care of it). Now, both of us, me and my wife are so attached to it that though we were reluctant to keep it, we still do so as we just cannot abandon the dog. a We fought with the Association and went up to the Animal protection board under the ministry of environment to educate the society that it is a government desire for more people to adopt pets. Today, it is another member of my home and it sleeps with me and my wife. we treat it like a human being, dress it up for taking it for a walk, free to sleep on sofa's, couches, walk around anywhere. In fact, when i go to the US, i come back with a suitcase load of Bacon sticks from petsmart! such is the care that i take for my pet. Moral of the story - if a new member comes to the home, they are an integral part of our lives.

Coming back to KRPKAB - i could feel the pain that Dev was going through for telling lies to Sona. it was bound to happen as we all know. actions spur reactions.. in this case, the whole lie has blown up in his face. Not loving Sona does not arise. Such was the intensity of his expressions that i could see only love for Sona. I could also see Sona being able to understand why Dev lied in the first place. Dev loves sona more than himself,. that is why he wants Ishwari to love Sona more than him. Do you think that Dev will be able to live without Sona? Absolutely Not - guaranteed!

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

What you are saying is the weirdest thing about the show. Instead of looking tragic the entire scenario is looking irritating and idiotic.

This is the reason why we are cribbing here. venting out our frustration, ready it to call quits ... blah blah blah. What started off as a good storyline is progressing into some thing that aims at satisfying the obsessiveness. Winning acceptance of a single member of the family ( be it MIL or the FIL ) should never become the priority for any couple. It is the relationship in itself which is a priority.

unfortunately , Sona is more focused on Ishwari . for once i see Dev is valuing his relationship more, he wants to marry Sona ,its all that mattered to him . he achieved his needs either by hook or by crook, but alas he does not have enough strength to stand up and speak out!!!

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

I will just ask you a questions. The answer to everything that you have said lies in it

1. Who was Dev trying to help with the false pregnancy news?

No one. He was hoping that his mother will drop her defences and see the Sona not just the DIL. and he did this because he saw his mother loving her and Dev had already given up on that ever happening. Its Sona who craved that love and he was simply delaying the news - Day 3 he said to himself he will break the news to them

2. Is he not mature enough to realise that it is more painful to lose something you have than something you never had?

He is. So is Sona and to be honest so does Ishwari. which is why they all went for the testing.

Dev had stopped Sona in her tracks and had asked her when she tested. Because to him, this is a news that Dev & Sona should have shared first and he just met her that morning, so when did his wife run the tests such that he never found out (In fact he impressed me that day because I had totally not expected him to know that Sona should have done the test that AM - ie he knew the technicality of a home test kit). So did Sona. She reminded Ishwari about the test too. Things went wrong when everyone became saccharine sweet to each other and Sonakshi started playing Byomkesh bakshi. When he saw the bond he started playing God. That was his mistake which to his credit he was looking to fix on day 3.

As for his attempts to get Sonakshi pregnant behind the scenes, it was lame. He was clutching at straws and thank God the doctor stopped him. He should have spoken up that time to Sona. Its this weakness of Dev's character that Sona compliments so well when she is focusing on her marriage

3. Why is it so important for Dev that his mother loves Sona?

Its important for him that the whole world acknowledges that just like he thinks Miss Bose is the best, everyone thinks so too. He takes such pride in his wife.

Also, from Day 1 of their marriage, Sona has placed Ishwari above Dev. Which is why, when he saw a mirage, he (stupidly) tried to grab it

4. Even if it is, why should that love be conditional. Is his wife not capable of being loved for herself?

He said to himself that by the time the news breaks the bond will be stronger. Recall, he was thrown out of the house for pushing Sonakshi. He thought (like Sam said) that that the baby was a catalyst. Sadly the reaction between Ish-Sona love was either incomplete before the catalyst ran out or reversible.,

5. What does it say about Dev that knows and understands enough to be desperate for acceptance for his wife but never opens his mouth to defend her except when his own sisters life is being affected?

Just not his character Payal. He struggles to speak up in front of his mother more than anything. Still he is very proud of his wife, praises her (and used to be lavish before the break-up. now its candid - recall the takeaway instance with foreign guests right after the chulha drama), and speaks up often. He isnt a vicky or a Bijoy. His love language isnt the same

6. Ishwari is not Sona's birth mother. Then why does she crave her love and acceptance? Why did she make her the focal point of her marriage?

I have the same question too. I will await an answer from other viewers

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Sona has fallen in love. And this case it is fallen in literal sense🤢

Originally posted by: tia.o

You have hit the nail on the head, Payal. If you can't stand up for your love, it's not important enough for you. Because people stand up for the things that is truly important for them.

Dev has never stood up for the woman he claims to love. Not when he dumped her, not when he married her, not when she was being insulted and treated like crap in his own house by his own family (which now we know that he was always aware of it). Because she doesn't matter enough.