CV Team I fail to understand ur definition of realism - Page 4

Originally posted by: Krpkab_meg

I am wondering why the makers called it a MODERN URBAN REALISTIC LOVE STORY. It has been anything but for the last 50 odd episodes.

My husband is a Muslim and I belong to a conservative and Orthodox South Indian Brahmin family. But never through the wedding or 6 years of married life have we experienced this kind of animosity or hatred from each others families. Oh and it wasn't like our families' were ready with their blessings when we came clean, but we persisted till all resistance crumbled.

And intercultural marriages are not such a novelty in the urban setup. People are accommodating and not so rigid in their beliefs about traditions. It is just absurd all the C**P CVs are feeding us in the name of reality.

Originally posted by: tia.o

Exactly. In a marriage, two people needs to work together. Not one person struggling while the other has a blinder on...

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font color="#003300" size="3">I completely agree.</font>

<font color="#003300" size="3">I am a Bengali Brahmin married to a Canadian. Mine was not only a inter-caste marriage but inter-cultural, inter-religion marriage. I have never seen people with less consideration or less sensitivity.</font>

<font color="#003300" size="3">Today I watched Ishwari silent as they insulted Sona while she was extremely vocal when Sona questioned her husband, Dev.</font>

<font color="#003300" size="3">Dev could not see or hear his wife's insult when his mother was moaning and groaning yet never wondered where she got the strength to respond back to his wife with so much attitude.</font>

<font color="#003300" size="3">Someone said against my complaint in my post that Dev could not defend Sona at the wedding because no groom ever speaks at his wedding. Today was not the wedding. Here his wife got insulted under his roof for asking a valid question. Where was his voice now?</font>

<font color="#003300" size="3">This is what I was talking about when I said that Sona should not have given in so soon.</font>

Originally posted by: sidsk

Unfortunately, what they are showing right now DOES happen.

And I am saying it with such confidence because it happened with me. And then its not like I was married into some illiterate family.

An educated family who have a flourishing business. All broad minded and easy going individuals from the outside but from the inside - worse than Ishwari, Dadi Bua and GKB combined.

I had no support absolutely no support from my ex-husband. In fact, he used to find a way to justify every stupid his family used to say to me.

And the sad part is the girls in our country - even from literate backgrounds- are told to suck up this nonsense and not utter a word in their defense.

Thankfully , my family wasnt like that...After tolerating a lot of nonsense, I stood up for myself - and they couldnt digest the fact their daughter- in- law had a voice of her own.

I am single mother now but in a much more happier state that I was when I was married.

I was lucky to have a supportive family who only wanted my peace and happiness. But there are many girls out there- again from literate families too- who wont get this kind of support from their families.

So the CVs arent showing anything unreal but, yes, the major blunder they are committing is with Dev's character. The guy needs to speak up soon before Sona loses her trust in him.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I am glad and happy your parents supported you . I think for any women, her husband's silence is the worst that you can face and that too at his house...I felt very bad yesterday...and am not going to watch today untill this forum has some good reviews abt the episode...

You are a strong women, hats off to you to choose a path that is good for you and your child and above all your parents support is a blessing in disguise ...take care dear !

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

This show was never like this ...now its turned out to be just like any unrealistic sas bahu show...I am proud to say, the part of India that I come from dont get to see these kinds of dramas in our houses..especially belittling your own daughter in law in front of outsiders. And men are not mute spectators when they see their family member humiliating their wife. They will give it back then and there itself...they wont care who it is. ( Again for that the credit goes to the mothers to bring up their son's with such strong ideologies in life ) They will see to that their wife is respected by every one no matter what. And they dont take their wife to places or houses or their relatives where she is not accepted!!

Mom in law might be possessive about their sons but in most cases they will not tolerate their daughter in law getting humiliated by others...because every intelligent lady knows humiliating your daughter in laws is no different from humiliating her son and his entire family!!

CVs have bought Ishwari and Dev to such a low level ...I am not sure how they are going to redeem these characters

Originally posted by: fanktlk

@bold Wish... But this was my biggest complaint to my MIL... she let the other treat me badly and each time she didn't say a word she validated their behaviour.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

😭😲 not sure what to say dear...now when I read each of your review I feel there is so much of disparity in the way women are treated in the same country ...

I didnt specify the state or the zone I belong to for a reason that this thread shouldnt lead to in fights saying one part of our country is better than the other...personally I dont think it that way . I have friends from most part of this country speaking different languages and following diffierent religious paths...touch wood !! none of them have narrated this kind of behaviour from their in laws...so I guess... probably I was in a bubble...cuckoo land !!

Originally posted by: fanktlk

Funnily mine wasn't an intercast marriage... Different mother tongues but same castes at the end of the day but a love marriage arranged by the elders of the family..

But the fact my husband chose his own partner was enough to ammunition.

Only saving grace my husband stood by me like a rock... The insults humiliations didn't stop after the initial years of marriage. I am still not welcome in certain sections of the "family"