Easier Said Than Done - Page 4

Originally posted by: .Piyali.

I agree with you. Most people (me included) do not have the courage (I don't know if it's the right word) to go against their parents wishes. Although I would've like Dev to try o fight for his love at least but I get it to an extent. My problem however is that he doesn't stand up for Sona when his mother ill mouths her. I'm sorry for running the same thing over and over again but Ishwari's speech about Sona suppsedly crossing a line hit a nerve for me. Indirectly, she questioned Sona's character and it was pretty obvious. He didn't need to shout on her. Just a little bit of "nahi Ma, Sona aisi ladki nahi hai" would've been enough for me. I don't want be a hypocrite and ask him to defy his mother, when I never can but I wish he'd at least defend Sona in times like these.

Originally posted by: aaliah3108

am yet to hear the same words.. ... Spineless... Cry baby... Etc etc for a woman who has given up her love for her parents wishes... Just because she is unable to go against their wishes.. .. Its always always looked upon like... She did tyaag! She is the most worthy daughter...there must have been a Majboori.. . Why is it so disappointing that a weak male character cannot be shown... Can there not be weak men... Weak emotionally.. .. Weak in front of their parents... Submissive men... There cd be many husbands who r like under thr control of their wives or cater to their every whim and fancy... I wonder if this is considered as love for their wife or once again being spineless since the wife is driving him !

Originally posted by: Push-pull

👏👏 What a post dear.. 👏

Yes, being a parent is something everyone has to work on it with the intention to guide the next generation. And we would even learn to forgive the previous generation for their shortcomings too.. And not punish the younger ones in the name of what our generation had gone through.. 😉

Parenthood is not a power one gets to rule their children as a return gift of them being ruled by someone else.. 😆

"Being Dev" is not in my worry at all.."Being Sona" is my major concern.. 🤔 I feel more for this girl if she chooses her feelings over the realities of her life amidst this mom-son duo.. She's all on her own and shouldn't be portrayed as the bechaari in all this.. Hope they make her voice out if not Dev.. 😉

Originally posted by: aaliah3108

The whole issue of kids opposing parents or not opposing them for love is entirely Gender biased. The thing is it is expected out of boys to... BE THE MAN... kya kar raha hai yaar... . Be a man... boys Dont cry... . is what is expected of them to incorporate in their behavior. This is why Ishwari always says nothing can move my son... He is a mountain. The fact is society is biased... . If it is expected of girls to be sacrificial... it is also expected of boys to be forever strong and take or make decisions as that will make them THE MAN!! I am yet to hear the same words.. ... Spineless... Cry baby... Etc etc for a woman who has given up her love for her parents wishes... Just because she is unable to go against their wishes.. .. Its always always looked upon like... She did tyaag! She is the most worthy daughter...there must have been a Majboori.. . Why is it so disappointing that a weak male character cannot be shown... Can there not be weak men... Weak emotionally.. .. Weak in front of their parents... Submissive men... There cd be many husbands who r like under thr control of their wives or cater to their every whim and fancy... I wonder if this is considered as love for their wife or once again being spineless since the wife is driving him ! Why is the onus of always always being strong put on men... Thats because we expect it out of them...society expects it out of them. ... This is because we have also grown with the mind set that a man who is in capable of taking decisions or coming out as strong is not a man indeed... He is spineless!! We are not ready to watch the journey of a weak man growing out of his weakness in his life... Just not ready and I find it really sad.
I am quite eager to see how Dev will learn the Art of balance in his life. It is definitely easily said than done.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Thank you for telling us your side of story. I am sure your dad would have gone thru a lot of pain when he had to choose.

Earlier days love marriages were a big NO NO in India . But things are slowly changing. Parents are becoming a lot more relaxed and bringing in that sense of balance. Past is past ...we need to learn from them...we need to think if we really want to give that pain to our future generation . Asking them to choose one relationship for the other - is it required ??...There is nothing like getting married to a person whom you choose.

As Sona said DIL is not brought home to compete with MIL but to complete the family. So if your kids choose some one as life partner , then why go against ...because they are going to share their life together so let it be the one of their choice. 😊

Originally posted by: mayu1982

The whole point of telling this story is - Similarity in situation between Dev Character- struggle of life and their bonding.

How many of us has faced the same similiar situation before- ? How many of us - spent the entire night with empty stomach?

How many of us have to study under street light?

How many of us have to struggle for basic things in life?

Sitting in front of pc and giving gyan about life is more easy than actually experiencing it .( NO am not saying this to you only , am also including me in this part as well).


That is why I said - Never judge the situation you have never been in ..

As far as - marriage part is concerned - my fundas are very much clear in that- I will never ever pressurized them for anything. They are free to choose any partner from any religion , caste , country, anything. As long as they are happy I don't have any problem.

Originally posted by: mayu1982

The whole point of telling this story is - Similarity in situation between Dev Character- struggle of life and their bonding.

How many of us has faced the same similiar situation before- ? How many of us - spent the entire night with empty stomach?

How many of us have to study under street light?

How many of us have to struggle for basic things in life?

Sitting in front of pc and giving gyan about life is more easy than actually experiencing it .( NO am not saying this to you only , am also including me in this part as well).


That is why I said - Never judge the situation you have never been in ..

As far as - marriage part is concerned - my fundas are very much clear in that- I will never ever pressurized them for anything. They are free to choose any partner from any religion , caste , country, anything. As long as they are happy I don't have any problem.

Originally posted by: Pramila.harish

@werocktheworld. Very well said. Society is changing. Girls are more forward than boys. Boys really need to buck up. Being mother 2 boys.. I am worried now. I really have work towards my boys to make them independent. Usually men are dependent either wife or mother. Females were always independent and more courageous than men. Most Men are physically strong but mentally week.. I just hope my children become gentle man in their life who knows to balance relationship. .

Between just want to share something. if boys are in love with their wife does not mean they don't love their mother. Each one has their own place. Recently in my office one incident happened. .One of our collegue Who is nearing 40 collapsed due to some health issues. He and his wife stays in separate flat and they are very much in love. We always think these two made for each other. When he collapsed, in his sub conscious he was calling his mother and complaining about his pain.. I was amazed to see this because he was calling his mother than his wife.