In Defence Of Dev Dixit - Page 4

Originally posted by: baijubavra

@ itelidevara , can you please give some examples to support your statement that "I don't think he will discriminate among Iswari,Dida,Asha and Bijoy to extend his services". This guy kept his wife waiting for 2 hours in front of a club house just because he could not tell his mother to postpone the birthday celebrations for 15-20 minutes so his wife could arrive with the driver and join the festivities and you think he will not discriminate against Ishwari and Boses? A person's real behavior is tested in a situation when there is a conflict. He is a rich guy, he throws money at things easily so helping the Boses financially is no big deal for him. (The Boses may not take his help and that is separate discussion topic). He never showed any interest in Saurabh's undergarment business, only visited Boses when he had to get Sona back or when he went to meet Sona before marriage. Has he ever been shown to talk with Elena or Saurabh and ask them how they are doing ? The only time he asked Saurabh about the family was when he was stalking Sona and wanted some insider information about her engagement. Has he ever spent any time with Dadi? He was more eager to talk with Sona at the kitchen when he feared that she may have addressed Ishwari as aunty than he was when he called the driver to ask if she was safe. Could he not ask the driver to give the phone to her so that he could ask her if she was OK.

Frankly, this topic is offensive at the most basic level.

One of most sexist post. And the irony is you don't even realize you are being sexist. Girls are taught basic manners from their adolescents , as they should be since they have to go live with a whole different family after marriage. But don't boys and their family have any responsibility ? Isn't it their responsibility to make this person feel comfortable, who left her childhood, her family to come live with them , to take care of them? What do you mean by boys don't need to be taught anything , yes they do if they are anything like Dev , entitled and selfish.

We have such a long way to go as society , it boguls my mind.

Originally posted by: baijubavra

@ itelidevara , can you please give some examples to support your statement that "I don't think he will discriminate among Iswari,Dida,Asha and Bijoy to extend his services". This guy kept his wife waiting for 2 hours in front of a club house just because he could not tell his mother to postpone the birthday celebrations for 15-20 minutes so his wife could arrive with the driver and join the festivities and you think he will not discriminate against Ishwari and Boses? A person's real behavior is tested in a situation when there is a conflict. He is a rich guy, he throws money at things easily so helping the Boses financially is no big deal for him. (The Boses may not take his help and that is separate discussion topic). He never showed any interest in Saurabh's undergarment business, only visited Boses when he had to get Sona back or when he went to meet Sona before marriage. Has he ever been shown to talk with Elena or Saurabh and ask them how they are doing ? The only time he asked Saurabh about the family was when he was stalking Sona and wanted some insider information about her engagement. Has he ever spent any time with Dadi? He was more eager to talk with Sona at the kitchen when he feared that she may have addressed Ishwari as aunty than he was when he called the driver to ask if she was safe. Could he not ask the driver to give the phone to her so that he could ask her if she was OK.

You are right, Dev will not help anyone If Ishwari tells him not to. He really doesn't have a brain or it does fell like that when he is in front of Ishwari. He can only do good to others behind Ishwari's back.

Originally posted by: SandyAquarium

Frankly, this topic is offensive at the most basic level.

Why should a guy (husband) learn how to behave with a girl's (wife) family? It is the most regressive thought I have heard in the recent times. It is such archaic thinking that I held myself back from responding to this post, as I felt it doesn't deserve my time of day. But after much thought I decided against it coz your post is insulting to womanhood.

Let me tell you one simple thing about upbringing. Parents need to teach their children (both boys and girls) how to behave. Simple and straight forward answer. It doesn't matter what the relationship is, a well-behaved person is well appreciated not only within the family but world over. And by well-behaved I don't mean just day to day things but also in maintaining relationships. And well-mannered is not (should not be) varied based on the gender.

Your kind of thinking is why we women suffer in this world. Do you know why India is the rape capital today? It is because of the patriarchal thinking where men feel entitled to whatever they set their mind to. The very reason why they treat women as second class citizens. And that is exactly what you are preaching here. That women should adjust and men need not learn basic manners because they are entitled to whatever they want because they belong to the male gender.

This is a public platform and one needs to think before making posts that not only promote male domination but also female subjugation. Since you say you have daughters...please think before you make these kind of posts. Or should I simply say...please think.

P.S - This is not moral policing. But is defending my gender and it is my most basic right to stand up for what I believe in especially when one insults you and I felt insulted when you said girls and guys should be held to different standards of behaviour with their in laws.

Bold- I concur wholeheartedly! Instead of constantly bashing womanhood, (Itelidevera) you should work on improving your backwards mentality in order to raise your children who will improve our crazy world.

It's really disappointing to see some people questioning the TM about her parenting skills and making personal comments .Some even went a step ahead and did not hesitate to bring her family and kids into this discussion .Who are we to pull them into this discussion?

Everyone has the right to present their opinion and the TM did without attacking any of the forum members here or using abusive words .Disgareeing is acceptable but it should be done within the limits else there will be no difference between people who are preaching and the TM.

Not just one thread there are many threads in this forum where people have crossed their limit and have got personal to support their favorite character .Some even crossed their limits and made comments agansit other's culture ,beliefs and food habits .It irks me so much to see such topics but that doesn't give me the right to behave like them .

Before you assume anything let me tell you ...I don't agree that only women should be taught on how to deal with in laws .It applies for both men and women .Treating others with respect is not gender specific .Dev might be my favorite character but I never supported him in this matter .

Forget being Dev or Sonakshi fan .I am a women first and it's disturbing to see a real women being attacked for a reel character .

P.S. I know I am talking against many people here .I might lose all my friends in the forum and might be boycotted.I had a choice to make whether to keep mum and be in others good books or stand up for the right thing .I have made my choices and ready to face the outcome.

Originally posted by: yyy

It's really disappointing to see some people questioning the TM about her parenting skills and making personal comments .Some even went a step ahead and did not hesitate to bring her family and kids into this discussion .Who are we to pull them into this discussion?

Everyone has the right to present their opinion and the TM did without attacking any of the forum members here or using abusive words .Disgareeing is acceptable but it should be done within the limits else there will be no difference between people who are preaching and the TM.

Not just one thread there are many threads in this forum which has crossed their limit and they have got personal to support their favorite character .Some even crossed their limits and made comments agansit other's culture ,beliefs and food habits .It irks me so much to see such topics but that doesn't give me the right to behave like them .

Before you assume anything let me tell you ...I don't agree that only women should be taught on how to deal with in laws .It applies for both men and women .Treating others with respect is not gender specific .Dev might be my favorite character but I never supported him in this matter .

Forget being Dev or Sonakshi fan .I am a women first and it's disturbing to see a real women being attacked for a reel character .

P.S. I know I am talking against many people here .I might lose all my friends in the forum and might be boycotted.I had a choice to make whether to keep mum and be in others good books or stand up for the right thing .I have made my choices and ready to face the outcome.

I saw the title of the post and did not want to read it , as most of you know I don't care much for Dev Dixit the character. However, curiosity got the better of me and I wanted to know what was being written in support of Dev Dixit the character I don't support because it is always good to see a differing point of view.

Originally posted by: yyy

It's really disappointing to see some people questioning the TM about her parenting skills and making personal comments .Some even went a step ahead and did not hesitate to bring her family and kids into this discussion .Who are we to pull them into this discussion?

Everyone has the right to present their opinion and the TM did without attacking any of the forum members here or using abusive words .Disgareeing is acceptable but it should be done within the limits else there will be no difference between people who are preaching and the TM.

Not just one thread there are many threads in this forum where people have crossed their limit and have got personal to support their favorite character .Some even crossed their limits and made comments agansit other's culture ,beliefs and food habits .It irks me so much to see such topics but that doesn't give me the right to behave like them .

Before you assume anything let me tell you ...I don't agree that only women should be taught on how to deal with in laws .It applies for both men and women .Treating others with respect is not gender specific .Dev might be my favorite character but I never supported him in this matter .

Forget being Dev or Sonakshi fan .I am a women first and it's disturbing to see a real women being attacked for a reel character .

P.S. I know I am talking against many people here .I might lose all my friends in the forum and might be boycotted.I had a choice to make whether to keep mum and be in others good books or stand up for the right thing .I have made my choices and ready to face the




outcome.

Very good post Nisha . Felt proud after easing your post . well even I have crossed my limit in raising fingers to @ TM

But there is reason - I can give you all screen shot of her post where she is making post exclusive for anti sonakshi or anti Erica . If you want I can show all screenshot of her previous post
Like I said we all have our own likes or dislikes . Sometime we love and sometimes we don't love someone . I understand but just because I don't like someone doesn't mean I will make a post almost every day based on my liking and twist the fact and try to convinces others

yes I know there are many who made such post a after reading there matter your blood boils . But being a female - I felt extremely bad when someone gave some weird rules females should follow wala logic .we are living in modern world . After knowing @ TM mentality many of us felt where are we ? I always felt education is key for all females problems. But after reading TM views -I felt even educAtion can't solve such orthodox views of our society . Educated people are openly supporting such orthodox views openly. Don't you think @ TM has crossed the limit by saying that males should not be taught by their mother and we shld leave them like this.

Only reason I felt that ppl are attacking her personally because she put her personal experience as example .

Like I said I never felt good in attacking someone personally . So I apologised to her after reading your post .

But I will still stuck to my words -@ TM stopping hating female character/ Erica frenandes so much that it is reflecting in each and every post of yours

Nisha -love you