Imperfect balance - Nov 11 - Page 4

Originally posted by: deepsel

Thank you dear 😳

Aww please don't feel bad for putting the note honey, am so sorry but I will definitely try to make weekly post when time permits..I promise😛

Originally posted by: deepsel

well i m optimist by nature ...😆 .. but who knows ho sakta h kuch kuch aapka asar ho 😉

Originally posted by: Snehavinaya

Deepa, I have a question to ask you .
I am that mature to understand the dynamics of family.
My point is why sona can't give silent treatment to Dev ?
I am asking her to do OTT drama like iswari but to put your point across u can isolate yourself.
I think that will be best treatment for Dev.
Not going to Bose house,but stay there & don't respond to anything.
Don't care when he comes from office.
I know initially he may get angry, but ultimately he will come around & ask what the problem is.

Then he will understand what how sona feels.
Matter should be solved out then & there.

I use this method.show real displeasure, when something doesn't go your way or rather u don't like what is happening.i think this is a simple way of dealing with day to day affairs.

Are things so complicated?
May be I am not understanding.

Please clarify---

Originally posted by: deepsel

Roadside Patch up brightens Bose morning 😆 :

I definitely felt weird seeing Sona so careless but pleasantly surprised with Dev's patience making sure they patched up before the night ended just like he promised 😉😆

I felt proud when Sona handled Dev's frustration & unreasonable behavior with at most care after their HM cancellation. In the same way i felt proud when Dev handled Sona's childish & immature behavior with at most patience. 😊

Loved how the CVs showed where mother's real happiness lies with Asha's statement just to the contrary of fuming Ishwari 👏

BANG ON!!!!👏👏👏

Ishwari's Insecurity :

I feel for the past two weeks Ishwari's character is spot on to her originality !! She behaved exactly how she had to. Even any normal mother could fret about their children being on road, here we have Ishwari, a obsessed insecure mother and she obviously could panic more and her actions are totally justified here.

Being a mother and also seeing my mom's concern when ever i go out, i can understand her state of mind as well as her outburst on this situation. Here i really need to appreciate Cv's, how smartly they justified her outburst and highlighted her insecurities at the same time. Good job. 👏👏👏

Dev - the son and husband :

sometimes I feel so bad for this guy, he is really trying to keep both of them happy😳

So true. As he said to Sona before her accident scene, "He always tries to keep everyone happy but fails miserably" because thats impossible to achieve and he needs to accept it and let it go. Only then he can come out from his guilt mode.😊

P.P.S:

Chillax people..this is just a "FICTIONAL SHOW" 😆 Enjoy and have fun , don't pressurerize yourself looking for logics😆

Very well said. People need to understand this simple thing before jumping with guns and making posts like war zone.😆😆😆

P.P.P.S

Ok its high time I stop playing hide and seek with my buddies here with my posts..I know many will be disappointed but am very sorry friends, I can't continue with the daily posts due to the hectic schedules am facing. More than posts it will be awful if I can't respond to everyone, so its better I stop posting😆

My love for this forum and show will never diminish so whenever you feel like you need I will be here😳 Keep up the good spirits 🤗

You cant do this to us Deepa. You can't take way my single reason of visiting this forum at present. Its ok if its not possible to reply to each one of us,you atleast post your take and we really wont mind about your replies if its not fitting your busy schedule. At least give us this happy place where people are only interested in having healthy discussions instead of fighting with others to prove ONLY their pov is right.😊

Originally posted by: SandyAquarium

I would love to read Deepa's response to you question. In the mean time, I hope you don't mind me answering the question.

Relationships are stronger when they are built on the basis of communication, expression, understanding and mutual resolution. Not talking about the issue and going to stay with your mother for long periods to express your distaste does not resolve deeper understanding between couples. It just tells the man that when you are upset you will go away to your mother's house and you will not return until the problem is resolved your way.

And, the problem may get resolved through silent treatment -once, twice, thrice but the pattern isn't going to stay this way. And what will happen to the man-woman relationship in this process of sulking, non-communication and conflict resolution where one person has to constantly bend? Relationships will take a beating and they weaken, as they become more about one-up-man-ship rather than about love for each other.

Couples are often conflicted during the adjustment period of a marriage. They misunderstand because you are living together under one roof while your upbringing is very different from each others.. So, when your partner reacts or does things the way you are not used to, we do get angry.

But not talking to get your way, forms a barrier and one too many such barriers in any relationship will weaken the husband-wife bond. Instead, one would be better off to find ways to strengthen your new marital bond. Talk! Talk! Talk! Coz without it, you can rest assured that the relationship will hit a rut (but know when to talk and when to keep calm. Extremes don't work in any relationship and it won't in a marriage)

Sona was upset with Dev and he went after her. If Sona isolates herself from Dev, how will he understand what hurt her? How will he comprehend that he cannot take her for granted in future? It is not fair to assume that everyone is equally mature in a relationship. In every couple one is more mature and more worldly wise than the other. Relationships are about give and take and not just about taking.

Sorry, if I ranted. Did I make any sense at all? Hope I did. 😆

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Hi Sandy, Sorry to jump in to your conversation. What you said is right but i also got what Sneha is trying to convey. I think when Sneha is telling about giving silent treatment to Dev, It doesn't mean to avoid further discussions with him. Its only to convey him that She is hurt. I also apply this same method in my life.

If we consider a husband like Dev then he can handle shouting/screaming from Sona in his own way but he can never take her silence because some times SILENCE SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. If Sona gives him silence treatment then he will be the first one to start the conversation with her to break her silence.

Since its a fictional show its ok to send Sona to her mom's place once in a while to let this couple have some cute moments and also to allow Dev to breath with out any terms & conditions.