Is Dev really that Wrong ? or Should Sona change her approach ? - Page 6

Originally posted by: jlch

Whatever Dev did today is wrong either his decision or shouting on Sona. Dev is lost in emotional blackmail by his mom which has been happening for 28 years. Sona needs to bring him out of this silly melodrama. Company ke employees kaam chod dhenge vicky ke rude behaviour se. Thad patha chelaga Dev babu aur Mathaji ko. Yeh prenuptial agreement ka bhi kuch use nahi hai kyu ki thabthak pura business dhoob jayaga thanks to Vicky.

Originally posted by: xxZaaraxx

In this matter i think everyone is valid in its own way. But from my point of view why should Sona not give Dev advice?? She is his wife and she has every right to advice him. Also if both of them are taking dissisions they should be free with each other to advice. Every step they take in life they should console each other and support each other. And if one of the two is being wrong, its ok for the other to correct.

I can understand Sona that Dev changed his advice without even talking about it with Sona. And on top of all ishwari is keep repeating ke neyi rishte aane se purane wala rishto ko mat bhuladena. This is givi g sonakshi more the feeling of an outsider.

I can understand that Dev is being tortured by his mother with ehsaan and all that, and also he has to hear Sona's complaints against him. So at some point i can understand his outburst. But at the same time i think Sona did not deserved it at all. She only came to support him. And he yelled at her right away. He did not talked normal to her. I agree that she should have left him and should have give him his space. So he could think all over. But she did not deserve this.

Also everyone is saying why is she trying to be perfect bahu. Well i can totally understand her. She wants her MIL to be pleased with her. She wants to fitt in to her new family. And there for is trying to become one of them by putting way to much effort in it en excepting to much of the taunts. Can talk out of own experience that if you are newly wed you think this way, and want to please everyone. With time i think she will learn to let them be and go back to being the independent, hardworking and bold Sona we knew from the first couple of episodes.At least i hope to see this.

This is only my point of view and respect everyone's view.

Originally posted by: xxZaaraxx

Totally agree with this! Dev should atleast think of the fact that vicky can never life up to his post of manager. Also why is Riya not opening her mounth! So ishwari is ok with Riya doing chaprasi ka post, but vicky should get manager post right away! Is riya not Devs sister??

And i can totally understand sona being upset with dev changing his decisdion.

Originally posted by: dlavanya

There you go .. I coulndt have said it better... DEv needed that Sona he had after Neha's Bidai... instead he got a new copy of ishwari.

I just want him to stop listening to both ladies and take his own decisions ... and dont cahnge the descision for anybody...if your mother wants to utaro ehsaan ... then donate huge sum to Vicky and ask him to setup his own business, build a house for your mamaji... instead of appointing a useless fellow in your office at a high position.

Dont know but i like each and every episode of this show ... it is too true to be a show.

Originally posted by: dlavanya

I understand your POV. but I only wanted Sona being the normal and sensible girl to help his Complex and complicated Husband. She always knew the complexities.. we know that Dev takes a lot of things by face value and will only do things with good intentions. But, Sona knows how GKB and vicky are.. what Ishwari and ehsaan lecture is capable of... She knows that Dev has only Given and given all his life..She accepted all this and married him.. She said she will not approve all his decisions but will always support him. Today he was in crisis... His mother put so much pressure of expectations setting aside logic... She was ok even if Vicky fails and cant help Dev anyways... but if it means that they get an oppurtunity to pay back to mamamji's ehsaan... So I am sure Dev replayed all the help mamaji did ever since his dad died... it is like he is in a state where he is reliving all that past in that moment... He is thinking how he can set this right and pay back for all that Mamaji has done.. Honestly i dont even think he was thikning anything along the lines of - Sona misguiding him or anything.. He knows sona was right and logical.
But Logic doesnt hold any place in Ishwari Nivas...

Anyways under this situation when he is re-living his awful past, Sona walks in and tell him he is right and she is with him and she will support him... SO basically for him she is trying to steer him in the other direction that he doesnt even want to think about... SO he told her to stop and give him some space.. We all do this .. this is human nature when we hear somethign distracting our ideas.. But Sona did not listen... All i can hear is he pleading to him space and Sona kept on coming at him... with all the logic and all... all i am saying is her intentions might be right but that was not the time to uderstand his feeling about his past... that should be for another time..

Dev is not a regular person... He is someone with a very heavy baggage... Sona should have never married him.. But she did... now this is part and parcel of the deal.. He is complicated and he his family is full of phsycos.

Lastly, they just got married and they are still in the process of making the rules of marriage and what is ok and what is not.. how to communicate etc... So it is too early to expect both of them to behave like someone who has been married for a while. couple learns from their mistakes, it takes time to perfect a relationship. I see a lot of growth in Dev but yet to see Sona's growth. I actually expected her also to say sorry in the car when Dev was trying to say sorry to her after he picked up from Bose house... but she didnt..

coming to Vicky as Project head --- what ever is going to happen... he is very much going to sell his brother and his company to competitors to pocket money... Let it happen and that is the only way for Dixit family to realize that Dev and Sona were right... some people dont deserve certain positions just because they are born into that family.

Lastly Ishwari is not going to change anytime soon... my only hope is from Sona to grow some sense and understand that all is not well in the dixit mansion and come up with strategies to minimize damage with out getting herself into trouble...

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Sorry lavanya, but this time I have to differ with you. I think it is not about Sona here. It is more about priorities and sensibilities! This completely over the top drama seen today, resulting in Dev screaming at his wife is just not acceptable behavior by a husband. It only shows that Dev has not understood one crucial aspect of the mystery of marriage and marrying a girl like

First, marriage is a mystical union where two become one. Sons had been drilling this into Dev's head ever since marriage. Secondly, it is about respect. In marriage, when two become one, they are like one body, mind and spirit. One cannot disrespect ones own body and Sona is part of Dev and vice versa! You cannot disrespect your wife, for anyone, especially when she seeks your own good. Thirdly, it is a woman who leaves her home and comes into a new environment, sacrificing her family, her comfort zone, just about everything to be joined to another. How much more should the man be sensitive to the feelings of his wife, in this case Sona? Fourthly, if Dev really knows that Sona does not care about anyone, except for what is good for him and his real family, he will not, even for a moment doubt her intentions! Fifthly, in a marriage, there is no selective communications. it is based on open, transparent and truthful communications. Shutting off is not going to help!

Then the most important point. If Dev really wants to live for 'others' then he should not have got married in the first place. He cannot have it both ways to be a smooth ride. In Sona he has actually got the support system to make it easy one way atleast but is making it hard on himself. In the process he is making it very hard for Sona too. She has time and again told him that all she needs is his support, nothing else! He promises to but does just the opposite.

Then there is sensibilities! Vicky as project head! WTH! The guy was shown to be struggling to lear his studies. Then Vicky mid-behaved with so many people, including Tina! If Ishwari is shown emotionally blackmailing Dev, then why the hell is Tina not shown talking to Dev about Vicky? Absolute nonsense!

Then the less said about Ishwari the better!

Originally posted by: yyy

Playing women card everytime will not justify her incorrect decisions .

Sonakshi has some unrealsitic expectation from Dev ...Sonakshi wants to be part of decision related to his business and she is offended that he went against her but she thought she could take the decision of not having intimacy for 9days without consulting her husband .She was the one who said being a independent women she has every right to do what she thinks is right .why different rules for the husband .

Coming to the punching bag comment ,she did the same to Dev on their wedding night and when asked for some lone time Dev respected her wishes .He did not have to apologize during fasting fiasco yet he kept his ego aside and apologized. Like I said before , there is a time for everything but unfortunately Sonakshi has joined Dixit gang and wants Dev to consult her for everything .