Vegetarian people have no problem walking into a supermarket where they sell non-vegetarian stuff along with God's idol. They also have absolutely no problem living or working abroad where in every office party beef is served along with other many non-vegetarian items. So the fact that they try to force their personal choices on others only in India, are hypocrisy.
If they had no choice, they won't have any problems either. It's called co-existing together.
Here's an example. My cousin who is a non-vegetarian bong married into a vegetarian Marwari family. Her mother-in-law came to my wedding which was obviously non-vegetarian and had food at the vegetarian table with the other people in my family who were vegetarian or eat vegetarian food a day by choice. Why? Because my cousin's mother-in-law loves me. I am not her daughter or even a blood relation. She could skip my wedding altogether or create a major fuss. But she didn't.
This is how you make alliance with another culture. If Nikki decides to marry into a punjabi non-vegetarian family, will Ishwari throw a tantrum for vegetarian food? Or would she shut up her mouth because she is ladkiwale?
Again, gotta stop the discrimination between ladkewale and ladkiwale.
The unfairness would be if Bose family refuses to serve vegetarian food altogether like they are refusing to serve non-vegetarian food. No one is stuffing chicken tandoori in a vegetarian person's mouth as long as they don't try to stuff their food in non-vegetarian people's mouth.
Reasonable accommodation means having a choice which this family doesn't want to give to Bose family.
Speaking of choice, when she took Dev's sign without his consent it would be wrong to say that she doesn't know what she did. Otherwise she won't have hidden her deeds from even her brother.
I said it before and I will say it again. The only people who hide their deeds, know what they did was wrong. The people who think they are right, whether they are right or not, don't hide behind deceit.
I didn't say being Vegan is hypocritical. I said that being Vegan or Vegetarian while looking down on other cultures are hypocritical. There's a difference.
First of all Vegan people won't feel offended by this post because they don't consume ANY animal by-products and that includes milk, cheese, silk, leather etc. So this doesn't apply to them.
And the only vegetarian people who will be offended who look down on non-vegetarian people while consuming silk and leather. I don't think people who look down on others, deserves any consideration.
If Sona looked down on Dev and told him that he eats only ghas phoos and ask stupid questions like "Where do you get your protein?", that would be offensive just as Dixit family pulling the Brahmin family card and making offensive remarks about Bose family.
If Ishwari wants to be vegetarian and wear silks and leather for the rest of her life, who gives a damn? But when she makes an issue of other people's lifestyle choice, that opens up her lifestyle choice for discussion.
Woh kehte hai naa, jinke khud ke ghar shishe ke ho, unko doosro ke ghar mein pathhar nehin maarni chahiye.
Also when it comes to sharing confidential medical report. How a baby is being conceived that's none of Ishwari's business. Even if Sona didn't have any medical problem, Dev won't have provided her his honeymoon details. If she wants grandchildren, she will get them. May be by surrogacy, but they will still be her grandchildren. Dev doesn't have any medical condition which might prevent him from being a father.
The only way it would be her business if Dev was unable to have children which will definitely dash her hopes of grandkids. These days these old fashioned thoughts that if a woman can't conceive, she can't be a mother so her in-laws should be kept up to date with her step by step medical history, have absolutely no place in modern society.
If Sona decides to share her medical history, that's her choice. No one else has this right.
Originally posted by: --Destiny--
I'm myself a bong and yes a non veggie. But I don't find her feeling so aghast at the matter of non veg food unnatural and hypocritical. Non veggies can go along with both veg and non veg but for veggies it isn't the same. Veggies genuinely have a lot of trouble when non veg food is served in the same area and even more when its near religious stuff. Its simply a belief and a practice and intimately revolves around ones life. My friend once shouted on me when I touched her books after having an egg. :P So her apologising to God for that isn't something new. Ishwari's conscience doesn't hit only while manipulating her son toh I don't expect her repenting to God about that . Humans are all in general hypocritical in some way or the other. The post here strongly criticises being a vegan in general as well at many lines with the silk and stuff as examples . Underlying that's calling whole vegan thing hypocritical. Thats not needed I feel. This whole veg and non veg issue is extremely common and happens in most inter cultural marraiges. And they handled it quite well I feel. About the medical issue. Yes its confidential. But family has the right to know it. Ishwari isn't an outsider. She will be her mother in law. Its not like Dev went and told RadhaRani. Its a big thing. This isn't back biting but awaring someone of a truth. People usually throw in a big ruckus of deceiving people from health related matters in marraiges. Its better to stay clean. If Dev had a health problem Sona's parents would have liked to be aware of the matter. I'm sure Sona wouldn't also like keeping people in the dark.
Edited by tia.o - 8 years ago
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