Originally posted by: rose4ever
So much love when he promises his constant support within the four walls of his room and fails to even notice his wife being insulted left,right and center by his family members. Hears about his wife being called kala saya and stays mum,hears his mother belittle her,stays silent,can be polite to a scum like Vicky but can't manage to calmly tell his wife that needs space and instead resorts to shouting when all the wife was doing was trying to support him.So good in making her feel right at home mere 4 days after marriage.
Sona's unilateral decision: Fast. Why? To adjust in his family.Do I support that? No. BUT
Dev's unilateral decision: Hiding her medical reports,breaking up with her.Hypocrite much?
And please do note how much more serious his unilateral decisions are.It's her right to know her medical info.
So basically the wife leaves her family for her husband who stands as a mute spectator whenever any member of his family insults his wife and she should calmly take his anger? So she isn't human?She doesn't have feelings? The person who is facing constant taunts,insults from every person in the house and only expects support and respect from husband should not even expect that because he is upset?What about her feelings?They don't matter?
Just because Sona is capable of standing up for herself doesn't mean Dev doesn't need to speak up for her.So if Sona is silent, it's ok for her to get insulted?Won't you expect Sona to speak for Dev if he is insulted by her family? Even he is capable of speaking himself,but its still expected of Sona,isn't it?
Oh and accepting and loving your wife if she has fertility issues is humanity. If a guy claims to love you,that;s what he would do, be it before or after marriage.Love makes it his duty,not marriage.Not doing so is inhuman and is equal to a person being a jerk..Same case with running after other girls.Calling a guy great because he is not as bad as some people can be is a strange criteria.Its like saying if there are mils out there who murder their dils,we should say Ishwari is great because hey,she is at least not doing that.
Respecting Sona's parents is normal.Just because some don't ,doesn't mean he is doing anything extra ordinary.That is what should be done.
Should Sona focus more on Dev than trying to become a good dil?Yes. She should.
Was she herself at fault when she decided to get married without resolving issues or without efforts on part of Dev? Yes, she was.But that doesn't mean Dev not supporting her is ok.
Dev should also focus on being a good husband not only inside bedroom but also outside it.
If he supported her 2 times times out of ten,it doesn't make his eight times right. Why expectations only from Sona? Why should only she be understanding?
Oh and sona has apologised innumerable times for no fault of hers.And Dev has blamed Sona for no fault of hers.Even if he apologises, he doesn't learn.
