Is Sona right?

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1234bar12

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Posted: 8 years ago

Sona said to Dev that Dev does not include her in any of his problems. But in actual the problem is of Neha majorly and Neha does not want to include Sona. Does Dev have power in this case at all? Even if Dev include Sona in the matter,Neha will not like it and will ask both of them to stay out. Neha will be left alone and now both Dev and Sona will be outsider only.

After marriage, you get right on all the problems which are mainly of your husband but not on the problems which are majorly of someone else. Neha has right to decide whom to include and whom not to...even Ria, Mamaji, Nikki who are member of the family for longer time are also outsider in this case...is Sona's expectation right here? If it was directly Dev's problem and Dev wouldn't have shared with her, then he would have been definitely wrong but in this case I think Sona should stay away.

Strictly my POV. Everyone is free to diagree but no personal comments.

Edited by 1234bar12 - 8 years ago

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cscs

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Posted: 8 years ago

I guess what sona wanted was that the issue should have been discussed between them. Also Neha hasn't said it to dev or ishwari that keep sona out of my problems. She doesn't want to talk or listen to anybody at this moment. Earlier when sona tried to talk to her, she got emotional. But after that instead of talking to her, she invited ranveer at their place. And then went to sort out the matter at ranveer's place. She "did" it for neha which neha thought as interference. And a girl like neha who wants to lead life on her own terms, this was like an encroachment to her personal space.

Sonakshi wants dev to discuss matters with her which bothers him. But in Neha's case both of their POV's are poles apart. But as it was said, its ok to disagree with each other in love.

After today's episode, i feel they should sort neha's matter more maturely like they did before marriage.

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1234bar12

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: cscs
I guess what sona wanted was that the issue should have been discussed between them. Also Neha hasn't said it to dev or ishwari that keep sona out of my problems. She doesn't want to talk or listen to anybody at this moment. Earlier when sona tried to talk to her, she got emotional. But after that instead of talking to her, she invited ranveer at their place. And then went to sort out the matter at ranveer's place. She "did" it for neha which neha thought as interference. And a girl like neha who wants to lead life on her own terms, this was like an encroachment to her personal space.

Sonakshi wants dev to discuss matters with her which bothers him. But in Neha's case both of their POV's are poles apart. But as it was said, its ok to disagree with each other in love.
After today's episode, i feel they should sort neha's matter more maturely like they did before marriage.

I don't think the problem is that Dev is not sharing things with her. From their earlier conversation I just got feeling that Sona wants Dev to listen to her advice of reconciling Neha and Ranveer. But Neha doesn't want to talk (and after what happened between them, I don't think there is any room to talk...you don't divorce papers to your husband just like that and you don't file mental harassment case against your wife just like that). Sona wants Dev to listen to her advice in some others problem in which Dev himself does not have much power. If I remember correctly she was upset when Dev told he is with Neha in her decision while sona was asking him to change the decision of Neha.

Agree or not somewhere Sona's interference has caused more problem. Though her intention was pure and kind, results were bad. Sometimes just intentions is not enough.

Although Neha never said explictly but from her attitude it was quite clear she does not want interference of Sona.

I really think just like others in the house, Sona should remain away with the issue and should not force/request Dev to agree with her point of view or take her advice.

If it would have been directly Dev's problem Sona had full right to put her point of view and force him to follow her advice if she thought her advice was right.

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randommusings

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Posted: 8 years ago

Its not just about Neha's issue, Sona's complaint is bcoz Dev still doesn't consider her as part of his family. Vicki's job, Neha's marital problems, Ish's acceptance of Sona are all big issues where Dev instead of maturedly talking with his wife, shouted at her for being non understanding and did not even listen to her pov. How can Sona understand their family n past if Dev refuses to talk about it.

Sona is not worried when Neha or Ishwari doesn't want to include her in family problems, she is hurt bcoz Dev still makes her feel like an outsider, when she is living with them they have to make efforts too to integrate her in their household but here only Sona is making efforts and that is also being considered as interference. Who in their right mind wud agree for divorce in the family without even having a proper discussion however sad their childhood was. Dixits always look for quickfix solutions instead of finding a permanent solution and all of them are still living in the past.

Its fine if Dev doesn't consider Sona as right in Neha's situation but he shud atleast respect her opinion n discuss with her. Shouting at her and being uncommunicative would not help them. Its sad to see Dev leaving the room everytime they have an arguement, where would Sona go in his house, she feels trapped n lonely.

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lavanya

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Posted: 8 years ago

I think Sona was ok if Dev doesnt listen to her suggestions... But when ever he gets hyper ... he shoos her away or stop talking to her or scream at her saying that he will take care of HIS family etc...

when everything is good, he is like sona this and sona that... but when there is crisis , he doesnt talk to her or listen to her and actually alienates her saying she wouldn't understand it ..

One think where sona is wrong - is still not telling Dev about saurabh's loss and her joint venture..Saurabh asked her not to tell her inlaws but no one can or has the right to ask not to tell the spouse.. i hope sona tells him soon

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1234bar12

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: dlavanya
I think Sona was ok if Dev doesnt listen to her suggestions... But when ever he gets hyper ... he shoos her away or stop talking to her or scream at her saying that he will take care of HIS family etc...

when everything is good, he is like sona this and sona that... but when there is crisis , he doesnt talk to her or listen to her and actually alienates her saying she wouldn't understand it ..

One think where sona is wrong - is still not telling Dev about saurabh's loss and her joint venture..Saurabh asked her not to tell her inlaws but no one can or has the right to ask not to tell the spouse.. i hope sona tells him soon

I agree on this that Dev should not shout on her. he should explain her calmly why he thinks she is wrong instead of shouting at her.

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1234bar12

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: randommusings
Its not just about Neha's issue, Sona's complaint is bcoz Dev still doesn't consider her as part of his family. Vicki's job, Neha's marital problems, Ish's acceptance of Sona are all big issues where Dev instead of maturedly talking with his wife, shouted at her for being non understanding and did not even listen to her pov. How can Sona understand their family n past if Dev refuses to talk about it.
Sona is not worried when Neha or Ishwari doesn't want to include her in family problems, she is hurt bcoz Dev still makes her feel like an outsider, when she is living with them they have to make efforts too to integrate her in their household but here only Sona is making efforts and that is also being considered as interference. Who in their right mind wud agree for divorce in the family without even having a proper discussion however sad their childhood was. Dixits always look for quickfix solutions instead of finding a permanent solution and all of them are still living in the past.

Its fine if Dev doesn't consider Sona as right in Neha's situation but he shud atleast respect her opinion n discuss with her. Shouting at her and being uncommunicative would not help them. Its sad to see Dev leaving the room everytime they have an arguement, where would Sona go in his house, she feels trapped n lonely.

Agree on last lines. Dev should not shout on her or leave the room everytime they have argument.

But on the divorce issue...I think after the ugly turns Neha and Ranveer's relationship has taken, it is better to have divorce. Sona's efforts are considered interference because she should not do anything on her own without seeking permission of Neha. She should respect Neha's privacy and her efforts has in someway caused harm to Neha though her intention were pure.

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Shilky88

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Posted: 8 years ago

I believe that Sona has all the rights in this world to get involved in anything as far as her husband is concerned.

She can force ,push or irritate Dev to the core to get her involved into his matters or to take inputs from her before taking any decisions . A wife can certainly demand to know that.Specially when it comes to taking personal decisions. Its a good practice in long term😊

But she needs to understand that her rights are limited to Dev so she should not get herself directly involved in something that will impact Neha without Dev's knowledge.

e.g She went to talk to Neha's in-laws without telling anyone. I dint find it right.

That's not correct morally.

Coming to Neha and Ishwari - Their expectations from Dev to keep things hidden from his wife are not correct.

Actually same goes for Saurabh also.

This is absolutely my personal POV as I have ,never been in my life, able to tell a person to do something for me hiding from his/her own spouse as I understand the meaning of life partners. Be it - between my parent/ siblings and their spouses/ friends and their partners. I would never want to be a reason for disagreement or misunderstanding between a husband and wife.

I don't really understand why Ishwari takes a lot of pride when she becomes the reason of disagreement between Dev and Sonakshi.

So if Neha thinks that she can get Dev involved without Sona's knowledge, she is wrong.

Edited by Shilky88 - 8 years ago

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vibg

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Posted: 8 years ago

sona is family now and yes she should be part of divorce discussions or at least considering the non divorce point of view. Neha's issue is not neha's issue alone.. esp... when it impacts her husband, her own married life and their relationship! but this is not just abut this one incidence. in everything, dev just rudely excludes her.

but how this issue was handled in this episode... disappointing. it was more like nok jhok than a real problem between Devakshi. she started tallking about other crap and he kept saying sorry sorry.. as usual. CVs made it romantic rather than an issue which is critical between these two.

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WeRockTheWorld

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Its not about Neha or Vicky or any one else...she said it in plain words that she is not accepted as a part of the family . She doesnt get the feel that it is also her house. She feels that she is been treated like an outsider. She telling this to Dev makes sense because Dev has not accepted her as a family . Only if he accepts her as a part of the family and show it in front of his family will they understand her imp in his life.

Let us see if Dev has really understood and changes his attitude. When ever there is a problem..he and his mom becomes ONE UNIT...example when the lawyer came ...then at break fast tablewhen GKB taunts or when his mom says something he is very quiet...dont see him trying to make her feel comfortable...

Waiting to see who will sit in the front seat tomorrow...

Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 8 years ago

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