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lavanya

@dlavanya

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

She need to understand.How much ever she try.Ish will not love her like Asha does.Sona need not change for any one.She should be the way she is.Keep Dev happy.Do her work.Stay away from Pooja N cooking.

You are absolutely right.. I feel Sona is a bit insecure as well. Dev left her once for his mother... so it is natural for her to try and be in Ishwari's good books. Unfortunately, Sona doesnt know that Ishwari likes sona a lot as individual and the real problem is that Ishwari is insecure and possessive about Dev.

So Sona is trying hard to impress Ishwari by following her and trying to be like her.. She can not totally ignore ishwari's likes and dislikes and completely ignore Ishwari as now that she is family...

I think once Sona knows about Ishwari's real problem, she will stop all this nonsense that she is doing to herself and Dev. I hope that happens soon...

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NATASHA

@natasha_n

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

#22

I dont think sona will go to work...for another few episodes...

Its just 3 days of shaadi till now..and she might be on atleast a week ki chutti

But i agree.

Sona changed completely after shaadi...this is not the sona i loved in initial episodes

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Vimal M

@VIMAL.SM

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: dlavanya

You are absolutely right.. I feel Sona is a bit insecure as well. Dev left her once for his mother... so it is natural for her to try and be in Ishwari's good books. Unfortunately, Sona doesnt know that Ishwari likes sona a lot as individual and the real problem is that Ishwari is insecure and possessive about Dev.

So Sona is trying hard to impress Ishwari by following her and trying to be like her.. She can not totally ignore ishwari's likes and dislikes and completely ignore Ishwari as now that she is family...

I think once Sona knows about Ishwari's real problem, she will stop all this nonsense that she is doing to herself and Dev. I hope that happens soon...

@Red - Valid point.I hope CV's make Dev sense it n he assure.He will not leave Sona at any cost.That can make Sona secure.She will not change herself for any one.Do things which she likes.

@Bold - I hope so.Sona senses it soon.It's Ish's insecurity n possessiveness for Dev.That she don't want any one to come in between.I hope Sona understand it soon.Will stop all the non-sense she is doing to win Ish's love.Address the main issue.Dev N Sona work on eradicating Ishwari's insecurity .

In family we give imp to others like n dislike.That is nothing wrong.But one should not loose his or her individuality to impress n win others.Be the way you r.

Edited by VIMAL.M - 8 years ago

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lavanya

@dlavanya

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

@Red - Valid point.I hope CV's make Dev sense it n he assure.He will not leave Sona at any cost.That can make Sona secure.She will not change herself for any one.Do things which she likes.

@Bold - I hope so.So senses it soon.It's Ish's insecurity n possessiveness for Dev.That she don't want any one to come in between.I hope Sona understand it soon.Will stop all the non-sense she is doing to win Ish's love.Address the main issue.Dev N Sona work on eradicating Ishwari's insecurity .

In family we give imp to others like n dislike.That is nothing wrong.But one should not loose his or her individuality to impress n win others.Be the way you r.

@BOLD - I will blame Sona and only Sona here... Ishwari always discouraged her to do any of these vrats or cooking or tulsi pooja... She should just take Ishwari's words by their face value and do things.. She should stop guessing what ishwari really wants and try to be that ideal person...in all that has happened today and ever since the wedding... i really cant blame Ishwari...Sona should be smart enough to understand what is important and how much she can bend and what is not acceptable...
Hope to see more sensible sona soon instead of the foolish one who is running after Ishwari and Ignoring Dev completely

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sjain

@sjain

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

#25

Sona jo kar rahi hai ..woh bohot normal hai you know..BOHOT ZYADA ..trust me
And in this process husbands ignore hotey hi hai ..coz initially you cant reply back much to your in laws and woh hi Sona bhi kar rahi hai..I have seen this around heard from my friends too

So my point of view is..Sona is doing what any new DIL do ..trying to be part of new family by getting involved in their routine life and their systems..so I understand why she is doing so

BUT the problem here is

1. Sona is unknowingly keeping her and his needs aside..which is UNFAIR..for both of them and Sona needs to be careful not to either ignore Dev or Ishwari Its very delicate time for a girl ..Also I so so agree they deserves every bit of privacy like what happened today..how Ishwari walked in to THEIR bedroom ..yes its not DEV's anymore its DEVAKSHI's bedroom now..so its a very personal space.. but She didnt realize it

2 Ishwari and family member's ..On one side how mamaji understood that newly married couple needs some alone time and made sure Sona take breakfast for Dev where as we know what Ishwari is up to .. interfere in every bit of their personal thing..where as usually its in laws who make sure that their kids get adequate time together and understand the needs ..so it has to happen from their side first because a new hubby wifey dont voice out their need in indian household LOL..but Ishwari toh door door tak ye baat nahi samjhti..

Small point ..about Sona not talking to parents ..I dont know why they haven't shown it much coz usually parents r quite worried that hows their daughter living in new life even they send siblings to see hows their daughter doing ( maine ye apni family mein dekha hai, thats why I am saying so ) and also pag fera rasam ..I am toh waiting for it ..let her go stay thier for 1-2 days and let Dev reach their and make him stay in that house ( I wish permanently)😆

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

#26

100% agree !! In this current Pooja Paath track honestly I cannot blame Ishwari at all. There are MILs who strongly believe in all these and force their DILs into these without asking them. And here we have Ishwari who has asked Sona to skip the Tulsi Puja or this vrat thing, irrespective of what she actually wants, when she asked it, the ball was in Sona's court and it was her dumb decision to accept it 😕Here I can see another Gopi Bahu in the making, I dont know how Sona from being an independent straight-forward educated professional, turned into this 24x7 serving foods to inlaws bahu 😕 Only relief is to see her catching sleep in between which brings me back to the realism of the show 😕 A nutritionist, who always discouraged everyone from having fast etc, is now willingly opting to keep fast ? A good solid 26 yrs of beliefs gone to dustbin after marriage ? And when you have a husband telling you that all these are not necessary etc, you're forcing yourself into this? In such cases most of the times hubbies don't even interfere and ask the newly wedded brides to deal with their mothers. Dev is being exceptionally fabulous ! 👏

Dev's shouting at Ishwari in the pre-cap is going to be a boomerang for Sona. Ishwari at least here didn't force Sona to agree for anything ! 😵 Sona's over-smartness is going to cause her problems ! She should rather stick to her own priorities and focus on her marriage. Ishwari's words that she can never be as good bahu as Ishwari is hurting Sona's ego. But it's time for her to rethink that was it really her solo aim of her life ? Winning the trophy of best bahu ? It's OK to accept that she cant be as good bahu as Ishwari since it was never her dream. It's ok to stand aside and let Ishwari control the kitchen and pooja's since it was never Sona's forte. But it is NOT ok to have Ishwari not willing to share the key of the cupboard or force Dev to appoint a scumbag in his office giving vaastaa of family. Sona should focus on working on rather these things and plan for the rescue of both Dev and herself from this over-controlling and dominating woman.

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Vimal M

@VIMAL.SM

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: dlavanya

@BOLD - I will blame Sona and only Sona here... Ishwari always discouraged her to do any of these vrats or cooking or tulsi pooja... She should just take Ishwari's words by their face value and do things.. She should stop guessing what ishwari really wants and try to be that ideal person...in all that has happened today and ever since the wedding... i really cant blame Ishwari...Sona should be smart enough to understand what is important and how much she can bend and what is not acceptable...
Hope to see more sensible sona soon instead of the foolish one who is running after Ishwari and Ignoring Dev completely

@Bold - Hoping the same.

Even I blame Sona only.Now Dev questioning Ish will backfire on Sona only.Sona need to do things which is expert at.Leave other things to Ish.Like cooking n doing pooja.Occasionally if she wants.She can cook for Dev.But she should not do things to prove Ish that she can be a ideal bahu.Sona did not study so much.That one day she ignore everything n work on becoming ideal bahu.

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randomramblings

@randomramblings

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Posted: 8 years ago

#28

i always maintained that dev is more mature as compared to sona. he may rever his mothet but he does know how to identify right and wrong. he never hesitates to speak.

for instance 1. prior to breakup he storms into ishwari's room after his phone convo

2. on knowing abt ishawri sending ritwicks rishta for sona he storms in again

3. on the engagement night eve in his worst wasted state also he auestions ishawri abt her games

4. during pre nup too he questions her

today again he is going to question her.

on the other hand we have this super over confident sona who lives in her own self bubble of i will always do right things. prior to breakup also she acted as a doormat. infact i feel she became a door mat right from the post accident phase. why does she have to try and mould into something that she is not??? having parents like asha and bijoy i expect a lot more maturity from her. why start a pretence that you very well know you cannot live all ur life with it

Edited by randomramblings - 8 years ago

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WeRockTheWorld

@WeRockTheWorld

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

#29

I completely agree with you ...give her sometime she will be back...because she cant hold on to this new way for long...a lot of women do this post their marriage...I have also done this..😛😉😆.doesnt work ...always back fires because the reality is , we cant please ppl who are rooted to the thought that we will not change !!Most of the task assigned by them to Sona is just to make her realise that she lacks skill and is not good enough for the house...

So give Sona time , she will slowly realise the tricks of the trade and then she will bounce back. While she is the learning phase she is going to get hurt , there will be times when Dev might not support her...there will be days when she goes to sleep crying ...but eventually she will learn to survive !!

The day she learns to survive , god bless Ishwari and Dev !! 🤣

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randommusings

@randommusings

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Common guys...it has only been 3 days after marriage. No harm in trying to be part of the family or to follow few cystoms of husband's house. And the truth is, even if people do not want to admit, everyone makes adjustment after marriage. And not just marriage, everyone makes adjustments for their loved ones. Dev agreed for non-veg to please Sona's family. N now Sona willingly following the rituals to please Dev's family even if she never believed in fasting and all. Just bcoz Sona wants to try out these rituals, doesn't mean she is no longer a strong independent girl.

This is the same Sona who started looking for recipes when in one of the initial episodes, Ish had given holiday to Kichu n Ish started cooking herself n Sona felt bad abt it, so she wanted to give cooking a try.

If Sona doesn't even try to be part of the family, how wud she get to know abt Ish's insecurities. After marriage, you live with the whole family whether you like it or not. Sona can't stay in room all the time n interact with Dev alone.

In some time Sona wud find out about Ish's deceit and manipulations and then Sona wud realise however hard she tries, Ish wud nvr accept her. But its early for Sona to get alarmed abt Ish's behavior.

My MIL expects me or my husband to pray everyday or atleast light diya everyday. I nvr follow it but whenever she comes n stays with us, we do try to do some prayer everyday just to give some assurance to my MIL. I know its only a show but it keeps my MIL happy so no complaints. Everyone tries to keep their loved ones happy by making some adjustments.

So bottomline give some time to Sona, we as audience know how Ish's mind work but not Sona n Dev.

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