Practice what you preach - Page 4

Originally posted by: dlavanya

This thought actually has been on my mind since the day Sona handed over the cheque to Elena. Ideally husband and wife should share information if not request each others help to sort out issues in their respective families.

when Sona came to know about Saurabhs problem (the scooty ride day), she tried to say i wouldnt be joining the job so early agar ... But she chose not to tell dev as he was already super disturbed with Neha's problem.

Thing is both Dev and Sona are not sharing all their thoughts - Dev didnt telll sona that he is going to offer the flat to ranveer and sona didnt tell Dev that she gave money to her dad. I am sure neither of them would have any issue with this but they didnt do it.. So hoping they both start talking even minute irrelavant things in future... it happens ... no couple would be ideal on day 1... they learn gradually ..up until now they have been living independent lives ... now they are a couple... so the transition has to happen gradually...they will fall several times and learn

One more reason i feel sona is not telling dev is because she knows how Dev is ... The moment she tells him he will just go and dump money on saurabh and be happy that problem is solved. ... so she needs to make sure it is done right... with support not by dumping money...

Hoping sona will tell all about her business plans to Dev soon... and why do i feel this is going to be a big success...

Originally posted by: raji91

nice post...
but I hope may be cv's have some plan abt that... if I m wrong sry ignore me...

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

Now that she is planning to raise money and run a business with her brother, I agree, she should run it past her husband. I think she wont, there will be a huge syapa...

The issue with Neha is, yyy, Dev and Sona live in that house. Till the point Boses had an issue which didnt affect Sona directly, I could see Sona's point of view. Neha's issue affected devakshi directly. Their honeymoon was cancelled.

Originally posted by: Shilky88

I seem to have missed this post.😲

Such a wonderful and thought provoking post!!👏👏

You deserve an applaud for bringing out this angle in DevSona relationship which is obviously a miss from Sona's side.

Thank you 😊.

I am not on anyone's side 🥱 and I try to live in a moment😃.

So I keep on switching my side based on who and what I feel is right at this moment.😎

That's a smart move ...👍🏼...I

According to my POV Sona has few FEARS in her mind due to which she thinks it not right to discuss Saurabh's issues with Dev.

You have raised some valid points

1-Sona telling Dev about Saurabh might sound as if she is seeking financial help from Dev. Boses,being self made people, will not appreciate that.

2- When needed Sona herself is capable of helping her family financially.

3-It might not be the right time to add more item to Dev's list.May be she is waiting for the right time

There is nothing wrong in seeking your husband's help .She should at least inform him about her plans of supporting her family .She is making bigger plans for supporting her brother without letting Dev know .This will definitely make him feel like a outsider .

4-Saurabh financial crisis are not affecting DevSona relationship unlike Neha's case which affected DevSona HM plans,bedroom privacy etc.

Sona needs to understand that there is nothing wrong in seeking your husband's help .She should at least inform him about her plans of supporting her family .She is making bigger plans for supporting her brother without letting Dev know .This will definitely make him feel like a outsider .I am sure she would not appreciate if Dev had hid about his family problems from her .

I am of the opnion that

But having said all of that-- I would, in no case, justify a grey area or secrets between a husband and wife.

For me this is the first rule of a married relationship-- to open up in front of each other in all aspects.

Mentally,Physically😉 and Emotionally😃.

Bang on 👏👏👏...You said it all .There should be no secrets between husband and wife .Haha love the way you brought physical aspect here 😉...

The baggage of secrets and grudges are too much to handle in a married relationship.

How i wish Sona realizes this 😳

The reason we hide anything from our spouses is always associated with a FEAR and only way by which we can overcome our fear is by facing it.

and if our partner doesn't understand our fears then who else will??😕

I completely agree .👏

So I strongly feel Sona must not hide anything from Dev and tell him everything right away.😃

Hope she does and if she doesnt Dev has every reason to be upset with her .

Thanks for sharing your POV .You brought up some interesting points 😊

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

I agree on 2 points -

Sona not informing Dev about her and Saurabh's business plan is 👎🏼. Ideally she should have discussed with Dev before confirming with her family. But now I hope at least she will INFORM Dev about it if anything 🤓. I remember one statement from her to Dev - I don't have the habit of discussing with anyone before taking a decision (it was during the navraatri thing I guess 😳). Too bad when you are reprimanding Dev for the same Sona. Just because her decisions are later proved to be right, that doesn't mean the actual point should be ignored i.e. communication between husband-wife and sharing every necessary information with each other.

Another point is - trying too hard to include herself in Dixit madhouse which after a point impacts the relationship with her husband. Not her efforts on persons, but definitely tulsi puja, vrat etc were meaningless and as expected nothing came out of it 😛 Only added some sourness to the couple's relationship.

Completely agree with you on the above two points .

Rest I disagree that Dev doesn't have the chance to interact with Boses. Sona is creating that chance, she is finding ways to gel with the Dixits, it's another thing whether they are receptive or not. But for Dev, he never even tried. Only 1ce he tried before marriage was when Ishwari got him Sona and he agreed for the nonveg menu. Also, that Dev agreeing to Neha was for Neha etc, no, Sona said the similar points, how can you disregard the same point from one person and value the same point from other person ? Had Dev said to Sona that he understands her POV but he has to do this to make Neha happy, it would be a different thing, but Neha's exact words which struck him were 'I dont want another family and kids to face the days which we did', pretty much the same thing which Sona said 'A family's sole breadwinner being out of job would bring horrible days to them' - Poteito Potaato.. And the thing is Dev himself realizes he was wrong. Last thing, this is not an excuse - but Sona couldn't share the news of her family's problem because Dev was OTT stressed in those days, but again I agree, when she had time to have diwali fun, when she had time to discuss to arrange for the gifts etc, she could have easily shared that news as well.

I have a different opinion here .After marriage Dev has tried his best to gel with his in laws and is treating them as his own family .He didn't forget to send them gifts when he bought gifts for his family .We have seen him attending dinners and spending some quality time with them . Unlike Sona he is not aware of what's happening at Bose family .Sona is not helping him either ..she is keeping him away from her family matters and no one from Bose family is communicating with him whereas for Sona being in the same house is helping her in understanding the dynamics of the family .

I think you said it ...those highlighted words stuck him .I dont think he was convinced with either Neha or Sona's view but he did not want to override Neha's wishes either after all it's her matter and she was the one to effected by all the happenings .

Originally posted by: yyy

I feel infertility track and Saurabh's issue are totally different .Infertility issue can shatter Sonakshi and would have caused issue in their marriage .That might be the reason for hiding it from her .He is trying to protect her from the pain as long as he can ...whether the approach is right or wrong is debatable .

Saurabh's issue is different and it wont effect their relationship or their marriage .It's similar to Neha's .