Originally posted by: tia.o
Thanks for all your responses.
Here's my take on this. Some people consider going to honeymoon is a trivial thing. May be it is for some people. But honeymoon concept didn't came into existence so that husband and wife can go somewhere and have sex. They can do it in their room as well.
It's also exploring a new place with each other, making memories, remembering a time when they were newly married and still there were new things to discover about each other, being silly, being sickly romantic and just being themselves uninterrupted by any family member or responsibilities or demand from work or home.
That is the charm of honeymoon. Call it any name, go as backpacker or a luxury trip in resort, it's still memories to cherish for a lifetime.
I didn't go on a honeymoon either. My husband and I went on a six months trip across India instead. We explored, struggled with the crowd/noise/pollution, saw incredible sights, got into trouble/shady situations, but we also made memories that we will forever cherish and understood each other way better than we could have at the cushy comfort of our own home... My husband came to know the part of me which will be forever enriched with the legacy of my culture and made me who I am and I came to know my husband's ability to handle difficult situation without knowing a single word in a foreign language.
And we have a lot of "Remember When" stories to tell, where we were just us and only we know what happened in the story. It was just our time.
I am not saying everyone loves to explore or go to far away land to make memories. May be, going on a trip is not as significant for some than others. But if it is significant for someone, if that is their dream, they deserve to go on a trip or honeymoon.
No one deserves to get their dreams taken away from them because they tried to do something nice and then no one remembered to fulfil their dreams. No one stopped to ask, "Remember darling you wanted to go somewhere on our honeymoon? Well pack your bags. We are going next week."
And nothing is sadder than being resigned to having their dreams broken.
So many people are feeling sad for Neha that she could not study even though she wanted to. Why didn't anyone say, "Honey, now we have money. Why don't you study online or in correspondence?"
You know why? People who give up on their own dreams, sometimes due to circumstances, sometimes for others, only they can revive it. No one else gives a damn about someone else's broken dreams.
