Okay, let's talk about Sona and Neha. Sona's parents arrives at her home hearing that Ishwari is sick. But when Asha offers to help Sona to pack, she informs that they are not going to honeymoon.
Bijoy asks why?
Sona informs that Ishwari is sick.
Bijoy says that there are other people to take care of her. Fair point. She is not at death's door. Just her BP is low.
Now I suppose Sona could say that Ishwari made a drama again and Dev again sidetracked my dreams. But she saved her husband. So she responded that Neha and Ranveer are having problems, so they can't go now.
Bijoy answers, Neha is important, but so is her life.
Sona says that what kind of enjoyment will it be if Dev doesn't have fun and it's his decision and she supports him.
All true. All fair points. All excuses given by Ishwari and Dev for breaking her hopes and dreams.
Did she say it sarcastically? Did she sneer or sigh or blame Neha in any way whatsoever? No.
Did she announce it in public place at the top of her lungs with accusations? Again, no.
She spoke to her parents, HER FAMILY, HER WELL-WISHER in private knowing full well that they will never speak about this to anyone. Sona didn't call her parents and gossip. They were there and saw everything with their own eyes.
Also, who else would she talk to? Who asked Sona how she was feeling to see her dreams getting crushed again? No one. That's who. Then who else will she talk about it if not her parents who is at least asking HER about HER HAPPINESS?
Bijoy tried to give his daughter options to solve the problem, then let her take her own decisions when she made it clear that it was her wish. Just as he has always done.
Next, let's bring Neha.
She overheard a private conversation between her sister-in-law and her parents. If she thought that it's unfair and she never wants to be cause for her brother and sister-in-law not going on their honeymoon, she could go to Sona and say that she never wants to be the cause for her not going on her honeymoon. So she really wishes her and Dev to go.
But what did she do? She proved that she is indeed Ishwari's blood. She made a scene of leaving while calling Dev and Sona. When she gathered everyone, she claimed that Sona said behind her back that she didn't go to her honeymoon because of Neha. Her hope, Sona gets another sets of insult for daring to open her mouth in front of her parents when she should have silently bear everything. Her expectations are not much different from the society because that's exactly what everyone expects from a daughter-in-law.
Sona clearly said that it was Dev's decision and to defend Dev's totally uncaring attitude to her hopes and dreams, she explained the reason behind it.
Now may I ask what would have been the right response to the question Bijoy asked?
1. Same old same old, mother-in-law's manipulation.
2. Same old same old, my husband's don't-give-a-damn attitude towards my hopes and dreams and his tendency to force his decision on me.
3. My husband decided not to go because a. Mother-in-law is sick with low BP and b. Neha and Ranveer are having issues.
Which response sounds better for the crap situation she was in?
But if Neha expects to stay in her brother's home for foreseeable future when she is married, how long can she hide the fact?
Neha wants to be left alone, but also expects special treatment. It doesn't work that way.
If she wanted to be left alone, she could have sorted it out with Dev and Sona so that everyone behaves normal and they leave for honeymoon. Then she will be literally left alone.
She got offended when Sona said they are not going on honeymoon because she and Ranveer is having problems. But not offended that because of her they cancelled their trip?
That means she wanted what Ishwari wants, she will mope around while everyone will stop living their life and stare at her face. But no one can know about it even though everyone is seeing a married woman staying at her brother's home.
That's not happening.
Again, was Sona wrong in mentioning Neha's problem? Yes. But if she didn't have to pay for it, then she won't have mentioned it just like she didn't until today and only when her parents got a glimpse of her life in Dixit house.
Originally posted by: dlavanya
Forget Dev... I am just talking about Sona- Neha here.
Cancellation of HM for valid reason shoud not have caused enough trauma for sona to lose her senses.
Sona has no right to discuss Nehas problem with anyone outside that house... period.. if she wants to discuss then she should ask Neha if it OK.
we talk about what is right and what is wrong... so lets apply that to all characters .. why exclude Sona...
What she did was wrong.. and tomorrow if Neha describes to everyone what exactly happened - what sona said and what sona's parents response was ... Who needs to be blamed ?
Sona is the one at fault... directly or indirectly she said the Neha and her problems are the reason for cancelling their HM...
so if Neha questions her tomorrow... I want Sona to answer and Dev to support that what she heard is not what Sona meant. Nonetheless Sona wronged so she needs to explain herself in this situation instead of Dev coming and defending Sona...Dev should just confirm.. thats all once sona explains that she didnt mean it that way.
In this situation Neha is not at fault at all... she has her own troubles and never said donot go on HM to dev or sona... it is Ishwari who created this problem.. So lets not blame Neha for what ever she does tomorrow... she is my favorite after Sona.
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