Originally posted by: Aazeen02
Your post is much better than the pathetic attempts at Sarcasm by many.
If there can be a valid reason to bash a character, it is absolutely fine. We can bear it.
But when I know the correct bashings are coming from the wrong grounds(Again, that pseudo sense of being the biggest feminists on Earth), it totally loses sense.
I understand, Dev could have shown more sensitivity towards his newly wedded wife (I felt more because just before the episode aired, I had been watching the previous scenes after the patch up, before marriage. The way Dev and Ishwari were taking everything thrown their way, only for the fact that they can't wait for Sonakshi to marry Dev. They looked very promising in those scenes.) yet, I still am able to forgive Dev for being so rude, for one plain simple fact - They truly love each other. And until that love is there, it gives you a lot of courage and strength to keep going no matter what.
When I teach Accountancy to my commerce school going students, when the particular chapter of Depreciation comes, I realize giving them cheesy examples make them more attentive and actually came across this analogy that I explained them as well that :
Love and close relationships are like an Asset,
They benefit you in a long run, and you take care of them in return.
But with lapse of time, negligence, wear and tear because life is running at a mile per second, us not able to take proper care for them; the asset's value starts diminishing. They perform lesser, they benefit you lesser, your life starts getting slower because of that, you begin enduring losses. And if things keep on going this way, one day the asset's value will be completely diminished, they will have no scrap value and they will need to be replaced.
What derivation I came from this analogy was:
You don't always get opportunities to replace the "asset" after they are completely diminished. Sometimes they are just once in a lifetime investment, after which, you yourself aren't in any position to replace them. You either keep on dragging with that asset until you die or you just shut down your business coz you can't afford to get a new one.
These assets of love can be your lover and you, your mother and you, your sibling and you, your friends and you. And unfortunately, real life love assets don't many a times come with a "replacement policy".
All you can do is realize it's worth, try not losing its value at a very high rate, service it ---pamper it to be smoothly moving with the tonics of your own love, let it not look diminished to an assessor's eyes.
Try giving love in return to your love, thank them for keep on moving so smoothly along with our life, and being there for them.
We will realize that, that lifetime investment of love stays put by you all throughout your life, even when you forget to pamper them, and even when you neglect to be thankful for their omnipresent stay put nature, because they know if not today, tomorrow you will come and lubricate the engine of the asset by your love and care.
And the business of producing and spreading love around continues.
Here ends my gyaan and let's talk about Devakshi in this context now..
Though I don't think I need to explain much after this analogy in Devakshi's context, except for the fact that explains why Sonakshi still seems to be a "doormat" to her extremely obhodro husband.
Because love has the unique property of shapeshifting: It can be your punching bag when you are the most frustrated, it can even endure being your doormat with you walking on when you are your insensitive best, it can sit on your head as a a crown when you respect them, it can be your eyes when you can't see the fact, they can be your senses when you have lost yours, they can be the anger that will lash out at you when you refuse to acknowledge, and it can be your soulmate who will eventually, quietly and rightfully come in your embrace, as your equal, your partner, your love. ONLY BECAUSE, you time and again keep on adding love to the working of your love.
What ever Dev has been doing for the past three days doesn't vanish the fact that he madly loves her. And no matter how sensitive he turns to be, he loves her more than himself, otherwise he did not even need to hide that report from her, nor would he have needed to rush home like a mad, leaving all his ego aside, in a ditch attempt to save her from seeing that report.
So thank you di, your post again was a respite to me, and it brought all the angst out of me, to the people out there, for being so judgemental about those two characters for whom they watch this ruddy show and still never appreciate...
PS: Sorry for the rant. I am angry on some people out on the forum for making the environment filthy with the forced negativity, imbibing more negativity than the show intends to show, and they in return filling this lovely place with negativity at a triple rate. I have already ceased to visit the forum as less as possible for the same reason. It's for you and a few positive people out here whom I come to read and feel a little better.
Thank you for holding on to that positivity no matter what... 🤗
Anupamaa
