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Posted: 9 years ago

I know most of you are excited for tomorrow's episode and trust me even i am but this is something which i wanted to discuss from last week but somehow kept postponing .

Disclaimer ; If you are die hard fan of Sonakshi then you might not like what i have written .Read at your own risk 😃

Does Sonakshi consider Dev as a part of her family ?The reason for asking this question is she has not shared about Saurabh's job condition with her husband nor has she shared about financial problems Bose family is facing or her plans of supporting them.Before people jump on me i know its her money she doesn't have to take anyone's permission to spend on her parents but at the same time she at least needs to inform her husband about her plans and i am sure Dev will not stop her .Isn'twhat we expect from Dev as well ?

She has hid such a big news from Dev but on the other hand she wants to be included in all the decisions related to Neha .Is it fair expectation from her ?If she is right person to understand Neha's condition then there is no better person than Dev who can help Saurabh .Dev doesn't have to provide him a job or lend money he can help Saurabh setting up his business again .One cannot argue that Dev is very good at his work and with his experience he can guide Saurabh better than anyone in Bose family .

I have seen many post questioning whether Dev considers Sona as his family .Does being part of the family mean you need to follow that person's opinion always , does it mean you need to interfere in every matter .There are some sensitive issue and since Sona is a new member Dixits might not be comfortable sharing everything with Sona .Is it wrong ?It was Dev who fell in love with Sona not his entire family .I wish Sona takes it slow and hope she doesn't spoil her relation with her husband in the process of solving Neha issue .Dev considers her part of the family hence he has never hid anything related to Neha's issue .It's Neha's personal matter but we have seen how Sonakshi doesn't even consult Neha before talking to Neha's husband or in laws .Is it wrong if Neha gets annoyed with Sonakshi's interference ?At the end of the day its Neha's call whether to divorce Ranveer or not and Dev has not much say on this .

On the other hand we have seen how Sona hasn't shared anything about her family problems and i always felt she doesn't make an effort to involve Dev in her family matters .Even during dating period we have seen Dev trying his best to involve her in his family matters by asking her to come with him and his mom for shopping or during family photo(it didnt work because of Ishwari but at least he tried) but we never saw her inviting him home.

Sona always had one advantage compared to Dev .She always had a chance to spend time with his family .,,,earlier she was working at his home and now she lives with his family .She has better chance of understanding his family whereas Dev never had ant such chance .During dating period he could not walk into her home as we never saw Sona or his family inviting him home but now after marriage he doesn't need a reason to visit Bose family .

Regrading today's episode , I understand why Dev agreed when Neha asked him to .It was Neha's issue and she was the one effected by the harassment case .When she herself was against taking revenge from her husband then he had no choice but to agree with her .So it makes sense why he agreed and not when Sona asked him to because Sona was someone who was not directly effected by this .

its time for het to give priority to her family .Saurabh needs serious help , he seems to be lost and is unable to figure his next move,

Edited by yyyy - 9 years ago

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Posted: 9 years ago

Hmmm a thought provoking post i must say. Well i agree with some of your points here. I honestly feel that Sona should take it slow when it comes to Dixits. Whole Dixit clan is giving her subtle hints to back off and mind her own business and now she should just let them handle the situation in whatever way they want and face the consequences. Sometimes people just need to be left alone and solve the matter themselves. Yes she is a part of the family now but it is not necessary that her every opinion will be agreed to. I remember one of our professors said during teaching counselling and guidance, that do not force your opinions on anyone. Let people discover themselves right and wrong and take decision. Sonakshi has done her work, she has tried to do everything ; talked to ishwari, neha, dev and even ranveer and his family, but it backfired. She did what she wanted and now the situation has worsen. So she should actually just let it be. And i agree that Neha should be taken in consideration before taking any step. Its her life, whatever she wants to do, she can do. Sona can only make her understand but not force her to take decision. People are saying that this issue is affecting sona's married life, but isn't it in devakshi's hands to ruin or make their married life. Yes they didn't went for honeymoon but didn't they enjoy each other's company, infact they have become more strong with this issue.

Coming to disagreement, see sona was employee at dev's place so by default she became a part of Dixit family. She used to be in their matters even before devakshi's relationship. And during relationship she became dev's confidant. She was the first person whom he considered a true friend, lover, with whom he can share anything without getting judged or any expectations. So she always had that strong, problem solver thing in relationship. When they came in open, it was very less happy time for them. It was always ishwari's acceptance that mattered for both deb and sona, so technically dev never got time to spend with bose family. Also she didn't got time to get him involved in her matters and family.

Now after marriage, i may be wrong but it just didn't strike her that dev should be the solution of her family issue. It was normal for her, bose family needed money and she gave it to them. Also i guess she didn't wanted to tense dev with her family issue. Yes she should have discussed it with dev but might not have done because of neha's matter.

I dunno the thing i am gonna say will be correct or not but sometimes when you are strong in a relationship you tend to solve all the problems yourself. That's what dev do in his family case and may be that's what sona is doing in her family case and with dev.

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gmgi

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Posted: 9 years ago

A very well put thought ⭐️

But can't agree not because I am team Sonakshi but because I am team Devakshi 😆

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fanktlk

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Posted: 9 years ago

Though many would argue the impact of Dixits V/s the impact of Boses on Devakshi.. but as a family, as a couple you share.

Sona didn't need anyone's permission that's where her individualistic identity comes into the picture.

Also she is trying to protect her Baba's pride. As if Dev finds out he would try to help... but still once she gave a cheque, even in the passing she could mention to Dev.

I know I would.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: gmgi
A very well put thought ⭐️

But can't agree not because I am team Sonakshi but because I am team Devakshi 😆

Thank you 😊.No issues i respect your POV and i root for team Devakshi too 😃

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Jyoti Thakur

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Posted: 9 years ago

Questioning either Dev or Sona whether they consider each other a part of their respective families is not at all fair. Because they do.

They can have arguments for sure. Every normal couple have fights... Why is there a need to over analyse each and every fight of them? If every husband and wife will start analyzing each and every fight and telling each other that this statement was wrong... This thing you said was wrong to hogaya fir toh.😆🤣

And for why Sona didn't share Saurabh's problem with Dev. Because Dev is already very tensed about Neha's matter. It was the same day she came to know about it when Dev was extremely restless and was continuously calling Ranveer to talk and after that not even a single day in Dixit house was normal. Actually Dixit house me kabhi bhi koi din normal waise bhi nahi hota.😆😉

And about Dev sharing about Neha. Neha came back to Dixit house infront of Sona and it was not Dev who told Sona about Neha's problem.

For me Both Dev and Sona are correct at their place. But our POVs may definitely differ.😊

BTW, I am team DevAkshi...!!!😆

Thanks for sharing your POV dear.😊

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LiveLife321

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Posted: 9 years ago

Great post and good point of discussion yaar. Dev & Sona both are right at their places.

When Dev compared his break-up state with Ranveer, he was actually true that even though he left Sona for his mother, Its not that he erased her from his life, he was dying million deaths each second and it was very visible for others which he was not able to see in Ranveer. When Sona jumped in to new relation with Ritwik, Its not that her love for Dev ended, she was fighting with her own-self and wanted to show that if Dev can remove her from his life just like that then she also can move on from this relation just like that. Both of them failed miserably thats when they understood just by saying break-up & move-on their love for each other wont end.

Even in Sona-Neha convo, i think Sona saw her self in Neha when Neha keep on saying R doesn't love me. I feel this is the exact reason why Sona is not able to stay away from this mess even after listening "Stay away from Neha case" repeatedly from Dev & Ishwari. The path what N-R want to choose is already traveled by D-S, She very well know that other than pain & dying million deaths every sec there is nothing in that journey. She is seeing these 2 stupidly choosing that same path which she can never even wish for her enemy, here these 2 are family. How can she sit silently unaffected? BUT she should know when to take a step back and let it go and shouldn't force herself and her opinion in the family matters when it is not welcomed by others.

Coming to Saurabh's case, She was about to say that in their coffee date scene. I think she dont want to increase his stress when she shows that she can handle it and also since he is already disturbed with Neha's case. When i can understand Dev's action of hiding her reports from her then i can understand her action as well in this case. Both wants to shield the other from more pain.

At the same time, it really annoys me when ever Sona says "You should have discussed with me before taking this decision" to Dev. This dialogue of her always gives me Ishwari vibes. When Sona thinks that she is an independent woman who had every right to take her decisions(even though it should be their decision) then she also needs to accept that Dev holds the same right.

Dev is not any HERO and Sona is not any SAINT, So i was never surprised with their actions. As Dev said, Sona need to come out from her fairy tale land ASAP if she wants to handle this mad dixit clan. A person's basic characteristics wont change over night just by falling in love with someone.

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diyah_us

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Posted: 9 years ago

actually I have a slightly different take on this. yes I agree that sona need not

interfere in every matter of devs family. if she is asked to help then only she should

give suggestion, otherwise she should keep to herself. bcos she is still very new into

devs family and by now she should hav understood that her interference is not welcome.

also I don't think that sona needs to tell about sourabh to dev bcos in reality husband

& wife do not always share everything about their siblings with their spouses. and its ok.

as long as they are open to each other about their own issues, then there is no problems.

in fact in reality even years after marriage many husband & wife do not interfere in their spouses

siblings matters.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: fanktlk
Though many would argue the impact of Dixits V/s the impact of Boses on Devakshi.. but as a family, as a couple you share.
Sona didn't need anyone's permission that's where her individualistic identity comes into the picture.

Also she is trying to protect her Baba's pride. As if Dev finds out he would try to help... but still once she gave a cheque, even in the passing she could mention to Dev.

I know I would.

Agree with you . As a couple you do consult or share things with each other when something major happens .If she expects her husband to discuss with her about his sister's matter and take her opinion then she should do the same .

Dev is family and taking help from family at the time of crisis is not wrong .

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: JyotiBThakur
Questioning either Dev or Sona whether they consider each other a part of their respective families is not at all fair. Because they do.

True .Wish they realize this 😃

They can have arguments for sure. Every normal couple have fights... Why is there a need to over analyse each and every fight of them? If every husband and wife will start analyzing each and every fight and telling each other that this statement was wrong... This thing you said was wrong to hogaya fir toh.😆🤣

I am not analyzing their everyday nok jhok but Neha's matter seems to be serious one .Like i said in beginning of my post i am looking forward to tomorrow's episode but at the same time can we ignore the fact that she did hide such important thing from him .

And for why Sona didn't share Saurabh's problem with Dev. Because Dev is already very tensed about Neha's matter. It was the same day she came to know about it when Dev was extremely restless and was continuously calling Ranveer to talk and after that not even a single day in Dixit house was normal. Actually Dixit house me kabhi bhi koi din normal waise bhi nahi hota.😆😉

Lol...😆😆..It should be named to Drama Dixit Nivas ...Neha's matter doesn't get resolved in a single day .It will take its time but she did have good opportunity to share when they were on coffee date or later in the night .

In this regard i like Dev's attitude .He is tensed about Neha's issue but he doesn't stop himself from spending quality time with his wife .He doesn't neglect his wife for his sister .Even today we saw he never hesitated to admit in front of his family that he is missing his wife .

On the othet hand Sona has made Neha's issue as her priority .Her own marriage and her family has taken a back seat .

And about Dev sharing about Neha. Neha came back to Dixit house infront of Sona and it was not Dev who told Sona about Neha's problem.

She was not there when Ranveer came home but he did not hesitate to share the details about divorce .Eventually she would know as she stays there but can we ignore the fact that he shared everything

For me Both Dev and Sona are correct at their place. But our POVs may definitely differ.😊

BTW, I am team DevAkshi...!!!😆

Lol 😆 ..when did this team thing came up ......i did support her few days back when Neha lashed out at her ...😳

Thanks for sharing your POV dear.😊

My pleasure :)...glad to see your response .😃

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