Is Dev really that Wrong ? or Should Sona change her approach ? - Page 7

Great post... I think at this point, all they need is a bit of peace, they just got married and so much to deal with!

Sona did give the advice .. But it's better if Dev handles his family.. Knowing Ishwari, Sona should just back off.. Let Ishwari learn the hard way...

Right now my heart goes out to the newly weds ...

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Sorry lavanya, but this time I have to differ with you. I think it is not about Sona here. It is more about priorities and sensibilities! This completely over the top drama seen today, resulting in Dev screaming at his wife is just not acceptable behavior by a husband. It only shows that Dev has not understood one crucial aspect of the mystery of marriage and marrying a girl like

First, marriage is a mystical union where two become one. Sons had been drilling this into Dev's head ever since marriage. Secondly, it is about respect. In marriage, when two become one, they are like one body, mind and spirit. One cannot disrespect ones own body and Sona is part of Dev and vice versa! You cannot disrespect your wife, for anyone, especially when she seeks your own good. Thirdly, it is a woman who leaves her home and comes into a new environment, sacrificing her family, her comfort zone, just about everything to be joined to another. How much more should the man be sensitive to the feelings of his wife, in this case Sona? Fourthly, if Dev really knows that Sona does not care about anyone, except for what is good for him and his real family, he will not, even for a moment doubt her intentions! Fifthly, in a marriage, there is no selective communications. it is based on open, transparent and truthful communications. Shutting off is not going to help!

Then the most important point. If Dev really wants to live for 'others' then he should not have got married in the first place. He cannot have it both ways to be a smooth ride. In Sona he has actually got the support system to make it easy one way atleast but is making it hard on himself. In the process he is making it very hard for Sona too. She has time and again told him that all she needs is his support, nothing else! He promises to but does just the opposite.

Then there is sensibilities! Vicky as project head! WTH! The guy was shown to be struggling to lear his studies. Then Vicky mid-behaved with so many people, including Tina! If Ishwari is shown emotionally blackmailing Dev, then why the hell is Tina not shown talking to Dev about Vicky? Absolute nonsense!

Then the less said about Ishwari the better!

Originally posted by: dlavanya

I wonder where her wonderful conscience is🤔 when she literally is pressure cooking Dev for all these years...

All ishwari cares about is recruiting more devotees for herself... I tell you .. nothing else... she constantly needs her daily dose of " Jijii tum ye ho tum woh ho " " maa tu bhagwaan ho"... " Ishwari Dev tujhe poojta hai " etc ...
She doesnt really care about anyone... Her motto is life is all "I, ME, MYSELF"

LOL, I don't think she literally is trying to hire devotees, though in the end it does conclude to the same. But she definitely likes to be praised and the moment her wrong-doings gets pin pointed she gets defensive and starts repeating I am doing this all for my children. Seen it with Mamamji and Dev.

Good post.

Originally posted by: xxZaaraxx

In this matter i think everyone is valid in its own way. But from my point of view why should Sona not give Dev advice?? She is his wife and she has every right to advice him. Also if both of them are taking dissisions they should be free with each other to advice. Every step they take in life they should console each other and support each other. And if one of the two is being wrong, its ok for the other to correct.

I can understand Sona that Dev changed his advice without even talking about it with Sona. And on top of all ishwari is keep repeating ke neyi rishte aane se purane wala rishto ko mat bhuladena. This is givi g sonakshi more the feeling of an outsider.

I can understand that Dev is being tortured by his mother with ehsaan and all that, and also he has to hear Sona's complaints against him. So at some point i can understand his outburst. But at the same time i think Sona did not deserved it at all. She only came to support him. And he yelled at her right away. He did not talked normal to her. I agree that she should have left him and should have give him his space. So he could think all over. But she did not deserve this.

Also everyone is saying why is she trying to be perfect bahu. Well i can totally understand her. She wants her MIL to be pleased with her. She wants to fitt in to her new family. And there for is trying to become one of them by putting way to much effort in it en excepting to much of the taunts. Can talk out of own experience that if you are newly wed you think this way, and want to please everyone. With time i think she will learn to let them be and go back to being the independent, hardworking and bold Sona we knew from the first couple of episodes.At least i hope to see this.

This is only my point of view and respect everyone's view.

What Sona is doing with agreeing to everything Ishwari tells her to do directly or indirectly is to please her. Then how can Dev refuse his own mom and mamaji's love and support given to him and his family at their worst times. So what If sona is unable to refuse Ishwari because she is independent woman (high ego), but she wants Dev to refuse when things are to a point valid here. Dev is literally thinking only about what Mamaji has done for them. He isn't thinking about Vicky at all.
Sona did not deserve the yelling by Dev, but she brought that upon herself, like she does it with Ishwari by trying to get too much involved in things Ishwari is not comfortable with.

She should understand tht d current behaviour of dev is due to what ishwari has spiken to him...he may not show it on his face but deep down he understands his mother's taunts regarding him n sona...she repeatedly tells him d same thng tht he shd not frgt his old relations becoz of his new found relation. ...voz rem last timr during their breakup also dev had understood ishwari s plot but he didn't say anything to her directly but he did vent out his piled up anget on her on sona s engagement day...ths is dev for me who understands all of ishwari s games but dsn speak it out...only keeps it to himself n vents out d anger on d person whom he loves d most in yhs world...his sona...may it b the breakup time or today

Nw sona needs to do exactly what he wants her to do...give him space...try to understand his pov...make him realise that she's thr with him n supports him rather than shouting it out at him n trying to prove how he insulted her by overriding their decision. ...sona my dear u shd rem one thng when time will come tht all will b against u it'll b dev who'll b wid u n u need to ensure tht he always is wid u...so pls stop acting like ur phsycho mil n be a wife for once

I disagree with the fact that sona shud chnge her approach in handling dev or his family...why shud she..she is so natural in expressing her viwes frm the beginning...she is not all becoming ishwari...she is only saying dev not to anythng readymade to vicky as he has no experience...and wht is wrong in it...she knows what vicky is but dev dosen't ...as dev' s wife she has all the rights to safeguard her husband and all the matters related to him...ishwari can't say anythng to dev in this regards...

i know dev lashing out at sona seemed very wrong apparently...but we hv to see the situation...dev is not at all happy by appointing a callous and irresponsible guy in such a top position...he was emotionally manipulated by his mom...he is also hurt that ishwari has lost trust in him and thinks that he has forgotten past favors of his family...dev is frustrated that he has sacrificed all his life for his family but now his mom is testing his allegiance...and then mamaji comes and tells him y he hired vicky which again frustrated him because of course that is also wat he wants but he cant do...

after all such frustrations and helpless situation his wife comes and offers help and refuses to remain silent even after he repeatedly tells her he needs space to think by himself...the guy has made all his decisions alone all his life regarding his business and has always been successful...today he is being manipulated by his mom to take business decisions against his own wishes...he feels he is being robbed of his right to think by himself...upar se if his wife continuously says talk with me then any guy will react the way he did...
wen a person is already in a foul mood it is not wise to disturb him even if the intention is gud...the argument that they showed between #DevAkshi was so real...this is how couples argue in such tight situations...

so i am very happy that in spite of all trp pressure they r still maintaining the real feel of the show...